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Episode 2 | Be Present Where You Are

Advice Not Given

Release Date: 08/20/2019

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This week Kellie and Claire talk all about the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday. They share some fun memories of childhood Thanksgivings gone by and current insights on Thanksgiving as military service families. They talk turkey, travel, traditions and they share thoughts on Black Friday and other marketing initiatives. Think of this episode like your favorite sweet potato casserole: filling, savory, and sweet--topped off with a little something extra!

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Episode 22 | What's New in 2020? show art Episode 22 | What's New in 2020?

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In this week’s episode, Kellie and Claire discuss the nuanced topic of friendship: particularly how making (and maintaining) friendships evolves the older you get. They share some of their best qualities they offer in friendship. They take a look at how each Enneagram type needs to feel connected with a friend. Finally, they discuss whether or not the difficulties/opportunities they have when constantly curating relationships is strengthening and growing them or if it is depleting/draining them.

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Episode 15 | Intolerance of Uncertainty show art Episode 15 | Intolerance of Uncertainty

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In this week’s episode Kellie and Claire take a look at what it means to be able to tolerate uncertainty. They explore some common scenarios where people (and service families, in particular) have pain points with uncertainty. They explore the scientific aspects of “intolerance of uncertainty,” paying particular attention to what prolonged periods of the ensuing stress can do to our mental health. As always they offer up some practical strategies of how becoming aware of this phenomenon and what to do

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Catch this exclusive look at the bonus content being offered on Patreon to Milspo Gurus and Advice Not Given Podcast supporters! On No Advice, Just Opinions, we'll share our "currently..." lists. You know, currently reading, watching, and listening to (with elaborate commentary). We'll also tackle a hot topic in the news. All in a bolder, edgier way.

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Episode 14 | The Things We Wish You Knew show art Episode 14 | The Things We Wish You Knew

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In this week’s episode Claire and Kellie share in response to some of the feedback they’ve gotten on Instagram when Kellie put out the call asking, “What are the hardest parts of military life?” Many responders commented on the disconnect between their own military lifestyle and the lack of information and awareness of well-meaning friends, family, and civilians. Claire and Kellie talk broadly and personally about the things many of us wish people knew.

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Episode 13 | Generalists and Specialists show art Episode 13 | Generalists and Specialists

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In this week’s episode Claire and Kellie talk all about the idea of being a generalist versus a specialist. In David Epstein’s recent book Range, he argues that generalists are “triumphing in a specialized world.” Frequent relocation and upstarts in life have made many service member spouses generalists in their career fields and in their passions based on the location and opportunities available. Many of us think of this as a negative part of our lifestyle, but Claire and Kellie offer that it may j

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Episode 12 | Solo Parenting Through Separations show art Episode 12 | Solo Parenting Through Separations

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In this week’s episode the topic hits close to home as Kellie prepares for a deployment and Claire has recently shared on this theme at a local MOPS group. Listen in as they discuss some common fears about solo parenting and offer up practical tips for thriving through a forced separation when all of the parenting falls squarely on your shoulders. Hint: lots of self-care tips ahead!

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Episode 11 | When to Shine & When to Lay Low show art Episode 11 | When to Shine & When to Lay Low

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In this week’s episode Kellie and Claire discuss a tension they regularly find themselves in as they move around. There is a fine line between utilizing and offering your gifts and expertise each time you enter a new professional, service, or relational situation and recognizing that a situation doesn’t warrant the help or is just fine without your insights for change. They share tips on how to do this tactfully while being true to themselves.

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Episode 10 | Are You Listening? show art Episode 10 | Are You Listening?

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In this week’s episode Kellie and Claire discuss whether they are good or bad listeners. They share some real life instances when they could have listened better. They deep dive one particular active listening technique, Active Constructive Responding (ACR) and its framework as well as take a look at a listening assessment put out by Psychology Today.

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Episode 9 | #SquadGoals show art Episode 9 | #SquadGoals

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In this week’s episode, we break from traditional form and decide to take a little trip. We need a retreat and you probably do too! Time, childcare, and finances can often restrict us, but in this episode we say the sky is the limit and we create our dream get-away. Won’t you join us?

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What do you do when your present reality doesn’t necessarily align with where you imagined that your youthful hopes and dreams would take you? Did your college or vocational training set you up for what you are doing today? Have you gotten fixated on an ideal or expectation for what your life might look like or are you still looking for it? Do you ever find yourself more invested in the end goal or an achievement than you do the process or pursuit of it? Join Kellie and Claire as they discuss the dangers of over identifying with your roles and titles and offer suggestions for finding contentment in where you are both geographically and metaphorically. 

Advice Not Given: 

  • Consider crafting a family mission statement.
  • Don’t “JUST” anything in your life.
  • Identify with your competencies and passions, not your title.
  • Don’t let discontentment and “always” and “never” absolute statements become your inner monologue.
  • Invest yourself more so in the process and reasons for doing something, rather than the results.
  • Don’t be in the past or the future--be in the “IS” of today. Be present.
  • Identify three physical (external, geographical) features of where you live. Focus on them and create a mini-mantra to repeat when you need to feel grounded in your outer world in order to remove the focus off of your inner turmoil. 

MENTIONS:

Creative On Purpose

Writing a Family Mission Statement

Estimated Stay at Home Mom Salary

Staying in the Present

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