How Do We Tell the Kids? With Breta Collins, Marriage & Family Therapist
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
Release Date: 10/01/2018
Dealing With Mortgage Debt and Refinancing After Divorce
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
Divorcing couples often find themselves at a loss when trying to determine how to handle what is often their largest asset, the family home. Who stays in the home? What does the person who is leaving the home do for a substitute home? How do you finance these decisions?
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What is a Guardian Ad Litem? with Hollie Bennett
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
In this episode, Leigh Sellers speaks with Hollie Bennett of Palmetto Guardian and Adoption Services about her work as a guardian ad litem. They examine what the position of a guardian ad litem entails and their various responsibilities related to child custody cases. Guardian ad litem are assigned by the court to advocate for the children, conducting a fair, balanced, and impartial investigation by collecting information through interviews, home visits, and other means.
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Can I Get My Child Support Changed Due to COVID-19?
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
The world has been facing a public health crisis that has caused significant economic changes and uncertainty. In the first two quarters of the year, families that are both intact and separated are facing increasing financial problems and struggles. More so for the latter, if one parent is obligated by the court to pay child support. But, with the ongoing pandemic, are there laws in place that allow for modification of child support?
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How Do You Raise Kids With Your Ex?
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
One of the more prominent narratives surrounding separation and divorce involves ex-spouses being at each other’s throats and constantly arguing with one another. Such a hostile environment not only affects the former couple but negatively impacts their children as well. While separation and divorce are difficult for everyone involved, a happy co-parenting ending with your ex is a very real possibility.
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How You're Screwing Up Your Divorce Case
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
The outcome of divorce and custody cases isn’t just dependent on your attorney or the judge. Believe it or not, your attitude and decisions during the whole process are going to affect how it all works out in the end. You have a lot of control over your own success, and the divorce attorney is there to guide you along the way in terms of the legal implications and ramifications of your situation.
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Alcoholism and Child Custody with Chris Beck of Soberlink
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
Child custody cases are often the toughest types of cases that go through family court. Far too often, those cases involve parents with alcohol and substance abuse issues. Some states, including North Carolina, allow for alcohol monitoring systems in child custody cases. In this episode, we talk with Chris Beck of Soberlink, a modern tool that helps parents struggling with alcohol abuse stay involved in their children's lives.
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What is a Custody Evaluation? with Dr. Sean Knuth
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
Child custody cases are often the toughest types of cases in family court. Frequently, lawyers must call upon experts outside the legal field for assistance. In this episode of Welcome to Splitsville, we explore what a custody evaluation is, who is involved, and how it can affect your child custody case.
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What is a Divorce Coach? With Sandra Lee of Emerge Victorious
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
On this episode of Welcome to Splitsville, we explore what a divorce coach does and explore how utilizing a coach can help you navigate your divorce. Today's conversation is with Sandra Lee, a divorce coach in Charlotte, NC, with more than 20 years of experience.
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Do I Need a Prenup ?
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
You did the proposal, the ring, and the "yes!" Now, you're attacking your wedding planning To-Dos. The modern wedding planning to-do list frequently includes some variation of "discuss getting a prenup." On this episode of Welcome to Splitsville, we explore the question of whether you need a prenuptial agreement or "prenup."
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How Do You Pick a Therapist?
Welcome to Splitsville | Navigating Divorce in a Modern World
Often a breakup is too stressful for a person to handle on their own. Divorce attorneys are often asked for recommendations on finding a good therapist. On this episode of Welcome to Splitsville, we explore how to pick a therapist and the therapist's role in helping you through a divorce.
info_outlineFor some parents, the prospect of telling their children about the decision to divorce can be among the most difficult parts of the process. What do we tell them? How much do we tell them? Are there things we shouldn't say? Do we talk to them together or individually? How do we discuss this in a way that is developmentally appropriate for our children? With so many questions where does one even begin?
4:14 - When telling the children, this important factor can increase resiliency, coping, and prevent further damage, anxiety, and depression.
5:35 - Divorce is hardest on children at this age
6:29 - Why "staying together for the kids" isn’t necessarily the right move
7:22 - The best time of day to have the talk (and the worst)
8:24 - Why it’s important to tell siblings together
13:55 - Things you should and shouldn’t tell your children about your separation and divorce
16:41 - Why showing emotion when you tell your children can be a good thing
20:21 - Signals your children are having difficulty adjusting to your separation and divorce
21:39 - Why you should wait at least one year to introduce your children to a new boyfriend or girlfriend
23:44 - The importance of both parents remaining actively involved in the everyday lives of the children
24:18 - Why you should never talk bad about the other parent in front of the children
24:54 - Tips for effective communication when you just aren’t ready to talk to your ex
27:45 - Resources for couples going through separation and divorce