Good Girls Talk About Sex
In this coaching episode, Sophilia asks: why does she keep ending up in relationships where things don’t feel right, and the entire weight of making it better falls on her? Leah works with Sophilia to: understand the red flags for this type of relationship, the communication skills that will help screen them out, rethink her own experience of being turned on. Sophilia is a 39-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as queer, single, and multi-racial with a white mother and Black father. In the past she’s been in monogamous relationships, but currently prefers the idea of being...
info_outline When the man teaching consent is the one violating youGood Girls Talk About Sex
Last year I found myself in the middle of a shitstorm for daring to expose a community leader's abusive behavior. Today I tell the whole story. The backlash was immediate and intense, with DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics used to paint me as the problem. Suddenly, I was not just standing as a representative of this man’s abuse, but also receiving harassment and ostracization from those I once considered my community. Sharing this story isn't just about telling you what’s going on; it's about shining a light on the dark corners of abuse and systemic failure....
info_outline Pop Culture Pillow Talk: Starstruck on HBOGood Girls Talk About Sex
What happens when your brain is so busy it can't slow down to enjoy having sexy time with the cute guy who's totally into you? In today's episode, we break down the first two episodes of the HBO show Starstruck with teen sex and relationship educator Julia Sheldon (who also happens to be Leah's dear friend.) We focus on lead character Jessie and how overthinking gets in the way of being present. Upcoming Beyond Permission class schedule: Thursday, Feb. 22 - Embracing your inner MILF with Danielle Tuesday, Feb. 27 - Dating at midlife with Leah Tuesday, March 5 - Sex toys show & tell...
info_outline Having the best sex of my life at 63 - DebbieGood Girls Talk About Sex
In this coaching/storytelling episode, Debbie talks about having the best sex of her life at age 63. Her question: Is that usual? While Debbie has always been multi-orgasmic, now she's having dozens of orgasms in a single sex session. And the connection with her new husband is a big part of the reason. Debbie is a 63 year old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married. She describes her body as slender and athletic. And don't forget: the BEYOND PERMISSION workshop starts next week! Use coupon code "beyond20" to join us! BEYOND PERMISSION workshop...
info_outline Why don't you want to have sex with me?Good Girls Talk About Sex
Togetherness is an HBO show that explores the challenges of maintaining a healthy and active sex life in a long-term relationship with small children. In today's episode, Danielle Silverstein from the popular Marriage and Martinis podcast joins Leah to discuss the first two episodes of the show. They dive into the complexities of sexual fulfillment, gender roles, expectations and resentments. Join us for a deep, thought-provoking, and insightful conversation about challenges of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship. BEYOND PERMISSION workshop (use code "beyond20" for $20 off...
info_outline Navigating the sex talk demonsGood Girls Talk About Sex
Leah joins Danielle of Marriage & Martinis to talk about why Danielle's conversation with her husband about intimacy and pleasure was explosive and chaotic. Leah breaks down what we need to remember during these very tough conversations: we’ve been conditioned differently from the time we’re very young, and are often simply adhering to the roles we’ve been instructed to fulfill. They talk about why we can’t always trust our bodies’ physical responses during intimacy, games that can be played in lieu of telling our partner, “we’re not satisfied” as means to get a...
info_outline I wish they would SLOW DOWN - Coaching MariaGood Girls Talk About Sex
In this coaching episode, Maria asks the age old question: why is it so hard to ask for what I want?! She's convinced that her problem is in poor communication skills, but it doesn't take long to discover that the issue lies in a complete different area. Leah works with Maria to: understand how gender dynamics are creating friction in the "what do you want?" conversation, rethink how her definition of "sex" makes asking so difficult, practice the way she'd like to initiate a conversation about sex with potential partners. Maria is a 27-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as...
info_outline Leah faces an identity crisisGood Girls Talk About Sex
Leah delves into a deeply personal topic: how trauma and mental health have impacted her ability to show up authentically. She talks about the impact her demanding, charismatic father had on her psyche and sense of safety. In admitting her fear of being viewed as not good enough or too much like their father, Leah discusses the creation of a performative persona and the desire to shift to a more authentic voice. Who Is Your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego? Work with Leah: Apply for a free coaching session: Support the show: Full show notes:
info_outline My mother said "Don't sell your body" - Coaching LisaGood Girls Talk About Sex
In this coaching episode, Lisa talks about learning to stay present when she's having pleasure. Currently her mind wanders during sex to making grocery lists or worrying that what she's doing is wrong. Leah works with Lisa to: understand what's underneath her brain's tendency to wander, reframe her judgments about sex workers, and recognize the effects of early childhood parentification. Lisa is a 44-year-old cisgender woman who lives in Italy. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, single & having fun, and exploring different relationship styles because she's not sure she...
info_outline All labia are beautiful - Hypermobility and a labiaplastyGood Girls Talk About Sex
Leah shares the next step in her health care journey: hypermobility. And this one has even more wide-ranging implications than the endometriosis diagnosis that upended her world six months ago. Take the brand new quiz to find your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego! Find the quiz at Links to earlier health update episodes: March 2nd May 25th July 20th Also mentioned in this episode: Hypermobility coach Tracy Rodriguez - Hypermobility and Proprioception: What’s with the clumsiness? - Psychiatric and psychological aspects in the Ehlers–Danlos syndromes - Low- and...
info_outlineIn part 2 of my conversation with Jessi Kneeland, we talk about working through the messaging I received as a child about my body and sexuality, learning to say “no”, and how women protect men’s feelings during heterosexual sex.
Thanks to Jessi for interviewing ME! She is an amazing body image coach and I highly recommend following her on Instagram and signing up for her weekly #TransparentTuesday emails.
- 3:20 – Being assaulted by my dad, but not believing it was sexual because his hands didn’t get under my clothing
- 6:07 – Confronting my father about the assault
- 8:49 – Silencing and gaslighting
- 9:41 – Detangling violence and sexuality in my brain
- 14:26 – Learning what consent actually means
- 16:45 – Learning to say “no” so that I could have a real, strong “yes”
- 18:20 – Protecting men’s feelings during heterosexual sex
- 19:24 – The body image work I’ve done
- 21:30 – Conversations I heard about my mother’s body and how that affected my own body image
- 23:45 – What it’s like to carry conflicting beliefs about myself
- 25:43 – AM I NORMAL? question – Is it normal that I have no sex drive during quarantine?
- 26:04 – Leah’s answer – YES! How stress affects our libido and our touch need
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