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Is Your Career Identity Preventing Your Happiness?

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Release Date: 06/15/2021

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Let me make this clear…

 

You are more than what you do for a living!!

 

Your identity is more and deeper than what you do for your career or business!

 

Fellas, ultimately, we are destroying ourselves because we are defining ourselves primarily by what we do for a living…instead of by the TRUTH OF WHO WE ARE!

 

Our identity is HOW we see and perceive ourselves…how we define ourselves. How we perceive  ourselves has great impact on whether we have positive or negative self-esteem toward ourselves. This identity dictates how we show up in the world.

 

PROBLEM: WE IDENTIFY OURSELVES BASED ON OUR CAREER

 

  1. We often identify & define ourselves by what we do (i.e. doctor, lawyer, business owner, etc.), and how well we do it.
  • If you were asked…”Who are you?” How would you answer? Often times our professional title is used to answer that question.
  • When first meeting someone we often immediately talk about what we do. The first question after greeting someone and sharing our name is the question, “What do you do?”
  1. We connect our WORTH and VALUE to what we do and how well we do it
  • We often automatically translate our level of success or failure within our career or business, to a measure of what our personal value and worth is.
  • We often think…”Once I achieve this next career goal…then I’ll be happy”. This in essence is saying, “I will feel better about myself…I will feel of value and worth only AFTER I achieve this professional goal”.

 

Unfortunately, this dependence of our identity on our career is a setup for…

  1. Perpetual failure: In essence we never believe we are good enough because our worth will always be connected to the next goal we are in pursuit of and therefore only happy and fulfilled once we achieve it. That means the rest of the time while in pursuit of achieving the goal, you feel ‘less than’.
  2. An emotional rollercoaster: If (and only when) we achieve, then we are happy about ourselves. But if we don’t achieve, then we feel horrible about ourselves.
  3. Conditional self-worth: Your self-worth and self-esteem is completely conditional upon performance…which is false!! Your self-worth and value has NOTHING TO DO with your performance or achievement! You have intrinsic value that fuels your ability to achieve…not that achievement fuels your value.
  4. A lack of self-control: We can NOT control many circumstances that influence our results in life. Therefore, when we connect our value to our results, we are in essence connecting our value to things we have zero control over.

 

What I’ve found is that when our identity and value is tied to influences that are external from us, such as our job or titles, it creates what I call a conditional performance identity:

  • If I perform well…then I have a temporary positive self-esteem and value
  • If I don’t perform well…then I have a constant negative self-esteem and value

 

The challenge with this way of thinking is that our career, jobs, and businesses can change based on circumstances we have no control over (i.e. market changes, Covid, etc.) And if circumstances change the results within our career…then so does our identity and self-value.

 

Examples:

Professional sports

  • Post retirement identity issues: Athletes struggle with retirement because their identity was primarily defined by their career as an athlete. As the career retires, so does their identity and feeling of self-worth.
  • Career Anxiety & depression: When they don’t perform at a certain level, they will struggle mentally because their value and identity is tied to their level of performance.

 

This happens within our careers as well…but it just more on full display with professional sports.

 

SOLUTION: ANCHOR OUR IDENTITY ON SOMETHING FOUNDATIONAL THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE

 

Your identity is WHO YOU ARE…not What you do!!

 

Your identity should help you in ALL areas of life! Not just for your career!

 

Who you are is based on THE TRUTH who YOUR CREATOR says you are and the INTRINSIC UNIQUENESS AND VALUE YOU WERE BORN WITH.

You ARE…

  • A child of God: Therefore by definition you are
  • Royalty: You are a chosen child of The King
  • Capable: Made in the image and likeness of God himself
  • A Citizen of heaven: You are a representative of The Kingdom of Heaven
  • Great: God is great, and the Spirit of God is IN YOU…therefore you are great
  • Complete: You are already equipped with greateness. You don’t NEED anything to be great.

 

Therefore, you show up great, because your intrinsic value is great! You don’t need to prove your value by performing because you ALREADY ARE GREAT!

 

I envision God asking…”Who told you, that you were just a doctor…lawyer…business owner?”

 

When you come from this place of known intrinsic value and greatness…the pressure is off! You don’t have to perform to prove your worth or value. You can now create to the level of who your TRUE identity is, based off of who your creator says you are.

 

ACTION: DISCOVER WHO GOD SAYS YOU ARE

 

Do some simple research. Google this phrase: “What does God say about who I am in the bible?”

Write down your top 3 things of what God says about who you are. Start telling yourself this daily to remind yourself about who you really are and your true identity!

 

If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com

 

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad