Healthy Boundaries and Social Distancing? Not the Same Thing
In the Middle of It with Amy Kelly, The Ish Girl
Release Date: 03/27/2020
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In the Middle of It with Amy Kelly, The Ish Girl
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The Power of Stories We Read as Kids with Kristine Hall
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Why Banning Books Harms Our Kids - A Call to Action with Kellye Abernathy and Emily Roberson
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Feeling All the Feelings - Helping Our Teens Regulate Their Own Emotions with Erica Wright
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Feeling All the Feels – Regulating Our Own Emotions to Help Our Teens with Erica Wright
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The Story of Repair – 4 Steps for After Arguing with Our Teens
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The Story of Repair – 3 Steps for When You’re in the Heat of an Argument with Your Teen
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Fighting Fairly and Our Teens - 6 Questions to Ask About Arguing
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info_outlineHEALTHY BOUNDARIES
One of my all-time favorite podcasts is Episode 16, where my good friend Tami Schow and I talk about healthy boundaries.
Given the COVID-19 self-quarantine that we're all experiencing, I thought healthy boundaries might be a great thing to talk about. And no, it's not another way of saying "social distancing!" Nope, they happen when we recognize what we actually have control over, and what we don’t.
SOME THINGS TO REMEMBER ABOUT HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
You have your own umbrella.
So does everyone else. Underneath it are your own thoughts, feelings, values, etc.
You are not responsible for what is under anyone else’s umbrella.
And no one else is responsible for what’s under yours.
When you try to take responsibility for anyone else’s thoughts, feelings, values, etc., you are under their umbrella, not your own.
When you’re under someone else’s umbrella, it means they don’t have to be responsible for their own stuff – because you’re doing the job for them
What Healthy Boundaries Look Like with Our Teens
Our teens have their own umbrellas.
Trying to control their thoughts, feelings, values, etc. will backfire
When we dialog about what is good, loving, and healthy rather than what makes me happy, we can have more productive conversations
When you have teens, there are lots of gray areas.
Sometimes you hold conflicting values – you have to figure out what value has priority in that moment and situation
My teens have the freedom to adopt or reject my values and beliefs.
My responsibility as a parent is to train, model, and reinforce with the hope that they will adopt my values and beliefs.
Navigating the COVID-19 Scare
Speaking of favorites, here is a quote that's been helpful as we face the uncertainty of the Coronavirus pandemic.