“We weren’t allowed to have those boundaries in our family situation and then we don’t know how to take that…. Into our social lives.”
“The more we are able to identify what our energetic boundaries are, what our values are, then the more we are able to…… sit in the strength of our own sense of what’s right and wrong,” said Mahan.
Mahan says identifying your core values is key a first step toward establishing healthy boundaries.
“It’s important to get in touch with ‘what’s important to us, what’s not important, what we like and what we dislike.”
When values are defined, he says, a person can make a decision and take action, or what he calls ‘healthy aggression.’
“we have this opinion that aggression is a bad thing, and the reason we have that is it’s usually shamed out of us as children” but, Mahan says ‘Healthy aggression is also discipline, dedication, drive, empowerment.”
In this podcast, you will also learn how Somatic Experiencing (SE) can offer relief to those suffering from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder), trauma and other disturbing life events.
Mahan was introduced to SE at the suggestion of his chiropractor. He was suffering from daily panic attacks following a major car crash. He says, after three SE sessions, his panic attacks went away.
The experience was so life-changing for him, he became an SE practitioner and now trains others in this methodology as well.
SE, created by Dr. Peter Levine, is considered one of the world’s foremost approaches for dealing with developmental trauma, anxiety, stress and panic disorders.