Calming the Chaos
Calming the Chaos welcomes Dr. Matt Goldenberg, Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Teacher. Dr. Matt talks about the COVID-19 Pandemic and why this pandemic has affected LGBTQ+ communities so profoundly. Dr. Matt also presents some ideas to help individuals in LGBTQ communities calm the chaos in a pandemic that is still ongoing.
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Calming the Chaos welcomes Debi Wallbank and Georgia Manning of “The Heart Core Warriors.” Debi and Georgia are on a mission to eliminate the stigma and the trauma of menopause. They are both extremely passionate when talking about menopause, and give some tips, tools and techniques you can use to cope with the Chaos of Menopause!
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Calming the Chaos welcomes Ben Killoy, US Marine Corps Veteran, husband, father and host of two podcasts "The Military Veteran Dad" and "The Business of Fatherhood." Ben talks about how men can learn to remain calm in the face of chaos by accessing a calm place within their own hearts. In doing this, men can help themselves, then help their families and their communities move through experiences of chaos.
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In this podcast, Victoria Shaw, PhD, talks about how she was able to move away from a near constant state of stress and anxiety in her life by learning to connect with her intuition and “inner wisdom.” Victoria will help you learn ways that you can access and use your inner wisdom to transcend chaos and make wise choices during times where you are thrown off balance.
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Lester and Christie Seligman join Calming the Chaos for a fun conversation about family chaos. Through the Pandemic, Lester and Christie had their adult children return home to live. As a family they also faced a number of additional related and unrelated stressors. Lester and Christie share their stories of chaos in a lighthearted and upbeat way, and also share their secrets about how they managed to calm their chaos during an exceptionally stressful time.
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Calming the Chaos interviews Author Michaela Cox, who shares her interesting and chaotic journey through life. She refers to her journey as “My 38DDD,” which includes three main aspects: Disability, Divorce and Death by 38 years of age.
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Zack Rutledge participates in a Live Podcast Interview with Calming the Chaos. Zack is an ACE Certified Trainer, Fitness Nutrition Specialist and Brain Health Trainer. Zack is also a black belt in Karate, and practices Yoga.
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Tracy Kenela at Calming the Chaos interviews Laura Vaillancourt, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Creator of the Podcast "Life on Repeat." Tracy and Laura talk about red flags to be aware of when starting a new relationship....whether it is a friendship, romance or online relationship. Laura offers her own experience in relationships and her expertise through working with people who struggle in relationships.
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Calming the Chaos welcomes Francie White, Ph.D. and Maria Rippo, M.A. onto a Live YouTube Show on Monday, April 5, 2021 at 1pm PST. We will talk about how painful and chaotic experiences can help you find meaning in life, and can prepare you to better cope with life’s challenges!
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Sarah Buino, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), joins Calming the Chaos for a livestream show on YouTube to talk about the chaos of childhood trauma. Sarah will also share about how she helps her adult clients calm the chaos of their childhood trauma using a variety of different healing techniques, including NARM (neuro-affective relational
info_outlineEpisode Title: “Confinement Chaos” By Tracy Kenela, M.A., LMHC, CRC, CEDS, ACHT of Lokahi Counseling
Intro: Tracy Kenela is the founder of Lokahi Counseling and Calming the Chaos Podcast. In this episode, Tracy continues to offer help to those who are struggling with being confined to their homes during the COVID-19 Quarantine. Tracy presents an overview of the two types of people who generally struggle with “Confinement Chaos,” and presents some examples of common problematic thought patterns that can create or increase chaos in the mind under quarantine. Tracy presents the RADICAL Approach that can help both types of people Calm the Chaos of Confinement.
1. “Confinement Chaos” is similar to “Cabin Fever” in that you are “confined” to a space by yourself or others. Confinement in both cases can cause chaos in the mind when thoughts become overwhelming, confused, random, intense or uncontained.
Confinement Chaos can happen to at least two groups of people:
a. Those who (in general) PREFER to have contact with others
b. Those who (in general) do NOT prefer to have contact with others
2. Confinement Chaos happens in people who PREFER to have contact with others because of a sense of LOSS (i.e. “I don’t have enough of what I DO want”)
a. They miss the people they want to be with
b. They experience a sense of loss at not being able to do fun activities
c. They miss being in people’s energy
3. Confinement Chaos happens in people who prefer NOT to have contact with others because of a sense of OVERWHELM (i.e. “I have too much of what I DON’T want”)
a. They get overwhelmed by their own thoughts and feelings
b. They are sensitive to other people they are confined with
c. They may feel even MORE socially pressured because of online invitations and options
4. Seven (7) Thought patterns commonly seen in those who PREFER contact with others:
i. I am going crazy here all alone
ii. Anything is better than being all by myself
iii. will this ever end? What if it doesn’t?
iv. I didn’t get to go to prom or graduation or on that trip to Europe or…..
v. I need a hug and I may never get one ever again
vi. I am just not happy when other people aren’t around to cheer me up
vii. I’m stuck with people I don’t like, and can’t see the one I love
Having these sorts of thoughts can create emotions such as anxiety, frustration, fear and sadness because something is missing that they want!
5. Seven (7) Thought patterns commonly seen in those who do NOT prefer contact with others:
i. I am going crazy here with these people….get me out of here!
ii. Anything is better than being with these people
iii. will this ever end? What if it doesn’t? GET ME OUT OF HERE!
iv. I just need a quiet moment to myself and I’ll probably never get it
v. I wish people would just stay away from me and leave me alone!
vi. These people are bringing me down and making me mad
vii. Why did I ever think I loved this person? They are driving me mad!
Having these sorts of thoughts can create emotions such as anxiety, frustration, fear and sadness because they have too much of something they DON’T want!
6. The RADICAL Solution to overcoming Confinement Chaos:
Reflect on your Relationship with yourself: Which type are you? Do you like being alone? With others? Why would that matter? SIMPLE to figure out:
Like With others: Positive experiences ------- Want to be with others
Like Without others: Negative experiences --- Want to be alone
Bottom line: Most people want to be with people they want to be with
Assess your Ability and willingness to make changes: Create options or distance?
Discover and Describe your emotional experiences: See Above. Decide to change thinking.
Intuition Intellect to seek solutions to struggles: Use intuition and intellect to decide what to do
Communicate your needs Clearly: I statements “I feel_______when________. I need ________.”
CAVEAT: You may not get what you ask for…no matter HOW skillfully you ask!
Allow yourself to receive Assistance from yourself and others. Ask for help and receive it!
Love yourself no matter what. Love yourself through this!
Listen to “Calming the Chaos” Podcast by visiting calmingthechaos.libsyn.com, or visit my Website: at www.lokahicounseling.com
On my website, there’s a link to a mindfulness CD I created called “On This Day.” This CD teaches you how to practice mindfulness in less than 10 minutes throughout the day. Practicing mindfulness has been shown to reduce stress and increase clear thinking in times of chaos.
You can purchase the CD on Amazon at http://bit.ly/onthisdaycd. or in digital format at https://music.apple.com/us/album/on-this-day/1209386067
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References
Beck, A.T. (1976). Cognitive therapy and the emotional disorders. New York, NY: International Universities Press, Inc.
Linehan, M. M. (1993). Cognitive-behavioral treatment of borderline personality disorder. New York, NY, Guilford Press.
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