A Key To Less Stress & More Fulfillment

Have you ever felt like you are trying to juggle everything in life and it’s become stressful and overwhelming?

If you desire to have less stress, more peace, and more fulfillment…today I’m going to discuss the right order of life’s priorities in order to perform at a higher level with less stress

 

THE CHALLENGE:

We are stressed and overwhelmed. Work and life are disorganized.

With the juggling of work and life it feels like a ball is always dropping or we are scrambling to try and prevent it from dropping.

It seems like we can’t catch up with life.

 

Stress is a killer! Stress causes us to live in a ‘survival mode’ as opposed to ‘thriving mode’. This stressful survival mode expends a lot of energy to maintain, and unfortunately, it doesn’t leave enough energy for recovery and sustaining life. Ultimately, this stress can influence issues such as…

• Digestion issues
• Chest pain & Heart issues
• Cancer, etc.

Just to name a few physical characteristics of stress.

 

 

THE PROBLEM:

We have poor ways of managing stress and lack a framework or ‘order of living’ that can ultimately help us prevent stress…instead of reacting to it.

 

There was a time in my life when I was very stressed and overwhelmed and it seemed like no matter how much daily work I did…it seemed like not a whole lot got done. I had no order…no structure to my work and life. Life was very reactive instead of prepared and organized.

 

However, I eventually learned that much of my stress was because of a lack of a framework or structured order for how to prioritize all the aspects of my life that matter. Once I learned the combination of “STRUCTURE & SPACE” in my life…I began to get more done daily, weekly, and monthly in every area of my life. My faith, fatherhood, marriage, work, health,…everything improved.

 

THE SOLUTION:

Non-negotiable Order of life’s Priorities: 1. God, 2. Marriage, 3. Children, 4. Work (Others),

1. God first:
   1. Why?
      1. We are designed to perform at our best, as men, by being in direct relationship with God
      2. Success in ALL other areas of life are contingent upon this relationship and your spiritual growth
   2. 2 Ideas Prevent us from prioritizing God 1st
      1. We don’t connect our relationship with God with our performance in work and life
         1. God provides clarity!!
         2. Spiritual Growth = Greater Work/Life Performance
      2. We believe if we put God 1st, that somehow we will sacrifice our quality of life
         1. This couldn’t be any further from the truth!
         2. Relationship with God = Results in HIS WAY!
      3. My Story:

Once I began to place God as the #1 priority in my life…EVERYTHING got better! However, it took me surrendering to his will and not my own.

1. Action Item: Create Time & Space for God
   1. INVEST Daily time with God. Start building and cultivating that relationship
2. Marriage second:
   1. Why?
      1. An unhealthy marriage is a setup for stress and draining energy, which translates into poor performance in other areas of life
   2. Problem:
      1. We don’t see our marriage as a part of our performance but it is.
      2. We see time spent with our spouse as pulling us away from our work…instead of helping it.

• Happy marriage = Greater Performance

1. My Story:

Once I began to invest quality time toward my spouse and marriage…I noticed my work life was better, because I didn’t have personal stress distracting my focus on my work and business

1. Action Item: Create Time & Space within your marriage:
   1. INVEST in time with your spouse
      1. Weekly talk time
      2. Monthly date night
   2. Children
      1. Why after marriage?
         1. If mamma ain’t happy…the kids ain’t happy
      2. Problem:
         1. Similar to marriage…we think time with our children takes away from our work. However, we work better when relationships at home are healthy
      3. My Story:

I once thought that time with my children was drawing me away from work and preventing me from work tasks. However, once I created a routine of quality time invested in this relationship…my entire life got better!

1. Action Item: Invest consistent Space & Time with your children

 

The Reason this works:

We can NEVER see or measure the magnitude of neglect of our personal life!! We are BLIND to the magnitude of neglect on both our personal and professional lives!

 

This way of thinking prevents neglect

Neglect = Eventual Disaster

It reinforces and FEEDS the things that matter

Prioritizing my faith and personal life made all of life better

4. If forces you to be more efficient and effective with your professional tasks

It may give you less time to do work, but we typically give ourselves too much time to do work that actually takes less time. Give yourself 6 hours to do an 8 hour task and you’ll find you can do it in 6 hours.

5. It puts life into perspective
   1. God is in control no matter what you think.
   2. We aren’t making things happen nearly as much as we think we are

 

 

RESULTS?

Go from stressful to stress less.

Go from no peace to peaceful.

Go from empty to fulfilled…and more results in work and life!

 

If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad