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003: A Gift for the Person Who Has Everything

You Were Made for This

Release Date: 11/28/2018

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You Were Made for This

In the past dew episodes I’ve been talking about how I tracked down my birth father and met him for the first… and last time in my life. You’ll find links to those episodes at the bottom of the show notes. Today’s show concludes this painful chapter in my life by focusing on a larger relational and spiritual principle that applies to all of us. Namely, sometimes in our difficulties God will surprise us in unusual ways to remind us he is still working for our good and for his glory. But before we get into today’s episode, here’s what this podcast is all about.   Welcome to...

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One of the more popular topics from past episodes has been the story of Gail Rohde who was adopted as an infant, and her search as an adult for her birth mother. Then several years after finding her, she searched for her birth father - and found him, too. I’ll have links to those episodes at the bottom of the show notes.  It can be a relational minefield in dealing with the dynamics of adoptees wanting to know where they’ve come from, especially when it’s been hidden from them. I have a similar story about searching for my birth father that I wrote about in my book, THEM. ...

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One thing on my mind lately is a question about the meaningful conversations we sometimes have with friends, and what makes them different from other conversations. I started thinking about this while reading news articles about the Super Bowl played earlier this month. Meaningful conversations and the Super Bowl don’t quite seem to fit together, but they do in my mind.  Keep listening and I’ll explain the connection in today’s episode, number 213. Welcome to today’s episode Maybe they’ve always done this, I don’t know, but it seems that sports journalists lately are using a...

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The older I get the more I’ve come to appreciate how it’s the little things we do for people that matter most to them. Little things that come naturally for us because of how God uniquely made us, I’ve got a few stories for you today to illustrate this point. Stories that I hope will inspire you to bless others in ways that are easy and natural for you. But before we get into today’s episode, here’s what this podcast is all about.   Welcome to You Were Made for This If you find yourself wanting more from your relationships, you’ve come to the right place. Here you’ll...

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A men’s breakfast can be fun and still have a greater purpose than eating and conversation. When organized with a larger objective in mind it can be a great way to bless people and a means to live out the Gospel. Today’s episode is about my Men with Waffles breakfast and the impact it had on others not even in the room. Especially women. Breakfast with a friend  A few weeks ago my friend Randy was in town for the Christmas holiday. We used to go to the same church, but his job change meant a move to Pittsburgh. He and his wife are still closely connected with friends they have back in...

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CURIOUS. It’s my pick for the 2024 Word of the Year. Curious. It’s an important relational skill we need to help us deepen our relationships with others.  Today’s episode is about what happens when we’re not curious about people, and what we can do about it to strengthen our relational curiosity muscles that will enrich our relationships. But before we get into today’s episode, here’s what this podcast is all about.   Welcome to You Were Made for This If you find yourself wanting more from your relationships, you’ve come to the right place. Here you’ll discover...

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When you get right down to it, the only thing that really matters in the Christmas story in 2023 is Jesus. No Santa, gifts, or Bing Crosby. Just Jesus. Here's the original story as recorded in Luke's Gospel, just as it happened. I am reading from The Message, by Eugene Peterson. Luke 2: 1-20 The Birth of Jesus  About that time Caesar Augustus ordered a census to be taken throughout the Empire. This was the first census when Quirinius was governor of Syria. Everyone had to travel to his own ancestral hometown to be accounted for. So Joseph went from the Galilean town of Nazareth up to...

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There are many cultural dimensions to all that is Christmas. Pick your favorite. I have a few that I look forward to every year. But as I get older, I’m seeing Christmas more as a great time to reflect on my relationship with Jesus. In Luke’s gospel, for example, I’m especially drawn to the mother of Jesus, Mary, and how she reflects upon the birth of her son and all that it means to her, both in the present and the future. There are things we can learn from Mary as she takes time to reflect on this most important event in all of history.  Welcome to You Were Made for This If you...

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Carol, my producer, said her Thanksgiving was great, and that she enjoys it more than Christmas because there’s no gift buying. She said the hardest part of gift buying is getting something for the person who has everything.

Well today we’re going to talk about that, and hopefully solve that problem for Carol and our listeners. Today’s episode is about giving a gift that you can’t buy online, or in any store. And it starts with a story about a gift given to me years ago.

Bullet point outline of today’s show.

  • My wife Janet watching TV one evening, while I was working in my office
  • I walked into our TV room. Another one of those never-ending Hollywood Award shows about someone getting a lifetime achievement award.
  • I then said, while walking out of the room, “I think everyone should get a lifetime achievement award at some time in their life.”
  • While I soon forgot what I said, Janet did not. She was listening to me. Little did I know her listening skills started her creative juices flowing to take my throw away comment “I think everyone should get a lifetime achievement award,” and turn it into something.
  • I discovered several months later what a good listener she was, when for my birthday, she and my son and daughter, and their spouses, presented me with a Lifetime Achievement award.
  • It looks like this:

16 x 13 inch horizontal frame - matted with a 7and ½ x10” sheet of paper

The top of which reads “On this day in history (my birthday) in 1999 John Michael Certalic is hereby awarded the Lifetime Achievement Award for attaining the following accomplishments:”

List of 30 “accomplishments” all inside family stuff, some serious, mostly funny. There’s a family story behind each one. Here are a few of them:

Most Courageous Piano Student, 1982
Best Franklin Little League Dad, 1980’s
Best source of late-night after travel pizza - 1988-94
Parent of the Year - Grace College - 1991
Best speech given by father at daughter’s wedding - 1993
Best father-in-law, 1993-1997
Most organized home office - honorable mention - 1998
Home of the best travel destination for birds - 1990’s
Most sensitive to the thirst level of UPS man - 1998-99
Blizzard-Driving Safety certification - 1999
Faithful supplier of dumping flowers - 1990-91

“And most importantly…Boy could that man dance!

You can do this too. You can give a “Lifetime Achievement Award” to important people in your life

Results a listener will experience when he/she implements the solution

Here are 7 results you’ll experience when you give a Lifetime Achievement award to someone who has everything - and to someone who has nothing

  1. You will save money. Lifetime achievement awards costs very little money, if any at all. You can print it from a template on your word processor.
  2. Your family, or mutual friends, will be brought close together, as you ask “What are some serious and funny things we can give our friend an award for?”
  3. You’ll become a better listener and observer of the important people in your life, as you think about what to note in your award
  4. You will connect on a deeper level with recipients whose love languages are words of affirmation - gifts - acts of service. That’s 3 of the 5 love languages right there in one gift (physical touch and quality time being the missing two). It will be especially meaningful to these kinds of people
  5. You’ll create a historic record of a several points in time about a relationship. It can become an heirloom
  6. You’ll have a lot of fun doing this,
  7. It can repeated. You can give a Lifetime Achievement Award many times for many things.

Show summary in a sentence, the “The Big Idea” of today’s program.

One way of transforming a relationship into the best it can be is by doing what it takes to give someone a Lifetime Achievement Award.

Here's a way you can respond to today’s show

Think about a relationship you would like to honor, and begin listening to, observing, and reminding yourself of the good qualities of that person. You can it individually, but it’s more fun to do it collectively.

Next Week

I hope you come back next week to listen to the next episode of “You Were Made for This.” The easiest way to listen is to subscribe to wherever you get your podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play and others. That way you’ll be notified each week when a new episode comes out to help you transform your relationships into the best they can be.

Quote of the Week

Take delight in honoring each other.

- Romans 12:10, New Living Translation Bible