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28 | Why it’s so hard to say ‘no’ and how to create boundaries & stop people pleasing with Vicky S. Joseph

The Art of Speaking Up

Release Date: 04/08/2019

127 | From shy & quiet to confident and commanding (speaking BIG vs. speaking small) show art 127 | From shy & quiet to confident and commanding (speaking BIG vs. speaking small)

The Art of Speaking Up

This week I’m giving you a roadmap to help you on your journey from feeling shy and quiet to speaking with confidence & conviction.  There are few things more important for your career than your voice in a room, and in this week’s episode I’m sharing a simple roadmap you can use to evolve your voice from one that is shy and timid, to one that feels strong, authentic, and confident.  I hope you love this one and I’d love to know what you think!   To get in touch. reach out on IG (@theartofspeakingup) or email me at ) and here are my links:   Free Executive...

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126 | Speaking with confidence even when you’re scared with Amy Cassandra Martinez show art 126 | Speaking with confidence even when you’re scared with Amy Cassandra Martinez

The Art of Speaking Up

Welcome!  In today’s episode, I’m chatting with Actress and professional Entertainment host Amy Cassandra Martinez all about confidence, your voice, and speaking up even when you feel scared.  Amy shares such vulnerable and deeply insightful wisdom on how to show up boldly when you feel like you’re right at your edge of discomfort.  In this episode you’ll hear us chat about:   Speaking with confidence when you’re nervous Harnessing nervous energy Pushing yourself to do the scary thing Having the courage to pursue the career path you desire Introducing yourself...

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125 | How to build confidence & strengthen your voice in meetings show art 125 | How to build confidence & strengthen your voice in meetings

The Art of Speaking Up

This week, I’m chatting about one of my favorite topics: speaking confidently in meetings.  I’m sharing a simple framework you can use to get crystal clear on how to approach building confidence no matter the type of meeting or situation.  I’ll help you get clear on how to break down your goal of confidence into smaller, simpler steps that you can start to implement right away, and I’ll share some tools that will help you build momentum if you’re feeling stuck.     You can find my free executive presence course AND my free ebook at this link:   And you can...

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124 | How to shatter your impostor syndrome fueled beliefs and show up as a powerful leader show art 124 | How to shatter your impostor syndrome fueled beliefs and show up as a powerful leader

The Art of Speaking Up

If you struggle with impostor syndrome and notice that fear and doubt are holding you back in your career, this week’s episode is perfect for you.  Listen in as I dive deep into the limiting beliefs that so often fuel impostor syndrome, and help you reframe your thinking so that you can learn to show up as a strong, empowered leader even when things get tough.  By the end of this episode, you’ll have a new perspective and a potent mindset tool that will help you feel strong even when you find yourself struggling.   Free Executive Presence course:   Private...

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123 | Boundaries, people pleasing, crying at work, mental health, worthiness, self-compassion + more with Siria Gutierrez show art 123 | Boundaries, people pleasing, crying at work, mental health, worthiness, self-compassion + more with Siria Gutierrez

The Art of Speaking Up

This week’s episode is a wonderfully long, winding conversation about mental health, confidence, and learning to feel stronger inside and outside of work.  This week’s guest Siria is a successful attorney and mental health advocate and the host of two podcasts (Pivotal Moments and Lawyered with Siria, both linked below).  She opens up about her journey of setting boundaries, processing emotions, dealing with personal struggles, mental health, being her authentic self at work, and SO much more.  It’s honestly hard to write a description for this episode because we covered...

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122 | The single most important thing for speaking up with strength and power show art 122 | The single most important thing for speaking up with strength and power

The Art of Speaking Up

This week’s episode is perfect for you if you want to sound stronger and more confident when you speak, but are struggling to figure out how.  A lot of people misunderstand what is truly required to speak with strength, conviction, and confidence.  In this episode I’ll give you permission to drop the communication advice that doesn’t work for you, and strengthen your voice in a way that feels genuine to who you truly are.    And…I’m sharing some exciting news – my free executive presence course is here!  You can sign up for the course using this link: ...

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121 | Myths about executive presence + where your power REALLY comes from show art 121 | Myths about executive presence + where your power REALLY comes from

The Art of Speaking Up

  Welcome to the show!  I’m SO pumped about today’s episode.  I created this episode for anyone who is trying to figure out how to convey power in a room without being fake or overly dominant.  So many pockets of Corporate America tell you that in order to exude power, you need to be gruff and hypermasculine, but this isn’t true.  And in fact, when you do those things, it actually dilutes your power.   Listen in to hear me explain why and to hear me guide you towards a more authentic, sustainable approach to executive presence.    Want to get in...

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120 | The audacity to believe that you can accomplish anything with Angela Duckworth  show art 120 | The audacity to believe that you can accomplish anything with Angela Duckworth

The Art of Speaking Up

Today’s interview is jam-packed with wisdom on how to get out of your comfort zone and speak up powerfully!  Today’s guest, Angela Duckworth, is a researcher and psychologist who focuses on the topic of grit and resilience.  She drops so many juicy nuggets on how to exit your comfort zone and prove to yourself that you’re so much more capable than you may realize.   To check out The Character Lab click here:   And I highly recommend Angela’s book, Grit:   I’d love to hear what you think about this episode!  To get in touch, you can message me on...

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119 | How your brain tricks you out of having a powerful voice in meetings show art 119 | How your brain tricks you out of having a powerful voice in meetings

The Art of Speaking Up

Welcome to the show!  Today’s episode is so much fun, and it’s one that will help you shift your perspective on what it means to be confident in meetings.  In this episode I’m breaking down two excuses your brain might give you when it comes to speaking up in meetings, that are keeping you from speaking up with confidence (and what to do about them).   I’d love to hear what you think about this episode!  To get in touch, you can message me on Instagram at @theartofspeakingup.   To join the private facebook group for the show, go here:   And to inquire...

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118 | Motherhood, body image, the inner critic, being kind to yourself, and having enough time with Hannah Rudnick show art 118 | Motherhood, body image, the inner critic, being kind to yourself, and having enough time with Hannah Rudnick

The Art of Speaking Up

Welcome to the show!  Today’s episode is such a gem of a conversation.  Today I’m chatting with Parent Coach Hannah Rudnick about the challenges of being a woman and being a mom.  This episode is perfect for you if you feel like you’re struggling to fit everything in, or if you find yourself being overly harsh on yourself when things get tough.  In this conversation you’ll hear us chat about:   -The identity challenges that come with becoming a mom -Trusting one’s intuition -The inner critic -Body image -Being kind to yourself -Following your ambitions in a...

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I know very few women who don’t struggle with saying ‘no’ – especially in a professional environment.  It’s often instinctual for us to want to say and do the right thing so that we can preserve our reputations, do good work, and make the people around us happy.

 

But when does the tendency to always say yes bring us farther away from our goals?  The more we say yes on autopilot, the more we risk frustration, burnout, and feeling like we’re not embodying our full authenticity by speaking and sharing our opinions truthfully.

 

Luckily, today’s guest has dedicated her ow career to helping women say ‘no.’  Once dubbed ‘quiet Vicky’ by her classmates, today’s guest was extremely shy as a child and eventually found her own courage and voice by delving into the world of acting.

 

Today’s guest, Vicky S. Joseph, is the founder of The Art of Expression. As a communication consultant and acting coach, she helps women who are *way too nice* communicate with confidence on stage, in personal and professional relationships. She has a Bachelor's in Psychology and a Master’s in Public Relations and Corporate Communications. Her specialties include: conflict resolution, effective communication, boundary setting, emotional assessments and assertiveness training.

 

In this episode, Vicky shares key advice, tips, and tactics to help us say no and explains why this can be so hard. 

 

We also run through common work scenarios that arise that can make it challenging to say no, and Vicky help us craft language we can use at work to get through these tricky situations.

 

You can find Vicky online and on social media:

 

Vickysjoseph.com

 

@Vickyallday (Twitter and Insta)

 

Vicky S. Joseph (Facebook)

 

Books mentioned by Vicky:

 

Codependent no more

No more Christian nice girl

Boundaries by Henry Cloud

 

To submit a listener question to the show, DM me on Instargam!  @theartofspeakingup