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You Can Multi-Task but You Can't Multi-Focus

SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey

Release Date: 04/20/2020

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SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey

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This is a guided meditation to connect to your inner child. It is a simple and easy tool to create a ritual for yourself each day.

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You don’t have to fix yourself You’re not broken. By feeling your feelings, you return to your wholeness. If you’re constantly fixing, numbing and ignoring in order to be happy, you will always be chasing this destination. Happiness is fleeting – just like any other emotion. By honoring Life’s ups and downs, being with yourself and feeling your feelings fully, you’ll be able to find happiness in the process, build worthiness in your new skills, and trust your resilience that you are brave, matur

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The way we would talk to a child is so much different than we talk to our adult self. We’re harsh, judgmental and critical, but you would never be like that to a sweet young child. By connecting to the sweet little girl or boy in you, it’s easier to be kinder and softer to yourself. Creating a practice of self-forgiveness is one way you can begin to deepen your compassion towards yourself and expand your self-love. LMK if this is helpful: www.AudreySuttonMills.com. Join me for SOUL SCHOOL 10/5/2020

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Today, you'll learn 4 ways to help you combat your itty-bitty-shitty-committee when you get down in those dark places and want to quit. Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Don’t quit! You’re about to breakthrough. It’s happening. Keep going! LMK how this is helping you. Thank you for sharing, rating and reviewing this podcast! xo Audrey

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This week’s mantra is: “I’m in resistance because I’m about to transform.”

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You don’t have to be all, do all for all. Actually it’s pretty impossible. You won’t do it all well.

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The other day I was multi-tasking because that’s the job description of being a new mom. You will do everything, be everything, and do it all leaving you frazzled and looking haggard in the process. Pay: nothing.

On this day, though, I was multitasking like a champ. Hunter was on the custom ladder Jake made for her watching me chop vegetables and stir the mushrooms simmering no the stovetop. I was like an octopus, one hand stirring the pot, then another arm to the oven to check the vegetables, then another arm would reach out to hunter and feed her. All of this while I was facetiming with my mother-in-law. I deserved the multitasking star.

I took a break to change Hunter’s wet diaper to return to a smoky kitchen. When I checked the oven, I found I had left my ovenmit to roast along with the vegetables. The mit was black and seriously smoking.

My multitasking could’ve caused a real disaster. No star for me

As humans, we’re smart. Our brain can handle multiple functions.

Right now, you’re listening to this podcast, maybe you’re driving, and thinking about what you want for dinner, reminding yourself to not leave the ovenmit in the oven like a moron, you switch lanes, wonder whether to turn this podcast off and change it to Oprah’s Masterclass – I mean, who doesn’t love Oprah, a friend texts you in which you respond with both hands on the phone and your knee on the wheel, actually this is a pretty good podcast – you’ll stick through the next few minutes, you decide to make it easy on yourself and not burn the house down and get take-out, all while you’re breathing and your heart is beating.

We’re wired to muti-task. But although you can multitask, and maybe you’re really good at getting multiple tasks done at once, you cannot multi-focus, which means you’re probably not doing a really good job at any of those tasks.

You can do multiple things at once, but you can only focus on one thing at once.

As a new mom, I often feel like that ovenmit – my hair is on fire, but I still am going through the motions of life like it’s not.

It’s only when we can slow down, and be fully present to what’s in front of us that we can enjoy the presence of life around us. Otherwise we’re too busy, too distracted, too tired, too *whatever you’re feeling* to see the magic of the moment.

…To experience the person in front of us …to truly hear them without our own thoughts getting in the way …to be present to the task at hand with full enjoyment, creativity and no disctractions.

That task is no longer a task to complete quickly, but something you can enjoy.

I know what you’re thinking…Audrey, that Zen Buddhist Dalia Lama stuff sounds really nice on paper. Namaste. But this is real life. I got stuff to do!

I get it. We all do. You’re not alone

But it’s more important now, more than ever to slow down and tune in because everything is pining for your attention. Everything – the ping on your phone begs for your response, your children want quality time with you, your job demands tasks to be returned, errands that need to be run, bills you need to pay, garbage that stinks up the kitchen and the worries in your head of not getting it all done in time.

You don’t have to be all, do all for all. Actually it’s pretty impossible. You won’t do it all well.

Instead of wanting more, I invite you to want less and be more focused on the very most important things.

Focus helps guide you to what is most important and helps you stay on your purpose.

If you don’t define what is most important to you, someone else will. People will grab for your attention. Tasks will BEG for you to complete them.

Then you get to the end of your day, and wonder what the heck did I accomplish today? Have you been there? I mean, you did stuff. You were in motion, but you didn’t move the ball forward. You were in action, but didn’t accomplish anything today.

 I don’t want you to feel this way at the end of your life.

So, do this with me. Think about all of the things you are holding now. Well, maybe not holding, but juggling, and maybe even dropping. I know, it’s a lot sister!

Are these the most important things that will make the biggest difference in your life or the lives you love?

Take 3 deep breaths. What is the most important thing right now?  What is the biggest regret you’ll have?

Now, this could be a big life goal or a change in direction that could seem scary. We major in minor things and get distracted and busy with the small stuff and it keeps us from accomplishing the BIG stuff.

What showed up for you may not be something big at all. It may be something small but really meaningful, like “figure out what IS most important. Or rest now. Or go to yoga. Or go to yoga with Audrey.”

You can use this easy exercise anytime you feel untethered to help bring you back to center and what’s most important to you.

Keep asking, what is important right now? Until you get down to the small doable action that serves your bigger purpose.

Was this an ah-ha for you as it was for me? Let me know on the blog or insta.

Thanks for tuning in friend, rating and sharing this podcast. I love you! see you next week!

Head over to my website www.audreysuttonmills.com for downloadable freebies for deeper connection and self-love and don’t forget to sign up for my free webinar and how to quiet your itty-bitty-shitty-committee which is on April, 20, 2020 and this is also the launch of SOUL SCHOOL, my 7-week transformation online course, you’ll learn easy and tangible tools to cultivate deeper self-love so you can release limited beliefs, quiet your inner critic, celebrate yourself and become the person you want to be.