Your Life, Unlimited
This positive, pro-active podcast shares insights, ideas and inspiration for better living! Interviews with experts and coaching from the pros will help you be happier and healthier so you can bring your 'A' game to work & life.
info_outline Change Your Life 08/03/2017
Change Your Life Everyone has them, those pivotal moments in your life that change everything. Many times those moments are associated with people and in my life Benita Stafford-Smith was that person. A stranger that I trusted, lead me into a world I could never, ever have imagined having. On this week's Your Life, Unlimited radio show on CJOB, I got to spend some time talking to my mentor as she stopped in for a visit from her home in Oman, United Arab Emirates. This top coach walks the talk and lives her life unlimited! If I have helped anyone in my coaching and speaking career, it is because of this woman. Enjoy being a fly on the wall for the inside scoop...
info_outline If Your Life Sucks it's Your Fault 07/17/2017
If Your Life Sucks it's Your Fault Enter Michelle Cederburg, the woman who puts the charge in recharge! Not only is this chick fun and fit - she's the author of (among other titles) If Your Life Sucks it's Your Fault! She's frank! We had a great (and yes, frank) chat on Your Life, Unlimited radio, you can listen in to the whole convo below and take a peek at one other cool and informative videos (she's challenged herself to do a video a week for a whole year). Speaking of challenges, when we were recently passing through her town of Calgary she challenged us to a 3 hour hike - she just neglected to mention it was 1.5 hrs straight up a mountain! Well, as Michelle says - not all types of fun are the same! It sure did feel great to reach the top! What have you done to challenge yourself lately? Check out Michelle in Action!
info_outline Have you Amazed yourself lately? 07/06/2017
Have you Amazed yourself lately? Two women who wowed, amazed and inspired me and we had some great convo on Your Life, Unlimited radio on CJOB. Jean Kay has written a poem a day for almost 20 years! What??? Yep, it's true, in fact as a result of our interview The Hub and I got to spend some quality time with Jean and her equally wonderful hubby Jerry. After 7000 poems this woman has a thing or two to say about commitment, dedication and passion and after all this time, she continues to be lead to creative heights! She even rents out her brain to create custom poems for other people - that's a gift no one will return! And... Retired Nurse Tilda Sholaf has spent her entire career helping others and now along with being an author, she has left the most unique legacy I have every seen, you just have to see it for yourself! Tilda Sholaf in Action!
info_outline Moving the Human Spirit 07/06/2017
Moving the Human Spirit This week on Your Life, Unlimited radio on CJOB Cindy Hogg, a partner at Moving the Human Spirit shed some light on the oft hidden Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - PSTD. We talked about the emotional brain and practical ways of dealing with emotions whether you are suffering with PTSD or just dealing with life. As well, Sagan Morrow & Dan Nicholson shared with us about their epic brainstorm that lead to the launch of their new joint venture that has business owners sharing insights to help others. I just l love when people bring ideas to fruition - check out both of my guest's sites for more information, meanwhile, enjoy the whole show here…
info_outline More than Talent 06/22/2017
More than Talent Meet some young people with drive, ambition and heart! Gordon Plant, Gina Fontaine and Taylor Janzen talked about Winnipeg's Got Talent 2, while Mark Green and Andrew Gritzmaker talk with me about entrepreneurship, confidence and giving back. It's positive momentum at it's finest. I left inspired and I hope you do too!
info_outline Making an Impact 06/13/2017
Making an Impact You can always get a job for money but what if you can get a job that gives you purpose, makes a difference and makes you money too! Enter Wendy Lipton-Dibner, best selling author of Focus on Impact. She travels the globe to share her road map for success and she is launching her 11th successful business - apparently she doesn’t need much sleep! Also on this week’s Your Life, Unlimited CJOB radio show, filmmakers and brothers Chris and Jon Forde shared their passion for helping preserve people’s stories through their unique Bio Docs system. We can always get a job for money - but wouldn’t it be better to get (or create)a job you love, one that will have impact that matters to you and then make money from that? Enjoy the show!
info_outline Go Veggie! 06/07/2017
Go Veggie! Last June as part of my 50/50 list (50 challenges in my 50th year) I decided to go Vegetarian for 50 days. Well, the actual challenge was to go Vegan for 30, but it was a little more than I was ready for so I did what I thought was a fair compromise. Little did I know at the time that this new way of eating would stick and that a year later I would be singing its praises. When people choose to go vegetarian, vegan or the lesser known pescatarian - meaning you eat fish/seafood (this is what I am currently practicing), it’s typically for at least one of these three reasons: - Health - Ethical - Environmental For me, it was something I had wanted since I was a teenager but perhaps it was ignorance, laziness or fear that kept me from pursuing the idea. The time is right now and I have been surprised at how simple (most of the time) it has been. It’s been way easier than the 50 day sugar-free challenge! If you ask my family when the smoke detector goes off it generally means “Mom’s cooking” - ha ha! But alas, I have been finding dozens of vegan and vegetarian recipes on Pinterest and almost every single one has been not only beautiful to look at but tasty as well. Perhaps it wasn’t that I couldn’t cook, maybe I just couldn’t cook meat?! In any case, many people ask me if I feel different and the truth is my body doesn’t, but my mind does. I feel proud of my decision, my stick-to-it-edness and that I finally made something that was important to me decades ago come true. This lifestyle is clearly not for everyone, however, the idea of going meatless once a week is something that I would like to try to sell you on! Meatless Monday is an international campaign that encourages people to not eat meat on Mondays to improve their health and have tangible environmental impact. Their goal is to reduce meat consumption by 15% for our personal health and the health of the planet. Going meatless just once a week may reduce your risk of chronic preventable conditions like cancer, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and obesity and can also help reduce our carbon footprint and save precious resources like fossil fuels and fresh water. In fact going vegan for just one day a week saves: 11,000 gallons of water 45 pounds of grain 30 sq. feet of forest 20 pounds CO2 emissions 1 animal’s life Give them a google and consider the challenge. Monday or any day is a good day to go meat free! Speaking of Going Veggie...this week on Your Life, Unlimited radio on CJOB we invite you to get outside yourself, what you normally do, who you think you normally are, what other’s normally expect of you! Enjoy the whole show as the convo gets started on these two questions: Can a book change your life? Well it did for Terry Collins who after reading Younger Next Year began training for his first triathlon at age 65 and who now does per 2-3 year! Is there life after wrestling for Vance Nevada aka Vern May? After this successful wrestler had to leave his career due to an injury, he had to figure out how to reinvent himself and did he ever!
info_outline Escape Your Fears 05/31/2017
Escape Your Fears No Limits-today's guests on Your Life, Unlimited radio on CJOB are the epitome of no limits! Meet Dean Gunnerson, global escape artist extraordinaire and the Mt. Kilimanjaro climbing great-grandma Anne Lorimor. These two may be worlds apart but they share heart, strength, perseverance and inspiration that I can't even express in words - you just gotta listen! And...after you listen..you can find Dean's book full of inspiration The Making of an Escape Artist. ;)
info_outline Women Fly! 05/31/2017
Women Fly! Yay women!! We rock and this week on Your Life, Unlimited radio on CJOB I learned you can fly before you drive, literally! The 99’s are a global women’s aviation group that supports women who have an affinity for all things aviation. I have been fortunate enough to fly with them a couple of times, once with a young 20 something pilot and once in a biplane that my female pilot had built herself - yes she did!! As well, I spoke with Tracy Lee Thibodeau, a young mom passionate about connecting moms and daughters on a whole new level. She posed the question (and I love it - what makes you melt?). What a delicious question! Ponder it while you enjoy the show!
info_outline Raise Restraining Device 05/15/2017
Raise Restraining Device If you’ve ever been downhill skiing, you’ve seen this sign before you got off the chair-lift: Raise Restraining Device. Most likely these words didn’t change your life, but they inspired Steph Jagger to change hers. In UNBOUND - Finding Myself on the Top of the World Jagger shares her story of leaving everything behind and spending a year skiing around the world covering over 4 million vertical feet - unofficially breaking the Guinness Record. She said the girl that left is not the women who returned - it's fascinating and courageous story that we can all learn from. Michel Neray, founder of momondays also joined me and we discuss the power of storytelling and how you can use it to enhance your work and home life. Listen in to our convo for some inspiration to live Your Life, Unlimited!
info_outline Neurodiversity 05/12/2017
Neurodiversity I was fortunate enough to have three healthy children. We rarely made a trip to the hospital, they did well in school and were relatively trouble-free. Not every family breezes through child raising as lucky as we were. Childhood illnesses, behaviour challenges and learning struggles all add to the already all consuming job of parenting. Today on Your Life, Unlimited radio - Dr. Suki Stone and Sharon Simon talk about solutions for children with reading disabilities from both a parenting and a professional view. Learn from these inspiring women how you can be an advocate for those who can use your support!
info_outline It's not about being funny - it's about being Present. 05/04/2017
It's not about being funny - it's about being Present. I love improv! I think the people that do it have such clever minds and I respect the level of talent that great improv requires. Improv is not only fun to watch, it is full of skill-sets that can serve you well in all areas of your life. Some tenants of improv include: making your partner look good, trusting that you can handle the situation and the unknown, embracing failure and being open to possibilities and not shutting things down without contributing a solution. Experts in the field, Stephen Sim and Caity Curtis joined me on CJOB radio this week and explained (with humour of course) how living Your Life, Unlimited is much more feasible with comedy on your side. You can find out more about the amazing Stephen and Caity on their Facebook pages below: Facebook.com/winnipegimprovfestival Facebook.com/stephenandcaity And head on over to their website to learn more about their corporate training: The Improv Company
info_outline Embrace, Inspire, Lead 04/25/2017
Embrace, Inspire, Lead Two 'leading' ladies joined me on CJOB radio for this week's Your Life, Unlimited show. Your Grow Advisor, Wendy Hofford and I discussed the benefits Strength Based Development via the Clifton Strengths Finder assessment. This tool allows you to find your unique signature themes and plan a process of growth from there. Did you know that people who use their strengths are six times more likely to be engaged on the job and teams that focus on their strengths are 12.5 times more productive?! Fitting in nicely, Yvonne Thompson discusses the importance of self-leadership, self-reliance, and self-responsibility. Are you seeing a theme here?
info_outline Don't Hover 04/18/2017
Don't Hover It takes a lot to get me out of my comfort zone but Teri Hofford yanked me out! This spitfire photographer does more than just photography, she changes the way women interact with their bodies. Teri's specialty is Boudoir Photography or as she more appropriately calls it, Empowerment Photography. To say it's an experience is an understatement - listen in as we dissect our session. If you want to give yourself a unique gift - this could be it! Speaking of empowering, Elizabeth McCormack has it in spades! This former Blackhawk helicopter pilot and the author of The P.I.L.O.T. Method, shared a taste of her inspiring story with us. I was surprised to learn that it takes more gas to hover in a helicopter than to move forward - isn't that a great analogy for life? Enjoy her tips for success and remember, don't hover!
info_outline Pathway to an Amicability 04/10/2017
Pathway to an Amicability Tracey Code, Commercial Banker at RBC shared a cool after work idea that accomplished at least four things 1) helping people declutter. 2) Saving money 3) Helping those in need 4) socializing with colleagues! Adopting the guidelines from Oprah’s Clothing Swap, she organizes clothing swaps at her work which reap rewards for everyone involved! As an ex-divorce lawyer Christina Vinters has seen too many horror stories unfold but now she helps couples divorce amicably. In her book, Pathways to Amicable Divorce, which you can download free of charge on her site, gives tips about working towards a resolution. In our chat, Christina suggested reframing your partnership now instead of being intimate partners, you are more like business partners. Christina shared some sound tips not just for separating couples but for anyone in a challenging relationship.
info_outline Make Your Heart Smile 04/10/2017
Make Your Heart Smile Lots of time in life things just don't line up the way you plan it. And so it was today on Your Life, Unlimited radio (cjob.com) that my first guest did not show up. Hmm..what to do? So I talked, I talked to you, the audience like we were sharing a tea together and you know what? I didn't get interrupted once! ;) Sometimes when things don't turn out like you planned, they end up just fine anyway! And then my lovely second guest, Kate Ferris, arrived early, saving me from babbling alone any longer than need be! Kate is a talented singer, songwriter, storyteller and all around great gal. And if you want to hear passion in action, listen in below. Kate brought Penny (her ukulele) and glowed with the delights this instrument has brought into her life. Personally, as a previous non-musical person, I can't even express how much this instrument has added to my life. Google ukulele clubs in your area - even if it's just to be a fly on the wall - go check it out. Picking up this day to learn, the slightly adduceable little instrument could make your heart smile too! Here is our club in Winnipeg. https://www.ukuleleclubofwinnipeg.com/
info_outline Create Your Own Results 04/10/2017
Create Your Own Results You can’t have negative thoughts when you are giving from a place of love. Laurie Guest, author of Wrapped in Stillness, A Personal Retreat Guide joined me on Your Life, Unlimited radio on CJOB. As a fellow ‘motivational speaker’ - call us that if you must - we knocked around ideas for increased positivity. She reminded us that nobody knocks on your door and hands you happy. You have to create it for yourself and Laurie shared her favourite question that you can ask yourself whenever you are feeling lack… “In what ways can I be…” Fill in what you feel is missing. Is it healthier, happier, more fun, less stressed etc. Then do the research to answer the question and then do it! Create your own results. Nobody will be knocking on your door and to hand it to you, apparently! Shucks! ;) Right in line with Laurie’s way of thinking Debbie Holmes, author of How to Help Others without Losing Yourself shared tips and thoughts that everyone born with the helping gene (which is both a curse and a blessing!) should remind themselves about regularly! Debbie says so many of us forget who we are, get lost in our work and fail to remember that work shouldn’t define us, we should define our work. After taking a listen to their show, be sure to read about Compliments and view Debbie's checklist! Consider Compliments Compliments are given out on a daily basis and it has taken me 20 years to accept them. When you are able to look at the positives in life, you feel better. This is true for others as well. Are you not trying to teach your clients that they need to feel better about themselves? So if you don't practice what you preach then you are not living the best life you can. Everyone in this world deserves to be happy and if you can accept the good and feel it inside and out, then your perspective on life becomes a whole lot better. You really do know more than most people give you credit for. For the next week, instead of denying compliments or brushing them off, accept them and think about what that person is really saying. Remember there are many facets to confidence and being able to accept that others see good things about you is vital. It is amazing how much more powerful you feel when you believe positive words from others. Anger & Self-Care Checklist Think about the last three times you were angry. If this is too hard to remember, focus on the next three times you become angry. When you have calmed yourself down, ask yourself these three questions. Is this worth my attention? Am I justified being angry about the situation? Do I have an effective response? Once again, if the answer to any of these questions is "no" then this was not an effective way to deal with the situation and you needed to come up with a better alternative. Keep a record of these questions. By looking at your answers you may begin to see patterns and areas you would like to change within yourself. Information can be powerful and acknowledgement, as we know, is the first part of change. You may find you need some outside support to help delve further into some issues. Being honest with yourself can only help you to improve who you are and how you can practice what you, as a Helper, preach.
info_outline This and That 03/24/2017
This and That This time on CJOB Radio... Gabriella Love is so committed to a cause, a positive shift, so she changed her last name to Love to subliminally send a message of love out into the world. This spunky Air Canada flight attendant likes starting projects almost as much as I do! Selfies for Self-Love was her 365 project born out of her dislike of having her picture taken; she never thought she was 'enough'. In an effort to cultivate confidence and self-love, she looked for the hardest thing - not the easiest, and committed to snapping a photo of herself every day for a year. As the project progressed, instead of it being a painful chore to snap and post daily, she actually began to have fun and felt a positive shift in the way she felt about herself. Her latest project is called A Human Series - and it's about being seen, heard, and sharing stories of overcoming insecurities. And.... Janet Bristeir, a former OR Nurse and the author of Medical Tourism is on a mission to keep people safe when they go out of the country and pay for surgery. She shared some need to know information and important questions to ask. If you have had surgery abroad or are a healthcare practitioners who has been providing the follow-up care for patients returning from surgeries abroad Janet may want to interview you for her next book. You can contact her via her site.
info_outline Strategies to Grow your Mind and Develop your Abilities 03/16/2017
Strategies to Grow your Mind and Develop your Abilities Why Does The Lobster Cast Off Its Shell? Six strategies to grow your mind and develop your abilities. Several times in its life a lobster casts off its shell. This is an instinctive process. It occurs each time the lobster realizes it has reached a point of crisis. Its predicament is this: the hard shell that has nurtured and protected it so far is now inhibiting its growth. In order to continue to grow and develop, it needs to discard its old shell and grow a new one. It’s a process that takes about two days. Two days may not seem like a very long time, but it is if you’re a lobster. That's two days when it is left naked and vulnerable in the dog-eat-dog (or should I say shark-eat-shark) world of the ocean. In two days, the lobster could become another ocean-creature's lunch. In two days, the relentless action of the waves could slam it against rocks and injure it. Yet, the lobster knows it has no alternative. To continue to mature and advance, it knows it must step outside its existing boundaries and take that risk. To do otherwise would mean stagnation. So the lobster casts off its shell. It’s the same with humans. In order for you to continue to grow and develop your mind and your abilities, you need to step outside your comfort zone and take risks. You need to consciously choose to discard your shell and venture out into the great unknown. In the book are listed 171 ways to be a lobster. Here are 17 of them. Remember that you will have the greatest success with these if you select and choose to do the ones that don’t immediately appeal to you! Being a lobster means that you must step outside your comfort zone! Take an introductory course in a new language at your community college. Take a different route home from work. Research why something has “always been done that way.” Sleep on the other side of the bed Go horseback riding Do the crossword puzzle in the weekend paper Skip down the hallway at work or school (and don’t care if anyone is watching) Run for a position (local or national) on the Board of your professional association Go to your favourite restaurant and order something from their menu that you have never ordered before The next time you take a commercial airline flight, strike up a conversation with the stranger seated next to you Speak up at a meeting (ask that question you want to ask but are normally too embarrassed or afraid to) Finger-paint with a child (or what the heck, do it by yourself) Spend a morning at a local art gallery Say “yes” to something you normally say “no” to Wear a blindfold for an hour at work, and find out what it would feel like to be blind Have an eye-to-eye conversation with a homeless person At the next conference you attend, sit at a table at lunch where you don’t know anybody
info_outline Resiliency Ninja 03/06/2017
Resiliency Ninja Enjoy Allison Graham's guest blog here. :) How “Positive Thinking” Made Me Miserable. When I started my decade of hell, before I would have considered myself a Resiliency Ninja, I had a very different opinion of what positive thinking meant. I thought it meant seeing everything through rose-colored glasses and spewing sunshiny messages about how incredible life was every where I went. The problem was, life wasn’t rosy, at times, it was black. My business was on rocky ground, my body was screaming for me to stop and my resentment was being forced down into the depths of my soul, ready to erupt at any moment. Meanwhile, I’d picked up this notion that I should be happy and positive all the time and anything less than that meant I was failing myself and society’s expectations. The essence behind positive thinking – in it’s misunderstood form, which is often shared in the personal-development industry - is that if you just think positively and speak no ill-will then everything will be, or become, positive. In my experience that’s a recipe for being miserable and feeling inauthentic. It’s definitely not the path to genuine healing from life’s hurtful blows. I misinterpreted positive thinking as an attempt to sweep the worst circumstances under the rug and ignore the reality of the proverbial fan blowing on high. There is a lot of value to be found in feeling the full anguish of life’s worst moments. Within those dark emotions, feelings can heal and you can rise a stronger, happier, more positive version of yourself. When you ignore the negative by covering it up with false positive thinking, you never truly get to heal, instead, you deflect. I was a master at deflecting. If I didn’t like an emotion over here, I would change direction and go over there. Positive thinking was my tool to enable deflecting. By labelling a bad situation positively, I avoided dealing with the messy, ugly feelings that the circumstance deserved. The worst in life releases its hold on us when we go deep and deal with the worst emotions. Even though I think positive thinking in its naivest form is unhelpful, I’m an exceptionally positive person because after I’ve processed the negative around a problem, I choose the best angle to anchor the circumstance. Seeing the benefits of life’s hardships can keep you from spiraling out of control and dramatizing the negative aspects of what you’re facing. This slightly different perspective on positive thinking makes a world of difference in creating authentic joy…and isn’t that what we all want?! Connect with Allison online to share your opinions on positive thinking and how you create authentic joy in difficult circumstances. TW/INSTA @AllisonDGraham www.facebook.com/resiliencyninja www.resiliencyninja.com.
info_outline Invisible Threads 03/02/2017
Invisible Threads Seven point four billion. That’s the current estimate for our world’s population. Yet even with those odds, here we are thrown together by chance and by choices made - some by us, some by other people. We are reading this same email, hearing the same messages, enjoying the same entertainment, each of us having the opportunity to learn and share and grow in ways that can not only impact ourselves personally but create a ripple effect to benefit those whose lives we touch, impact, influence. I believe the people who take a moment out of their busy take to pause and read the Your Life, Unlimited message are a unique & special group. A group that knows that we must be continually immersed in the world of personal development. We know that ‘one hit’ only lasts so long. We know that we must surround ourselves with people who build us up, who inspire us, who ‘get’ the fact that we can and do make positive change possible. There is an Invisible thread that connects us - all seven billion of us and the thousands of us that are reading these words. No matter our differences, our gifts, our talents or our shortcomings, we all want to be happier, healthier and to have stellar relationships in our lives. None of us, none of us, can do this alone. We need to tug on that invisible thread and pull someone else closer so that we can work together for the betterment of us all. I urge you, do not be passive. Be proactive. Seek out the invisible threads that are present every day, every where you go, in everything you do. Our community - local and global is here for you - it’s like a buffet - everything is laid out for you to enjoy. It’s just that we don’t feed you, we don’t tell you what you should choose - look at the selection, notice what you are drawn to, choose it with purpose and intention. That is your invisible thread. Use it. Seven point four billion. It’s no accident that you are here. Be here 100%, find your thread, pull it and take action. Thanks for being a part of my world!
info_outline Light it Up 03/02/2017
Light it Up I can't count the number of flights I have been on in the last year. I pretty much get on a plane to go to work. The glamour of being a professional speaker is balanced with the exhaustion, loneliness and tedium that comes with business travel. Once in awhile, someone crosses your path that makes you look up. Pay attention. Smile. Laugh even. And so it was with Bruno this week. The Westjet flight attendant who was doing the safety demo. The safety demo that even those obedient Type A's typically tune out of. Bruno brought us back to life. Lip syncing to the female voice en francois, he milked that safety demo for all it's worth. He put his body and soul into it. Little by little people started laughing and more and more people started looking up from their books and devices. When he was done with his 'show' - and really that's what it was (I cannot adequately describe his demo, just trust me when I say it was epic), the passengers erupted in applause and he did a lovely curtsy in appreciation. "Gotta have fun at work." he said to me as he walked by. Indeed. What's going on at your work? Is it fun? Well that part of Bruno's job was not fun. He made it fun. He was purposeful, deliberate and intentional about creating a fun environment for himself and therefore others as well. If you are already having fun, smiling and laughing enough at work, you can stop reading now. Good for you! If you are not, you may want to ask yourself what part of your job (or home-life) you could Bruno-ize. Where can you create fun? Add positively? Add surprise? Delight someone? Organize a little opportunity for connection? Be the one who lights up the plane - or the room. We spend a lot of hours at our jobs, if we have to be there anyway, why not make it a little more of a happy place to be? The alternate is to stagnate. To fall into the doldrums. To let negativity win. To be part of the problem rather than the solution. Live Your Life, Unlimited. The other options suck!
info_outline Hope and Confidence 02/14/2017
Hope and Confidence Hope and confidence - sometimes it comes from the inside out and other times it comes from the outside in! Once in a while we need someone to believe in us more than we believe in ourselves - if you find yourselves lacking hope and/or confidence tell someone you love and trust exactly what you need. For example - I’m feeling super stressed out about this project at work and I don’t feel like I can pull in off, can you please reassure me that I am the right person for the job and that if I put in my best effort it’s going to turn out great. Insert/ask for pat on the back, reassuring smile or appropriate hug, here. Then remind yourself of all the things you have already accomplished that you weren’t sure you could. See there you go! You are awesome - sometimes you just forget! Now, take three deep breaths, click your heels together and go out there and do it. #yougotthis! Hope and confidence, it’s just one more way to live Your Life, Unlimited! This week on CJOB... Jim Beqaj, author of True Fit-How to Find the Right Job by Being You provoked us with this rarely asked question...What should people pay you for? We also spoke with Lee Kitchen, the Innovation Catalyst at Disney. He helps people to think different! Enjoy our conversation about turning brainstorming events into a relaxed, party-like atmosphere that is explosive with ideas!
info_outline Give it Up! 02/13/2017
Give it Up! Who talks about giving at the end of February?! The holidays have passed, Valentine's Day is over, what is left to give? PLENTY in my books! In fact, some of my most favourite types of giving occurs when it's not the 'have to give' kind of giving. For example: You see something in the store and you just know someone you care about would absolutely love it - and you just buy it for them for no reason. You whip up a tasty delight in your kitchen and it turns out wonderful and you share the extra with an unexpecting benefactor. You see someone that needs a hand and make a spur of the moment decision to offer yours willingly. You read a book or an article or see a video that you know would really resonate with a colleague or friend or family member and you take time to share it with them. You are generous with warm words or tenderness that may land exactly when that person needed to hear them. You praise someone publicly, to their boss, on social media, or somewhere it can be 'overheard'. You give more than feels comfortable - like a big tip or more time than you can really spare. You help or give before anything is asked of you. You do a chore that you know the other person really dislikes (I'm thinking of spring yard dog clean up time, ick!) You pay for the order of the car behind you at the coffee drive-through or some other anonymous good deed that no one will even know what you did.March is just around the corner and personally I think it would be cool to make this an unconventional month of giving. Just because I want to, not because I feel I have to, not because I feel pressure to, not because society makes me feel like I 'should'. Giving for no 'reason' - my favourite kind and it's one more way to live Your Life, Unlimited.
info_outline What we Notice and What we Imagine 01/31/2017
What we Notice and What we Imagine I had a nice chat with Kristin Arnold of extraordinaryteam.com. We talked about some biases that sabotage our thinking. Kristin talked about the great distinction between what we notice and what we imagine. For example, we notice what someone is wearing, or what they said or what we saw them do, but we imagine a lot of other things - we make assumptions. The thing about making assumptions is that we are wrong 50% of the time and this is where we can get into trouble. Consider checking in to see if your assumptions are accurate or a little off base.
info_outline What is your Beautiful Interruption? 01/31/2017
What is your Beautiful Interruption? Beautiful Interruption I first heard this phrase while watching a TED talk about talking to strangers (when you can spare 12 minutes, enjoy it here). These two words, so rarely put together in the same sentence really made me think about the beautiful interruptions that sometimes find their way into my days. I work from home, when I’m not on the road, and Randy (the hub) used to say to me, “When you are done working, we’ll go for a walk.” This rarely, if ever worked because when you are self-employed ( or a parent!) you are never actually ‘done working’ - there is always more to do. Instead I would say to him, “Tell me when you want to go for a walk and then I’ll be done working.” I needed to create a beautiful interruption. Something that would stop me from the endless to do’s and engage me in something different, something positive, something that allowed me to connect on a different level. Occasionally, beautiful interruptions just happen, like: when my son pops in after his night shift and has breakfast with me. I had planned to get work done, but this beautiful interruption allows me a rare chance to catch up with my grown-up boy, who hugs me tight and calls me Mommy. I’m so lucky he still makes time for me (oh who am I kidding, it’s just ‘coz I feed him!) :) when my seat mate on the plane is in a chatty mood and I really wanted to catch a much needed nap. I get to give someone the gift of an ear and I get to meet someone new. when my butt is sore from sitting in my office chair for too long and I hear my art supplies calling my name. I get to create something from nothing, even if it’s just for my eyes. when I get to visit my 91 year old Mom who sings along as Luke the Uke and I play her requests. I get teary eyed just thinking that one day I will lose my greatest fan. Meanwhile, I cherish each visit. when my youngest daughter feels like sharing - it’s rare and beautiful. It feels like a gift to be allowed into her world, to laugh together, to connect. Interrupt me anytime girl, I’m here for you. when the dogs whine and I bundle up to take them for a walk. I always feel grateful for getting out in the fresh air, even if I have to pick up poop! when I am in the middle of ‘things’ and my friend from across the border calls just to chat. I’d drop just about anything to connect with the magnificent friends I have. when an audience member seeks me out after a talk - my time on the clock is done but they feel compelled to share their story with me. They trust me, a stranger, with their story and I feel privileged to hear it. when my hubby wants to…. oh never mind. ;) I am grateful he wants to spend time with me after three plus decades of being together. Sometimes beautiful interruptions just happen and sometimes you must be deliberate, intentional and purposeful in creating them. If you pay attention you might find the most beautiful things of all happen when you are being interrupted. What are your beautiful interruptions? Notice, acknowledge, appreciate and create them.
info_outline Just Love 01/17/2017
Just Love A relation of mine and I had a blow up recently. The two of us, normally rational adults who get along just fine - were at odds. It was awful, uncomfortable and sad. He was upset and I was crying. For over an hour we dumped our issues on the table and tried to sort them out with little success. From different provinces, it is rare to literally be sitting across the table together and so to process things after the fact, in our own spaces was necessary. As I reflected upon our conversation, the situation and the emotions that were going wild (mostly mine), I thought about the intent of our conversations and especially about the difficult situation that preceded it. It was never either of our intentions to hurt, disappoint or upset the other person. Yet that is what transpired for both of us. Hurt. Disappointment. Upset. And we could have left it at that; take a relationship that was strong and let it die. We could pretend it never happened. Or we can deal with it. At the end of the day, maybe it doesn’t really matter what we understand and what we don’t. What we agree with and what we don’t. There isn’t always a right or a wrong, just varied perspectives. What I decided that I want to do it just love. Love not because someone makes me happy or supports me or is related to me or does what I think they ‘should’ do. Just love. Period. Love. As this next decade unfolds that is my goal, to just love. So I penned a letter to him. Part apology, part explanation and a request to join me on this quest to go forward, to remember what matters. People matter. Relationships matter. Family matters. I hope we can put this incident behind us and just love. Just love, it’s one more way you can live Your Life, Unlimited.
info_outline Encourage Curiousity 01/04/2017
Encourage Curiousity Curiosity may have killed the cat but for the most part it can help you grow your world. Here are ten reasons to encourage curiosity in yourself and others… It makes life more interesting and that attractive! It encourages life-long learning. It sets a good example for your kids, staff and others. It will help you understand things/people that perplex you. It’s a great way to reduce judgement and increase understanding. It helps reduce boredom. It can be really fun. It could lead you down new paths. It challenges what you believe to be true. It stretches your mind. What can you do to encourage curiosity in yourself and others this week?
info_outline What's Happening Next? 12/13/2016
What's Happening Next? Pay attention to what’s happening next. I was in the security line the other day, you know, where you put all your worldly possessions on trays? The man in front of me loaded his stuff into the trays and then took out two extra trays for the next person. In all my flying I have never seen (or done) that small act before. What’s the big deal? Well my observation was that this man was not so caught up in his own little world as the rest of us might be. He was paying attention to what was going on behind him, who was coming behind him, even though he didn’t know them. Simple things like holding the door open for someone behind you and uh - gentlemen ... putting the toilet seat down. It’s not about those individual acts per se, it’s bigger than that. It’s about being aware that behind you, after you, someone else is showing up and you can do little things to help them out and make their life easier without taking more than a tad of effort, thought, time from you. Paying attention to what’s happening next, it’s just one more way to live Your Life, Unlimited! *** Corny Rempel - Elvis Impersonator and man of many talents shared stories and encouragement from behind the sideburns! - email@example.com Also on the show... Tara Torchia-Wells - author of The Compression Garment Dairies, the book I felt it was a privilege to read. We talked about helping people we care about through illness, Tara says, “Whatever you think you should do - you should do that.” Great advice! Let’s stop second guessing and use do it! Tara can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.