234-Oral Sex: Why He Cares (SO Much) & Why She's Not Comfortable
Release Date: 01/16/2020
Delight Your Marriage
Maybe you're in the midst of a really tough season. It feels like you're alone and barely keeping your head above water. Marriage woes can be the most stressful aspect of a person's life. I want to encourage you that your suffering matters. I was walking through a museum with my son the other day, and a painting depicted a martyr who was tortured for his faith. It was a moment that helped me reflect on the importance of my suffering every day. If a moment like that occurred, where I would have to make a choice between Jesus and comfort... I...
info_outline 422-Compassion Fatigue. Interview with Kevin BueltmannDelight Your Marriage
If you're a pastor or are shepherded by a pastor, it is important to know that the work of the pastor is hard and can have a deep impact on the leader of such work. In this episode, we explore the emotional and psychological cost of deeply caring for others. In today's episode, we delve into compassion fatigue, its causes, and the impact it has on individuals in helping professions. Here's what you'll learn: What is compassion fatigue and how does it differ from burnout? Professions most susceptible to compassion fatigue. Warning signs and symptoms to watch out for. ...
info_outline 363-Take Responsibility, Change & THAT Creates Real Intimacy. Mick's Transformation Story (Rerelease)Delight Your Marriage
I pulled out a fan-favorite episode to share today! If you haven't heard it, you don't want to miss this story. It'll encourage you. -- Mick is a dynamic, charismatic, but also a tell-it-straight kinda guy. When his marriage was shallow in terms of connection, emotionally and intimately, he jumped at an opportunity that he discerned understood him as a man and also had a proven track record for change. After taking responsibility, the MAIN change was his heart. He shares some particulars on why that was so vital in the outward changes of his marriage. But, he began to realize who God...
info_outline 421-Be Your Spouse's ServantDelight Your Marriage
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info_outline 420-Argument vs. ClarificationDelight Your Marriage
If you've been around for a while, you may have heard that we say you must have "0 arguments" in your marriage. "But that's not normal." "But that's not healthy." "But that means someone is not being honest." Well, firstly, it's not my rule. Among many other verses, let's look at Romans 1:29, 30, 32; 2:1, 2. “They have become filled with every kind of wickedness... murder, strife... gossips... arrogant and boastful..." "Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of...
info_outline 419-Half Truths Can Destory More than LiesDelight Your Marriage
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info_outline 311-Intimacy and the Gospel (Re-release)Delight Your Marriage
(This is a re-release from previously.) I used to be so weirded out by sex because I was pursuing Jesus with everything. How could my life be sold out for Christ and have to engage in such carnal behavior? Then God opened my eyes to quite a lot. I hope you’ll listen to today’s podcast with an open heart and willingness to let Him reveal His true design and desire for you in your marriage. Love & Blessings, Belah PS – We'd love to help with your marriage/intimacy please set up a call with a Clarity Advisor to see how we can help:
info_outline 418-Appreciate Your Spouse's UniquenessDelight Your Marriage
"We're just so different." "We have nothing in common." "Our personalities are not compatible." This is a big problem in marriages. People notice differences and assume it's a bad thing. This is understandable...but very wrong. God, in His amazing creativity, designed your spouse and you differently. He also made a deer look differently than an alligator. He made a duck's personality differently than an anaconda's. He made the octopus loners, but curious, and the ant disciplined, but incredibly collaborative. Why do we assume and expect God to make...
info_outline 417-Resensitize Your Pleasure (for PIED, Low Drive & Hi Drive folk)Delight Your Marriage
"Why can't I be fulfilled by what I SHOULD be able to?" -Higher-drive men, Higher-drive women "Why can't I get aroused by what I SHOULD be able to?" -Lower-drive women, PI/ED men I want to invite you to consider what brings you pleasure. I want you to consider what causes you to ENJOY life. At Delight Your Marriage we focus a lot of intimacy. (And this episode does too). God has designed sex to be a way to receive pleasure. But is it God's only way for you to receive pleasure in this amazing world? Did Jesus receive pleasure in this world? (Even without...
info_outline 416-Increased Desire (Asexual is/not a Thing?) Sarah's Transformation StoryDelight Your Marriage
Many of our wife listeners have lower drives than their husbands. (I hear you!) And that’s just the way it is. Nothing to be done, just deal with it. Also, if they’re like I have been, since she has a lower sex drive she just has to put up with the requirement of her to make love even though she’s less than enthusiastic about it because she has to have sex and can’t do the things she really wants to be doing. Or sometimes avoids it altogether. I have been there. And so has Sarah. She and I both have high drive husbands. And we both...
info_outlineWives:
As a wife who was bewildered by his desire and feeling grossed out by it, I get it!
But more than that... my hangups included, it's dirty, wrong, sinful, perverted, from the pornos, etc etc etc.
But he kept caring about this. And he wasn't the only one.
And now I hear from husbands all the time about how important this is to them.
And these guys aren't jerks, pigs, or abusers.
They're God-honoring gentlemen, who love their wives, they're good fathers and they want to enjoy their lives and their marriage and LOVE HER THE WAY SHE FEELS LOVED TOO!
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Husbands:
On this episode I have some practical (VERY ehemmm practical) tips for you. This can be something for you guys in your marriage even if you've been married many years!
If you're tempted to ask your wife to listen to this... consider for a bit. Will it make her feel forced?
Instead, I want to invite you to my live, free webinar series coming up!
This is an awesome opportunity to get your wife introduced to my work.
It'll have intimacy sprinkled in but it won't be as focused (and possibly alarming to someone not really on board with my concepts).
But you'll want to attend the webinar too because it'll have golden nuggets for you two! What can YOU do to encourage your wife in this?
ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy!
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The other free resource I mentioned is The 7 Blocks to Her Libido resource!
Looking forward to having you at the Webinar Series. (Also, if you are seeing this in the future, you can go to the same link and gain some kind of helpful material!)
ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy!