#38: What If They Say No?
Stop People Pleasing
A short episode on managing fear of rejection - in real time! Most people will tell you to not worry about reaching out to new people - but I explain why - for recovering people pleasers - this is rubbish advice…and what to replace it with. Harriet Morris Info (at) theshiftinside.com
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#37: Three Ways To Protect Your Energy
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Have you ever thought that a powerful and liberating reframe to stop people pleasing is to focus on protecting your energy?
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#36: A Better Question
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Today I talk about a question I used to ask myself when I was mired in people pleasing, and give you a MUCH better alternative.
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#35: Empath Confidence
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Today we discuss empath confidence. Many pieces of advice around improving your sense of self are written by , and for, non empaths...and are likely yo leave you feeling inadequate. The truth is that you need tailor-made ideas for dealing with a world that is not set up for you.
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#34: The Lie
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Today a short story called The Lie, with a twist in the tale. You might not like the twist, but if you want to stop people's good intentions draining the life out of you, listen up!
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Empath Drama Triangle
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Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/
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#32: Askholes
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Heads Up! Go to https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/
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#31: How Not To Be A Hyperreactive Mess
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Today is the second part of this week's series on the key skills of stopping people pleasing.
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#30: The Escape Room
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This is an empath's dilemma, set in an escape room. The question is: What would you do?
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#29: Phantom Thread
Stop People Pleasing
Today’s episode is a look at Paul Thomas Anderson’s 2017 film Phantom Thread through the lens of stopping people pleasing. WARNING: SPOILER ALERT!
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While there is a lot of truth in this, I contend in this episode that the opposite is a more powerful way to make things better for yourself - especially if standing up to others is an issue for you.
Yes, I am talking about your actions changing your mindset, your beliefs and your life.
Could actions be more powerful than mindset?
In this episode:
*Teardown of why belief change is limited – it is only ever useful as a description. It is not a prescription, which unfortunately is what is being sold as. Find out what I mean by this.
*A straightforward example of actions changing beliefs about other people.
*The process of using actions to change your concept of yourself, using the example of not being so available for people you wish to distance yourself from.
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