How to Talk to Young Kids about Awkward Shit: The Puberty Podcast
Release Date: 06/14/2023
Permission To Stop Over-Scheduling Your Kids
Big Time Adulting
Caitlin Murray wants to know why we are frothing at the mouth to enroll our kids in every single extracurricular activity? When did over-scheduling our kids become the norm? Parents of the 80s and 90s were also busy shuttling kids from thing to thing but the activities they were engaged in were close to home, not very serious, and didn't interfere with downtime and play. With a cameo from economist Emily Oster, Caitlin explores the benefits of extracurriculars but also how overcommitment can lead to burnout and strain on the family. Caitlin shares her personal experience of getting sucked into...
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Having Kids Challenged My Meaning of Success with Emily Tisch Sussman
Big Time Adulting
Emily Tisch Sussman, former political strategist, mother of 3, and host of the podcast She Pivots, joins Caitlin to discuss how motherhood forced her to leave her high-powered career and carve out a new path. Emily reflects on her initial fear and doubt about motherhood, the pressure of family expectations, and the realization that her pre-kid version of success was quickly becoming unsustainable. Emily talks about the profound loss she felt in her article, and the visceral reaction she received from colleagues and woman from around the world. Check out Emily's dynamite...
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My Dirty Little Secret About Alone Time
Big Time Adulting
In this refreshing monologue, inspired by one of her most viral reels, Caitlin Murray shares her dirty little secret about what she really craves as a mom of three: alone time. Not just any alone time. It's alone time given to her by her husband. It doesn’t require childcare or coordination or the pressure to be productive. Her mind can be at ease knowing her children are cared for by a parent. And she doesn’t want him to have it easy. She wants him to immerse fully into the chaos and experience the full weight of juggling the shit show that's solo parenting. Caitlin goes on to...
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Why Are We So Obsessed With Our Kid's Feelings?
Big Time Adulting
How often do you inquire about your child's feelings and emotions during the day? In this episode, Caitlin delves deeper into one of her most recent viral reels: why we worry so much about our children's feelings and why we're always preoccupied with the idea that what we say or do might negatively impact them. This attentiveness is well intentioned. We want to shape our kids into confident, well-adjusted, and resilient adults. But it's frankly exhausting sometimes. Caitlin suggests that maybe we're overthinking things and reminds listeners that our kids could benefit from figuring out and...
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Parenting Alone: Letting Go of Control, Anger, and Self-Pity
Big Time Adulting
Our guest today is the iconic Cris Cavallari, owner of ICCON, a Philadelphia-based fashion studio and online boutique. Cris shares her story navigating motherhood for the second time, 16 years after giving birth to her first child when she was only 16-years-old. Cris expected the second time around to be much smoother because she was an adult and had a partner. But soon into her pregnancy she realized she was going to be alone in her journey. In this conversation, Cris discusses her co-parenting challenges, finding strength in hard times, and how cutting her son's long hair surprisiningly...
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The Power of Positivity: Dumpster Diving, Couch Hopping, and Making Peace With My Dysfunctional Family
Big Time Adulting
Our storyteller today is writer Mal Wrenn Corbin, a cherished friend of Caitlin Murray’s mom. Mal grew up in Worcester, MA a town riddled by poverty, addiction, and violence. Mal grew up in an unsafe home, witnessing domestic violence, alcholism, and drug abuse. Her childhood was tossed in and out of the foster care system and she found solace at school and in her friendships. After a youth marked by neglect and loss, she escaped Worcester and ultimately persevered. She went on to Dartmouth college and built a successful life for herself. But becoming a mother was a turning point that helped...
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Tale of a Late Bloomer and Other Teenage Embarrassments
Big Time Adulting
Caitlin Murray was a late bloomer and at fourteen she yearned to have big boobs. In this episode, Caitlin shares an embarrassing story from high school orientation aboard a sailboat when she accidentally exposed her little titties out of the side of her speedo bathing suit in front of her classmates. Caitlin reflects on how embarrassing moments from our youth leave imprints on us and how as we grow older embarrassment becomes somewhat inconsequential and maybe even funny. This is all to say that when our children experience the visceral doom and shame of embarrassment, instead of minimizing...
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Diamonds, Danger, and Denial: The Funny Thing About Minimizing Trauma
Big Time Adulting
Our storyteller today is one of our podcast listeners, Alex from Washington state! Alex shares the shocking and dramatic story of being held hostage by a customer while working at Tiffany's and Company. At the time, she minimized the event as a crazy and adventurous brush with danger. Soon after, she suffered from panic attacks and other mental health issues but never connected them to the hostage fiasco. A couple years later she was diagnosed with PTSD which popped the lid on having to confront other traumas from her past and why she was so susceptible to this event. Join us as Alex...
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The Story Behind Caitlin Murray's Big Time Adulting
Big Time Adulting
You may wonder why Caitlin so confidently makes fun of her kids, bemoans the trials and tribulations of nonstop parenting, dances her ass off in the kitchen like a lunatic, and rattles off pep talks to all the weary moms. Today, we’re re-releasing Caitlin’s first podcast episode from 2021 when no one really knew she had a podcast. You will giggle and shed tears as Caitlin describes the life-changing event that inspired her to start blogging, posting on Instagram, and podcasting. In December 2016, her 3-year-old son was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia which set her...
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The Gift of Blowing It: Rupture and Repair with Aliza Pressman
Big Time Adulting
Today we’re talking about identity, divorce, shame, imperfection and the gift of blowing it with psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman who is a mother of 2, a clinical and academic wiz, and host of the widely praised parenting podcast Raising Good Humans. In this conversation, Dr. Aliza Pressman discusses how the parenting advice industry has turned into gobbledygook and why she felt it important to write her book, ’The Five Principles of Parenting,’ which teaches parents a manageable framework for raising children: relationships, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair. Aliza reflects...
info_outlineToday we are joined by Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett who are the hosts of The Puberty Podcast, a riveting show that weaves together scientific research, parenting strategies, and hilarious stories to help guide adults who are raising kids through puberty. You might be surprised to learn that puberty begins for girls at 8 or 9 and for boys at 9 or 10! In this episode, we focus on body image and what to say and not say to our kids about their bodies. Caitlin seeks to understand how to set boundaries around clothing, nudity, and public displays of pleasure. We talk about pleasure, consent, social pressures, bodily changes, and how to navigate these awkward conversations. Buckle up, because we need to know how to stay cool, how to talk to our kids without pushing them away, and how to mentally prepare OURSELVES for this next phase of parenting.
Connect with Cara and Vanessa:
Pre-order their book: This is So Awkward
Shop their loungewear: @my.oomla
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