Rebuilding Trust After Broken Promises (whether big or small) Episode 89
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Release Date: 07/21/2020
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
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info_outlineTrust is the feeling of: “you have my back”. When trust is high in any relationship you can feel that you can fly, fail, and yet still be accepted and loved by your partner. This is so foundational for a healthy, happy relationship that wants to be able to grow. When trust has been broken, whether from a big or small event, it harbors doubt, resentment, and suspicion in the relationship.
Today’s topic came from several DM’s and IG poll votes, plus a financial trust question from Teresa: “After repeat offenses running the gamut of petty to severe in nature on occasion; how do you rebuild trust in a real way? I am between being codependent in needing to trust deeply and frustrated because I feel like I never can 100% trust because of the continued offenses and boundary crossing.”
One other question was: “It was about a promise of not doing something, then doing it and lying about it to my face….multiple times. So broken promises/outright lies/secrets. How to make amends and be consistent with everything?” Thank you everyone for the questions and even Alicia from the book club, being honest about wanting to rebuild trust.
Today from this episode you’ll takeaway:
- What trust really means within your relationship
- The major effects a lack of trust can have
- Why you or your partner would break a promise or even lie
- 4 ways to rebuild trust in your partner and the relationship.
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