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S3E40 - The Roller Coaster of Child Counseling Progress

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

Release Date: 04/24/2026

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Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode, I answer a question from an adoptive mom whose three-year-old becomes extremely dysregulated before and after exciting events like family camp, theme parks, or outings. I explain why children who crave stability and predictability can become emotionally overwhelmed when routines, environments, and expectations suddenly change—even when the experience itself is positive and enjoyable. What can look like “crazy behavior” or chaos is often a child showing externally what they are feeling internally. I also walk through why controlling behavior often emerges after children...

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In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about one of the biggest fears parents have after things begin improving: “What if we go backwards?” When life becomes calmer and more regulated, many parents worry that their child could suddenly return to the same level of anxiety, aggression, or emotional chaos they experienced before therapy. I explain why that fear is understandable—but why true growth in child-centered play therapy does not simply disappear. I introduce the concept of reverse Pandora’s box to explain how healing works in CCPT. Children cannot...

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In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain one of the most important shifts that happens for children in the play therapy process—the change in their internal dialogue. Many children start with a fear-based mindset that sounds like “oh no, what if,” where they feel powerless, overwhelmed, and unsure they can handle what might happen. This often shows up as anxiety, avoidance, or negative self-talk. It’s not always spoken out loud, but it drives how they think, feel, and respond to the world. Over time, as children build self-esteem, resilience, and...

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In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain why a child’s growth and healing process is not linear, even though we often expect it to be. As adults, we tend to think in straight lines—progress should move steadily forward. But children don’t think or process that way. As they work through emotions and experiences, their path looks much more like a roller coaster, with twists, turns, and moments that feel like they’re going backward. What can feel confusing or discouraging is often a normal part of how children process and grow. I walk through how to...

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In this episode, I explain the concept of the pendulum swing and why it is such an important picture for understanding what happens in child-centered play therapy. When children have felt powerless in everyday life, the permissive playroom gives them a chance to experience the opposite. They are allowed to take charge, make decisions, and even swing all the way into dictatorial power. That can look extreme, but it is actually part of the healing process. Children are testing what power feels like because they have spent so much of life feeling like they had none. Over time, they discover that...

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In this episode, I explain the concept of the anger iceberg and how it completely changes the way we understand our children’s behavior. What we see on the surface—yelling, hitting, defiance, aggression—is often just a small piece of what’s actually going on. Underneath that anger is something much bigger: hurt, disappointment, fear, frustration, or overwhelm. Kids don’t choose anger because it’s accurate—they choose it because it feels powerful and helps them avoid vulnerability. When we only react to the anger, we miss what our child is really trying to communicate. But when we...

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In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain why a child’s growth and healing process is not linear, even though we often expect it to be. As adults, we tend to think in straight lines—progress should move steadily forward. But children don’t think or process that way. As they work through emotions and experiences, their path looks much more like a roller coaster, with twists, turns, and moments that feel like they’re going backward. What can feel confusing or discouraging is often a normal part of how children process and grow.

I walk through how to reframe those moments when progress seems to stall or regress. Even when behavior feels chaotic or unpredictable, children are still moving in a positive direction overall. The goal is to trust the process, stay patient, and recognize that those ups and downs are part of the journey—not signs that something is wrong. This episode helps you understand what to expect so you can stay grounded and confident as your child works through change.

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Common References:
Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.
Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge.