25. Keeping the Spark & Making Love Last
Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast
Release Date: 02/13/2020
58. Managing Jealousy in Relationships ft. Multiamory
Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast
Why do we feel jealous? Jealousy is often a complex, catch-all word that encompasses the emotions of fear, anxiety, disappointment, or anger. Some people romanticize this feeling in relationships. Others use jealousy as a justification for controlling and destructive behaviour. On this episode, Sara sits down with Emily, Dedeker, and Jase, the hosts of the Multiamory Podcast (), to unpack the topic of jealousy. We start off by defining what jealousy is, and sharing candid personal experiences to show it’s a familiar, normal feeling. Instead of trying to avoid or...
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57. The Healing Practice of Yoni Massage
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Yoni massage, which has its origins in Tantra, has recently been getting a lot of attention in the sexual wellness space. What is the meaning of Yoni anyway? It’s Sanskrit term that means “sacred portal” and it represents all the female genital parts - the vulva, vagina, womb and feminine essence. On this episode, Sara is joined by her sex-positive friend Will and Viv Kan (https://www.mindfulintimacy.co), a mindful intimacy coach. They discuss the benefits of yoni massage, what the experience is like and how to incorporate this practice in our intimate lives. ...
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56. Achieving Work Life, Sex Life Balance
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Many of you are busy people with multiple responsibilities and who lead stressful lives. So how do you navigate a good work life, sex life balance? On this episode, Sara talks with Lisa Fei and celebrity matchmaker Carmelia Ray about how to juggle a busy work life and maintain a fulfilling sex life. Respectively, Lisa and Carmelia are the Founder and Head Coach of the relationship wellness app, Clarity () which offers tools for navigating every stage of your relationship journey. Carmelia starts off by defining what an ideal work life, sex life balance could look like and...
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55. Bonus: The Science of Horniness from Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
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On this bonus episode, I’m sharing an excerpt of a new podcast I’m enjoying and think you will, too. On Come As You Are, educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. You’ll get a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Emily debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality. In this preview, Emily answers a listener’s question about losing the motivation to...
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54. The Ins & Outs of Sex Parties
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Curious about attending a sex party, also known as a play party? Think about entering a party with a giant bed, and everyone’s exploring their kinks and fetishes. It’s a smorgasbord of pleasure… On this episode, Sara speaks with a sex-positive couple, James and Kat, who enjoy organizing sex parties. They share their experiences on the ins and outs of planning such a party. James and Kat share the motivations of people in joining a sex party and the kinds of people one might meet at such an event. James and Kat also confess the best and worst play parties they have...
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53. How to Enjoy Porn Ethically
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How can you enjoy porn ethically - with more of the pleasure and less of the guilt? Porn is commonly used to accompany masturbation. On this episode, Sara chats with erotic filmmaker Paulita Pappel () on what constitutes “ethical porn” and how to consume it in a healthy and responsible way. As someone who has been both in front and behind the camera, Paulita shares her journey into erotic filmmaking and how she defines her role as a feminist in the industry. She shares her personal motivations around starting Lustery, a shame-free space for people to share...
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52. Oh My G! Finding & Stimulating the G-Spot
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It’s been called the “Holy Grail” of the woman’s pleasure anatomy. But does the G-spot even exist? It's been a highly debated question. And one that Sara discusses with co-host Kat Leung and guest Vera Lui on this episode. Vera is the founder of Sally Coco (http://sallystoy.com), the first female-friendly sex toy shop in Hong Kong, and a certified sex educator who is happy to share the latest research on the G-spot (or more accurately, G-area), and debunk its biggest myths. Finding and stimulating one's G-spot takes time and practice. We explore the many methods to go...
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51. Sex FAQs - How Do I Get My Libido Back?
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How do I get my libido back? From antidepressants, to trying to conceive and having kids, Sara invites clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kristin Zeising (http://drzeising.com) on this Sex FAQs episode to tackle the different real-life situations that could cause one’s libido to do a disappearing act. We answer the following questions: “Sex is often over in seconds with my husband. But we ignored these issues because we were great friends. Now I just feel nothing towards him sexually. What should I do?” “I enjoy masturbating regularly using porn. But when I...
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50. Exploring Prostate Play
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Have you heard of the “male G-spot”? It’s another name for the prostate and it’s a major erogenous zone. But it’s an area that has been largely unexplored by most people. On this episode, Sara and Prescott Gaylord (http://prescottgaylord.com), an improv actor and intimacy co-ordinator, go on a journey to explore everything in prostate play. First, we discuss what is a prostate, where you can find it, and the benefits of stimulating it for pleasure. Prescott shares his personal experiences of prostate orgasms, which feel longer lasting and more full-bodied than...
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49. Practicing Mindful Masturbation
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How can you be more mindful with masturbation? Mindfulness has taken off as a wellness practice in recent years, yet most people don’t generally think of using it in the context of masturbation. Mindful masturbation is all about reconnecting with yourself and focusing on what makes you feel good. The practice encourages everyone to slow down, become conscious of pleasure and explore the body more holistically, instead of just focusing on the genitals. On this episode, Sara and co-host Prescott invite Singaporean sexuality and intimacy coach Gabriel / “Pothos” () to talk about...
info_outlineHow do we keep that initial passion for sex and intimacy alive for the long-haul?
Highly sought after sexual/marital psychotherapist and founder of The Academy of Lasting Love, Nikki Green shares some illuminating lessons with Sara and co-host Kat from over 20 years of experience primarily working with women in Hong Kong.
She believes that great sex can definitely survive over the long-haul however it’s a myth that it will just happen spontaneously and naturally. Sex is usually full of passion early on in the relationship, but the reality is that this addictive “dopamine high” gradually drops as time passes, and extra effort is required if a couple wants to maintain a healthy sex life.
Nikki emphasizes being deliberate around keeping that spark alive throughout your relationship, regardless of desire. In her view, relying on desire alone isn’t enough to keep a relationship consistently juicy as desire goes up or down at any time.
Instead, making sex in a relationship last is about a commitment to connection, adventure, intimacy and requires a whole different mindset. A big part of which includes scheduling and showing up fully. Listen in as Nikki lays out a roadmap to make this a reality in any relationship!
Download Nikki’s free Spice of Love mini-course – Conversations for Deeper and more Fulfilling Intimacy, which includes questions you can ask each other to immediately improve intimacy and erotic satisfaction.
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