Fear of Change - Recovered 444

Let’s begin by talking about fear in general, and let’s check what our listeners had to say

Question posed on our website at recoveredcast.com

When You Were New, What Did You Fear?

Your thoughts on the results

OK Guest 1, what about fear and the spiritual life, it there a connection? (p 52 of BB)

Let's read from the big book, page 52 for those keeping score at home

We were having trouble with personal relationships, we couldn't control our emotional natures, we were a prey to misery and depression, we couldn't make a living, we had a feeling of uselessness, we were full of fear, we were unhappy, we couldn't seem to be of real help to other people - was not a basic solution of these bedevilments more important than whether we should see newsreels of lunar flight? Of course it was.

When we saw others solve their problems by a simple reliance upon the Spirit of the Universe, we had to stop doubting the power of God. Our ideas did not work. But the God idea did.

Thoughts?

OK, Guest 2, let's talk about the relationship between fear and self-centeredness? (p. 62 of BB)

Let's read from page 62 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous.

Selfishness - self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.

So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so

Thoughts?

Guest 3, What about fear and the steps, any thoughts? (p. 67 BB) and solution (p. 68, 75, 84,145)

Ok, now let's talk specifically about the Fear of Change

We asked our listeners to help us prepare for this show, so we asked them about their fears.  This is what they told us

https://www.surveymonkey.com/analyze/?survey_id=44547981&OPT=NEW

Initial thoughts?

Ok Guest 1, what changes were you most fearful of when you first came in?

What do you think is the root cause of your fears early on?

Did it change?  How?  In what way?

What is it like now?

How is it different today?

Regarding fear, what steps, tools, slogans are most helpful for you early on and now?

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Fear of Unknown

Fear of Failure

Fear of Commitment