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Part 2 How to Deal With Rejection When All You Want to Do Is Bawl Your Eyes Out #004

It's a Drama Podcast

Release Date: 02/01/2019

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How to Deal With Rejection When All You Want to Do Is Bawl Your Eyes Out: Part 2.

Episode 4 Part 2

Episode four of the It’s a drama podcast was a tough one for both Sonny and me. This week we discussed the consequences of rejection from friends, how to deal with rejection and we also touched upon cyberbullying.

In the past month, we have both been the victims of social rejection and we thought it would be a good idea to see how it affects not just teenagers but adults too.

 

I won’t lie, it was hard for me to talk about on air. I was bullied badly as a young teenager, and the damage of that leaves me feeling very panicky and vulnerable if faced with confrontation. It is a lot easier for me to hide behind funny blog posts.

As it turned out, discussing what happened on the podcast was the best thing that I could have done. Afterwards, I felt as though I had been in a therapy session. As a side note, I have never had any kind of therapy, but after opening up to my son on this week’s podcast, I can totally see why people would seek out someone to talk to.

 

Sonny, it seems, is a natural podcast host. He is patient and intelligent, and I very much forget when I’m talking to him that he is indeed my son.

 

The same boy who hours earlier, I have been moaning at to tidy the breakfast dishes away.

 

This week’s podcast was so juicy and needed talking about in such depth that we decided to split the show into two and have a part 1 and part 2.

 

Part one sees us both laying down each of our experiences and touching briefly on how being rejected made us feel. Part two is the real gold.

I won’t give too much away, but just make sure you listen to part two to seek the answers you might need about how to deal with rejection and understanding this certain form of bullying.

 

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Thank you my lovely people x

 

The Podcast Notes.

 

  • We discuss the difference between bullying and rejection and how to deal with both.

 

  • The term bullying is defined as a form of repeated, persistent and aggressive behaviour intended to cause fear, distress, or harm to another person’s body, emotions, self-esteem or reputation.

 

  • Although the attack that I experienced wasn’t (thankfully) ongoing or persistent, it certainly harmed my emotions, my reputation and my self-esteem, so, in my eyes, it was a form of cyberbullying.

 

  • Rejection can appear in the form of social rejection when a person is deliberately excluded from a social relationship or passive rejection which is when the perpetrator gives the victim the silent treatment. Both of these definitions applied to sonny’s situation, and we discuss the effects of both and how to deal with rejection from friends.

 

  • The physical effects of reliving an unpleasant experience such as online humiliation/bullying/rejection are quite clear in my voice as I retell how I felt. We purposely didn’t edit this out. I think people need to see that the fear of bullying doesn’t just affect teenagers.

 

 

 

Further Reading:

 

Amy Morin. 5 Ways That Mentally Strong People Deal with Rejection.

 

The Rangers Apprentice Series. John Flannigan.

 

Toi Whakaari: NZ Drama School in Wellington.