113: Beyond the Myths: Understanding Self-Harm
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
Release Date: 05/31/2019
143: Daughters of Critical Mothers
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
“The areas that we struggle with the most, where we feel maybe we’re the hardest on ourselves, or the most stuck… these are actually potentials for really building a strong foundation with your recovery.” [20:47] In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes speaks with Mari Grande about the Mother Wound and the impact of trauma on Daughters of Critical Mothers. By addressing this trauma clients can break the cycle and turn inward to heal and be soothed. Mari speaks about the trauma that Daughters of Critical Mothers experience and the ways in which clients and therapists...
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142: HSPs & Complex Trauma Series: What is Dissociation?
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado and Carmen Schmidt Benedetti continue their podcast series on Complex Trauma and Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). Today’s episode explores the coping mechanism of dissociation, diving into what it is, what causes it, and potentially how to avoid and combat dissociation.
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141: Rediscovering Your Body with Tara Galeano, LPC
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado speaks with Tara Galeano about the journey of women rediscovering and reconnecting with their bodies. By building a more solid relationship with themselves, women are able to improve the quality of their relationship with others.
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140: Somatic Approaches: Self-Regulation for Mind-Body Well-Being
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode, Dr. Lourdes Viado speaks with Rebekkah LaDyne about mind-body somatic approaches. Rebekkah discusses how and why exercising and teaching your body ways to respond to anxiety, stress, and trauma are effective tools for your mind-body well-being.
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139: Harnessing the Unique Strengths of Women's Brains
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Dr. Tracy Packiam Alloway, an award-winning psychologist who has conducted extensive research on memory and the brain. In this conversation Dr. Alloway discusses her recent book “Think Like a Girl: 10 Unique Strengths of a Woman’s Brain and How to Make Them Work for You.”
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138: HSPs: Healing from Toxic & Abusive Relationships with Arianna Smith, LPC
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Arianna Smith, EMDR Clinician and Licensed Professional Counselor. She helps Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) and LGBTQ individuals process childhood trauma, recover from abusive relationships, and release the cycle of constant people pleasing.
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137: Dream Journey to the Divine Feminine
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Dr. Pearl Gregor. Pearl began studying dreams in 1988. By 2015, widowed, retired, and having finished her doctorate, she created her website: www.dreamsalongtheway.com. In December 2018, she published “I, the Woman, Planted the Tree: A Journey through Dreams to the Feminine,” followed by two more books and a memoir.
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136: Depression & the Highly Sensitive Person
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Bronwyn Shiffer, LCSW, a psychotherapist from Madison, Wisconsin who works with highly sensitive women struggling with depression. Bronwyn supports women who want to feel more strong, connected and comfortable in their own skin. She has a Masters of Social Work from Smith College School for Social Work and believes that personal transformation is what heals the world.
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135: The Final 8th: Inner Selves & Getting Unstuck
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Bridgit Dengel Gaspard, LCSW, shares why, despite preparation, resources, knowledge, and support, we sometimes fail to achieve our goals. While Bridgit specifically discusses being stuck in relation to larger life goals, her work also applies to other ways we are stuck in our lives.
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134: HSPs & Complex Trauma Series: Where Does Your Anxiety Come From?
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado & Carmen Schmidt Benedetti continue their podcast series on Complex Trauma and Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). Today they discuss where our anxiety comes from and why it matters.
info_outline“It is across racial lines, socioeconomic status, religious beliefs, and the like. This is not a phenomenon that just occurs to a certain person that looks and dresses and behaves a certain way.”
Introduction:
When everything builds up inside, managing emotions can oftentimes feel impossible.
As children grow, oftentimes there’s no one to teach them how to manage their emotions. For those with the trait of high sensitivity and/or those who experienced trauma, sometimes the way that they learn to cope, manage, or maintain their overwhelming emotions is through self-harm.
Self-harm is a subject that is riddled with misconceptions and negative judgments. In this episode, I talk with Vena Wilson about why people self-harm, and together we dispel some of those myths.
Vena deepens our understanding as to why women engage in this type of coping mechanism. She also shares her insights into what causes the emotional state that pushes individuals into self-harming tendencies, and what to do when someone you love struggles with this topic.
Take a listen to learn how to identify self-harm, support a loved one, or spark the healing process for yourself.
About Vena Wilson:
Vena Wilson is a licensed clinical social worker who provides psychotherapy services to children, teenagers, and adults. She is the owner and operator of Honey Bee Behavioral Health. She works to assist individuals and families in creating healthy, adaptive, and well-functioning relationships. With this, Vena also helps clients see their concerns through a different lens: she provides information on how trauma effects the functioning of various parts of the brain. She teaches strategies that allow them to take suicide and self-harm off the table as an option to release overwhelming emotions.
Some Questions I Ask:
- How did you come to work with women who self-harm? (3:48)
- What happens that causes this emotional state? (17:40)
- What other myths or misconceptions are there around self-harm? (25:10)
- What are ways to support a loved one who self-harms? (28:52)
- What words of wisdom would you share with someone who self-harms? (33:04)
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
- What self-harm looks like. (7:06)
- How emotional deregulation affects the brain and presents itself in day-to-day life. (12:26)
- About the trait of high-sensitivity and how it manifests itself. (21:08)
- What to do and not to do when a loved one discloses that they self-harm. (29:11)
- How to choose a therapist that will fit your specific needs. (34:21)
Podcasts that Discuss Dialectal Behavior Therapy Strategies, Managing Overwhelming Emotions, and Other Helpful Tidbits:
Charlie Swenson: To Hell and Back
Vena M. Wilson: The Honey Be Podcast
Practical/Helpful Reads on Validation, Mindfulness, Managing Overwhelming Emotions:
I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen
Freedom from Selfharm: Overcoming Self-Injury with Skills from DBT and Other Treatments by Kim Gratz
Books for Clinicians:
DBT® Skills Training Manual, Second Edition by Marsha M. Linehan
Treating Self-Destructive Behaviors in Trauma Survivors: A Clinician’s Guide by Lisa Ferentz
Treating Self-Injury: A Practical Guide by Barent W. Walsh
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