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Risk and Reward

Andrew Petty is Dying

Release Date: 01/24/2022

End-of-Life Planning: Why You Should Do It Now, and How, with Michelle Mathai show art End-of-Life Planning: Why You Should Do It Now, and How, with Michelle Mathai

Andrew Petty is Dying

Do you have a plan for when you die? Do you have a plan for when your loved ones die?  In 2001, Michelle Mathai was just two years into her first foreign service post as vice consul in Auckland, NZ. She and her parents were on a farewell trip around the island in anticipation of Michelle's imminent departure for a new post in El Salvador. In the blink of an eye, the trip turned tragic when their car, with her dad at the wheel and her mom in the back seat, careened off the road and into the mercilessly icy current of a glacial river. As water rushed in, Michelle was able to kick out the...

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Suffering, Surrender, and the Leap of Faith: How to Find Freedom on the Other Side of Letting Go, with Carrie Chown show art Suffering, Surrender, and the Leap of Faith: How to Find Freedom on the Other Side of Letting Go, with Carrie Chown

Andrew Petty is Dying

What do you need to let go of? In her teens, alcohol became Carrie Chown's refuge from emotional pain. By her early college years, she was firmly in the grips of alcoholism. Carrie worked hard to keep everything looking shiny on the outside, but inside she wanted to die. Then, she was diagnosed with pulmonary hypertension as a college junior and was told she had two years to live. Ironically, it felt like an answer to her prayer to die.  In June of 1999, Carrie summoned the will and the courage to get sober so she could begin an IV treatment the following month. Remarkably, she survived...

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What Do You Do?: A Tool for Understanding Yourself Better and Finding Your Unique Path in Life show art What Do You Do?: A Tool for Understanding Yourself Better and Finding Your Unique Path in Life

Andrew Petty is Dying

“What do you do?” We’re all familiar with that question. It comes up naturally when we meet someone for the first time in a social setting. Its usual purpose is to learn what someone does for a living to keep food on the table and a roof over their heads.  In this episode, however, we’ll REpurpose this old question in a new way to help you know yourself better and discern even more clearly the paths in life for which you’re uniquely made. It will become a new tool in your ongoing quest to live YOUR life with guts, gusto, and abandon.    My Answer to “What do you...

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Have Time, or Time Will Have You: Escape Regret and Create a Life You’re Proud Of show art Have Time, or Time Will Have You: Escape Regret and Create a Life You’re Proud Of

Andrew Petty is Dying

This episode is a wake-up call, a call to get back in the driver’s seat of your life, a call to become the boss of your most precious nonrenewable resource: Time.  Because if you don’t have time, Time will ultimately have you. And you won’t like the results.    Guilty as Charged How many times have we heard someone say, “I don’t have time,” or “If only I had more time,” or said something like that ourselves? I imagine we’ve all done it. I sure have.  If we’re honest, sometimes we trot out statements like these like badges of honor in an attempt to show...

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Rites of Passage: How Reviving Neglected Rituals Can Set You Free, with Amy Musson show art Rites of Passage: How Reviving Neglected Rituals Can Set You Free, with Amy Musson

Andrew Petty is Dying

What place do rites of passage have in your life?  In this episode, my special guest is MY coach Amy Musson, and we explore why rites of passage matter and the surprisingly harmful consequences of neglecting them. It turns out that there's more at stake than you might have thought--if you've ever given rites of passage much thought at all.  If you haven't given them much thought, then you're not alone. I think most of us in the materially affluent Western world today have largely neglected meaningful rites of passage. Emphasis on "materially affluent," by the way, because, as Amy and...

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The Making of The Alpinist's Marc-André Leclerc: A Transformational Conversation with Marc-André's Mom, Michelle Kuipers show art The Making of The Alpinist's Marc-André Leclerc: A Transformational Conversation with Marc-André's Mom, Michelle Kuipers

Andrew Petty is Dying

"If I've learned anything in the last three years, it's that life and death are so much bigger than us. You embraced life and love with all your amazing energy, which still reverberates. You are still with us on walks in the forest, on windy ridges, in a sunlit moment after the rain, in the love, laughter, and music of your friends and family. You are there in dreams that seem more real than waking moments. Everyday I think of you on your timeless flight. I love you with all my heart, and miss you more than words can say." Michelle Kuipers wrote this heartrending caption for an Instagram post...

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How To Make the Most of Today: A Simple Framework show art How To Make the Most of Today: A Simple Framework

Andrew Petty is Dying

How do we make the most of today? This episode is short and sweet, banged out somewhat hastily during the current season of curveballs I mentioned in the previous episode–but banged out with love and goodwill toward you, my fellow traveler along life’s winding path, you who are waking up to the reality of your Mortality and courageously embracing it to live with guts, gusto, and abandon.  So today I’m gonna give you what I’ve got and pray that it reaches the hearts of those who need it most. And what I’ve got is a simple framework for making the most of today–the only day...

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What to Do When Life Throws You a Curveball: Notes from the Field show art What to Do When Life Throws You a Curveball: Notes from the Field

Andrew Petty is Dying

What do we do when life throws us a curveball?  On this podcast, we’re equipping ourselves with the mindset and the means to live with guts, gusto, and abandon. Growing in our ability to respond to life’s inevitable curveballs requires both evolving our mindset and upgrading our means. And as we get better at responding to life’s curveballs, we increase our capacity to live with even more guts, gusto, and abandon.  In this episode, I’ll draw from my own recent experience to share with you what I’m learning in real-time about what to do when life throws us a curveball. ...

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Ignore at Your Own Risk: How Your Relationship with Death Affects Your Quality of Life, with Dr. Frederic Tate show art Ignore at Your Own Risk: How Your Relationship with Death Affects Your Quality of Life, with Dr. Frederic Tate

Andrew Petty is Dying

What is your relationship with Death?  It may seem like an odd question, but your answer to it has everything to do with your quality of life. My guest on this episode shares actionable insight into this relationship so that we can optimize our quality of life.    Introducing Dr. Frederic Tate Dr. Frederic Tate is a fascinating human with a perspective on Life and Death forged in the crucible of end-of-life care. A trusted friend connected us, so I knew Frederic was someone I should get to know. And I took an immediate shine to him from afar when I learned that he grew up in the...

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What Do You Want?: A Path to Purpose and Fulfillment, with Chris Slota show art What Do You Want?: A Path to Purpose and Fulfillment, with Chris Slota

Andrew Petty is Dying

What do you want?  It's a simple enough question at face value, but it can be far from easy to answer. Many of us have never truly tried to answer it. Many of us have never been aware that it was important to do so. And many of us are a lot better at knowing what we DON'T want.  Failing to answer this question can lead to surprisingly harmful consequences--but answering it can put us on a path to unprecedented purpose and fulfillment.  Don't just take my word for it, though. In this episode, my guest, Chris Slota, gives us unfiltered access to the remarkable personal...

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What do you consider risky? 

A harrowing late-night brush with Death in 2018 changed Andrea Green's life forever. Since then, she's related to risk very differently and lives with even more guts, gusto, and abandon as a result. 

This episode will challenge your relationship with risk. And I hope it will encourage you to change your relationship with it, too. 

 

Meet Andrea

Andrea lives in Truckee, California, where her life and work reflect her passion for adventure, travel, and the outdoors. She works for Jones snowboards and owns a freelance marketing and graphic design business on the side. With her Australian Shepherd adventure buddy, Chip, Andrea loves snowboarding, mountain biking, split-boarding, hiking, running, and anything else that allows her to explore new places. 

This episode is dedicated to Theo, Andrea's best friend and beloved canine companion who didn't survive that fateful night back in 2018--which is where we picked up the story…

 

Life Changes Forever

To avoid traffic and get there more quickly, Andrea decided to drive through the night to Oregon from Steamboat Springs, CO to visit her family. Around 1:00am, a drunk driver swerved into her lane and hit her head-on. 

Andrea was trapped in the car for two hours as EMS personnel worked to extricate her. At one point, the car burst into flames. Another driver had a fire extinguisher in his car and saved Andrea from the inferno. 

As Andrea waited to be freed from the car, she listened as Theo took his last breath next to her. 

Andrea broke her ankle, femur, tailbone, back, wrist, and collarbone, and she lost four of six total pints of blood volume due to lacerations. She went into surgery that night, spent 4 days in ICU, two weeks in the hospital, and nine months recovering at home with her family. She’s since had 5 more surgeries–the most recent just weeks before we recorded this episode. Four years later, the accident is still very much with her. 

 

Highlights from Our Conversation

  • How to resist the temptation to play the Victim card
  • The personal power that comes from focusing only on what you can control and leaving the rest alone
  • The perils of staying in your comfort zone 
  • Rethinking risk to gain the reward of a life that you love

 

Making it Matter for You

Pause for a moment. I mean really pause. Let the swirl of life continue to swirl around as you quiet your heart and mind. Now, search within yourself for something that you want to do or even know you need to do that feels risky to you. I'm confident that ALL of us can come up with something. How risky is it, really? With the hard-won perspective born of a close personal encounter with Mortality, the loss of her best friend, and the physical and emotional trial that ensued, Andrea challenged us all to not let fear be the thing that gets in the way of what we want or need to do. Are you willing to borrow a page from Andrea's playbook and go for it?

I am. In fact, after recording this episode, I decided to declare 2022 a year of boldness. A year to pull the trigger on the things I've been dragging my feet on or shrinking back in fear from. A year to experience the real-world consequences of risks taken rather than suffer the diminishment that occurs when I don't take the risk and can only wonder what might have happened if I had. You heard it here, and you can hold me to it. 

Back to you and the risk you have in mind. What's just one thing you're willing and able to do TODAY in the direction of that risk? Whatever your answer is...do it. 

Life is SHORT. There is no Tomorrow--only Today. 

Remember, you ARE going to die. But you’re not dead yet. So get after it!

How are you changing your relationship with risk? Shoot me a note on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn, visit my website, or email me. 

 

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