004 Hope for Healing Mother Wounds with Aliene Thompson

Episode Summary:

 

In recent years, I’ve heard quite a bit of discussion about “father wounds” and how those can have a significantly detrimental impact on our relationship with God as our Heavenly Father. But I’ve seen precious little discussion about mother mounds or healing mother wounds.  If you have been the recipient of mother wounds, or perhaps you were the mother who wounded your child, then today is the perfect show for you.

 

I grew up in a home with a mother who was very depressed my entire childhood, yet we didn’t know at the time that that was what was wrong. She was also from a foreign country where displays of affection or emotion were discouraged. So for a very long time, I believed I was unlovable, and tried desperately to earn my mother’s love, yet received mother wounds instead. Whether this is your story or you have been wounded by a mother in some other way, we want to have a discussion that will provide you with some hope.

 

In this episode we answer the question what are mother wounds? And where do they come from. Then we address how to heal from mother wounds. Aliene helps us understand what it means to detach from unhealthy branches in order to attach to the one true vine. She discusses the importance of being in God’s word, abiding in His presence, praying in Jesus’s name, and acting on what God tells you in order to heal from mother wounds.

 

Quotables from the episode:

• If you have suffered from mother wounds or need healing from mother wounds, then today’s episode is for you.
• A mother wound is when a child does not receive what God intended for a child to experience with a mother, which is a nurturing environment, and to be nurtured.
• Mother wounds may be completely unintentional because a mother experienced tragedy or illness and she wasn’t able to provide the nurturing her child needed.
• Even if a child experiences the loss of a mother, a wound can occur because they didn’t receive the nurturing their soul needs.
• If we don’t find healing, it will perpetuate itself. On a subconscious level, you will look for what you didn’t receive from your mother which can cause you to seek out unhealthy relationships.
• If we don’t bring mother wounds into the light, there will be no healing, and they will continue. To find out how to heal mother wounds, listen here.
• We often inappropriately carry the guilt and shame for our mother’s inappropriate behavior.
• Your actions will tell you what you believe. Our emotions are the outward manifestation of the thoughts we believe, and our emotions largely govern our behavior. So, we need to pay attention to the thoughts we believe.
• Father wounds often result in difficulty relating to our Heavenly Father, but mother wounds can result in difficulty relating to the Holy Spirit.
• We have to detach from our mother to attach to the true vine by forgiving our mothers.
• One of the most loving things we can do is to love someone where they are despite their faults.
• If you experience healing in this area, or any other area, do not be surprised if you struggle in this area again because the enemy of our soul knows where our weaknesses are and will always go back there first to try to interfere before trying someplace else.

 

Scripture References:

 

• Psalm 127:10“Even if my father and mother abandon me, …the Lord will hold me close.
• Romans 11:17 “But some of these branches from Abraham’s tree—some of the people of Israel—have been broken off. And you Gentiles, who were branches from a wild olive tree, have been grafted in. So now you also receive the blessing God has promised Abraham and his children, sharing in the rich nourishment from the root of God’s special olive tree.”
• John 14: 16-18“And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate,[ who will never leave you.  He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. ….. No, I will not abandon you as orphans—I will come to you.”

 

Recommended Resources:

 

• “Brave Heart: A Nine-Week Study on Joshua (Nourish Bible Study Series)” by Aliene G. Thompson
• “The Jewish Gospel of John” byEli Lizorkin-Eyzenberg
• “Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters” bySusan Forward and Donna Frazier Glynn
• https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-younger-mother-20-lessons-i-learned-to-encourage-you/
• https://drmichellebengtson.com/motherhood-the-hardest-most-wonderful-job/
• https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-mom-part-1/
• https://drmichellebengtson.com/dear-mom-part-2/
• “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award
• “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award

 

 

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Stay connected with Aliene Thompson:

 

• Website: https://treasuredministries.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Treasured.Ministries/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alienethompson
• 21 Day Challenge: https://www.nourishbiblestudymethod.com/

 

 

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Air Date: ­­­­­­­May 6, 2019

 

Guest: Aliene Thompson, author of the Nourish Bible Study Series, creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method and founder of Treasured Ministries.

Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson

Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson