233-CONFLICT is... good? Interview with Larry Shushansky
Release Date: 01/09/2020
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info_outlineOh man! You're going to get a lot out of this one. Larry Shushansky (from https://www.independentenough.com/) has 40 years of experience as a psychotherapist. We dig into what conflict is, why it happens and how to deal with it. But also that it is GOOD for your marriage.
However, MOST couples do conflict WRONG---thus it's BAD for theirs. Don't let yours be in this category!
He has been featured on: Psychology Today, Fast Company, Chicago Tribune, The Huffington Post to name a few... and it shows!
Some things may SURPRISE you.
- How could conflict be good?
- How do you MAKE conflict good?
- What does it mean to be independent but also dependent in your marriage?
- Aren't you supposed to be vulnerable with your spouse? So, why would you also be independent? Is there some kind of manipulation here?
- My hope is it will challenge you to think way differently about conflict and your connectedness with your spouse.
Oh, and Larry and I have a conflict about something. I think you'll be really interested to hear! Neither of us backed down and he says we did it right.
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Also, I mentioned that I'd like to invite you and your spouse to attend my Live and Free webinar series:
New Year, ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy! Sign up here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew2020
This is for couples (or people to watch on their own) and a ending segment JUST for wives. If you're looking for an easy segue-way to invite your wife to be interested in my work THIS IS IT.
Or if you have friends that need this work but you don't know how to talk to them about DYM because you know... sex. I get it!
This is a easy to digest and hints of truths about intimacy but nothing as strong and explicit as I have on my podcast or other material. Its a super easy intro as well as extremely helpful relationship tools.
Looking forward to having you!
Love,
Belah