Almost all individuals will experience at least occasional feelings of anger. Such emotions may occur when people feel frustrated or mistreated in some way. The individual who is angry can become openly aggressive or they may exhibit behaviors of passive aggressiveness. Excessive anger can be dangerous because it leads to all types of physical, emotional, and social consequences. Anger can be highly destructive emotion for those who are in recovery from addiction as it can lead to relapse.
Other people’s anger affects us. If affects the way we think It affects the way we behave. Recovery can help heal these old wounds If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now.
Tonight, we talk about anger and the tools we use to cope.
What is first to mind on this topic, what is the one thing you would like to talk about as it relates to anger?
On page 66 of the big book, it reads: If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of normal men, but for alcoholics these things are poison. What does this quotes mean to you?
Anger is a feeling, it’s neither good or bad in itself. Why do you think we have the emotion of anger? What purpose does anger have?
How do you show anger? What makes you angry most often? Today, what are you angry at? How do you use program to deal with this dangerous emotion?
For you, when is the emotion of anger good? For you, when is anger bad?
Were you angry when you came into recovery? Have you been angry with AA? Have you been angry with a sponsee? Have you been angry with a group/club?
Do you use anger to avoid other uncomfortable feelings? Do you use anger to control people?
Now, as an adult, what part does anger play in your life? Do you use anger to control, trying to get others to do what you want?
Did you grow up with anger in your household? Were you ever been punished for being angry? How do you think suppressing anger affects you? Does your anger come out in other ways?
What is a healthy response to anger? What is an unhealthy response to anger?