Your Emotional Triggers - When Your Partner Triggers You Take These Steps To Reflect & Reconnect Episode 84
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Release Date: 06/16/2020
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3 Mistakes Men Make in Marriage: Episode 331
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
From the thousands of coaching sessions, DMs, and emails that we receive, we tend to see themes come up in marriage. You would be surprised to learn how common certain topics are for couples, that all seem to come up in the same weeks and months. We are not here to hypothesize about why that is, but just make these themes known. Lately we have been noticing themes around men and mistakes they are making in marriage. These are not character flaws but just patterns of behavior that we see adding to the dynamics in marriage. Today you will hear from Aaron on this solo episode about the 3 mistakes...
info_outlineYou know those things your partner says or does that TRIGGER you? YES trigger, meaning you have an automatic emotion that comes up that then causes you to get upset. Then from there you may both do things that hurt and keep you disconnected for hours, days, or even weeks!
You’re not alone, we received hundreds of comments when we asked the community what triggers them in their relationship. This episode comes directly from a post on FB and Instagram about “what does your partner do that triggers you?”
We share what many of those responses were PLUS:
- The root cause of your personal triggers
- 3 things you can do differently when you do get triggered
- And how to talk calmly to your partner about triggers so they can support you
Quotes:
“It’s not your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around your emotional triggers. It is your opportunity to identify them, heal them and then ask them to support you.” - Jocelyn
“Become aware, then share!” - Aaron
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