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Daily 1% x 228: Be Awesome 07/20/2022

Daily 1% x 228: Be Awesome “BE AWESOME” A couple of years ago that 👆quote was being said everywhere Posters were being made It was a thing It was trendy to have stuff that SAID: be awesome. What does it even mean to BE AWESOME? Let’s make a list: Know who you are Show up big Do hard things Be on fire Create epic stuff Be willing to do scary ideas Not back down Stay positive Have courage Don’t listen to haters Keep going All of these are good. Inspiring. What about: 🌟Loving yourself even when you don’t want to get out of bed in the morning 🌟Letting yourself take a nap 🌟Noticing your body and listening to it 🌟Saying no 🌟Going to bed when you want to stay up late 🌟Turing off your phone 🌟Letting yourself be sad or mad or glad or frustrated and feeling into it on purpose 🌟Celebrating yourself 🌟Giving yourself a pat in the back 🌟Having a one person dance party when you hit that goal: big or small 🌟Taking a walk 🌟Saying yes to you 🌟Slowing down Often, when we think of being awesome It’s the big showy positive in-your-face types of things we consider But The truth is The big showy things aren’t what make you awesome I’m fact, YOU ARE ALREADY AWESOME. YOU AND ME, we arrived on this planet with this tattooed on our soul: AWESOME Being awesome isn’t up for debate or discussion We already are We may not believe it Nothing has gone wrong if you don’t believe in your own awesomeness I didn’t believe in mine I wanted other people to tell me about my awesomeness I looked for it in projects and accomplishments All of us do Until we stop Until we start seeing the ways we’ve hurt ourselves And we start putting salve on those wounds Beginning to love our already existing awesomeness Accepting our awesomeness Even when we do things we don’t like It’s in how we treat our selves on the way to those big showy things that make us see and love and allow our awesomeness. Saying I love you to yourself even when you do things you wish you hadn’t Celebrating yourself when it seems too small Seeing your fire for its ability to both burn AND warm Loving yourself for all of it Seeing your desire for quiet and aloneness AND being visionary Not judging yourself for any of it Seeing your emotionally messy self AND your ability to hold someone’s pain so carefully Be willing to love both parts of you. Seeing you desire for structure, order, control AND your ability to make things simple for others Embracing both without shaming yourself Seeing your all-over-the-place-thinking-and-talking AND your bubbly engaging fun self Giving both parts a grateful hug. This is where your awesomeness lies. In all of it. Stop judging you BE YOU: AWESOME What are two contrasting things about you? Ready to embrace ALL of YOU? Click to get started. Previosly published . /episode/index/show/davinafear/id/23694758

Daily 1% x 227: Date Yourself 07/13/2022

Daily 1% x 226: You Don't Have To 06/08/2022

Episode 90: The Power of Taking Selfies 05/31/2022

Daily 1% x 225: Brainiac Maniac 05/25/2022

Daily 1% x 225: Brainiac Maniac Warriors! Our brains want to cancel/ignore all of our awesomeness!! Don’t let it! This week I’ve done so much brave and bold stuff! YOU HAVE, TOO!! Last night as I was prepping for bed, my brain was like: Wow. You’ve not accomplished your goals. You didn’t get 50 new clients. (Mind you, my goal was not 50 new clients but my brain likes to be VERY dramatic.) I said to my brain: Hold it right there, Brainiac Maniac. You are wrong. W-R-O-N-G I know you like to scan for what’s wrong. I know that’s your job and all so I can stay alive And not get a fever and die And not get kicked out of civilization And all that But You are completely overreacting. I’ve done A LOT OF AWESOME STUFF!! Then I recounted a big long list of things I did this week that I’m really proud of. I pat myself on the back for those things. Then pat myself on the back for calling out my brain. Then I gave myself a hug for my awesomeness. And gave myself a hug fir my brain to tell it it’s okay I’ve got this covered. I know you’re worried. Then I danced it all out so I get my awesomeness in my body and not just in my head. I’m sure if you were watching me you’d be thinking: What the heck is happening over there? But dancing to your own music and awesomeness is a great way to live your life. Pause right now Stand up Tell yourself all your delightfully awesome ways you’ve been showing up 💥Tiny 💥Little 💥Sort of cool 💥Very cool 💥Big 💥Ginormous 💥No one noticed but you 💥That thing you did when you were feeling bold and brave 💥The project you started or finished 💥The mind blowing insight you had 💥The time you told your brain to shush and did the scary thing 💥The time you told your brain to zip it and didn’t listen to it tell you all the ways you aren’t enough 💥 When you took that nap 💥 It all counts!! You have lots to celebrate. I’m here to tell you… You made it through this incredible human experience this week and you did it gloriously Dance it out, Warrior. DANCE. IT. OUT!! Looking for a song? I’ve got lots of celebration songs for you on Spotify. (Link in comments) Go dance your heart out, my Dear Warrior. I wanna hear what you’re celebrating!! 🎉🎉🎉 Do tell! Click this to talk about working together. Check out some awesome dance playlists on Spotify ! Previously published . /episode/index/show/davinafear/id/23224688

Daily 1% x 224: Be Your Own Magic 05/19/2022

Daily 1% x 224: Be Your Own Magic What if you could… 🤔🤩 Be your own magical 💫 : •YODA who compels you to do the hard thing, take the risk, and 100% believes in you even when you doubt •KINDNESS ADVOCATE who doesn’t let you say mean things to yourself •PERSON WHO SAYS to you “I’m here for you, no matter what you’re going through, no matter what you’re feeling” •SWEET & LOYAL DOG who stays by your side and sits with you when you’re sad •MOM who rubs your back while you cry about feeling like you have no friends •BEST FRIEND who tells you all the reasons you’re awesome and everyone else is missing out •TEACHER who says you’re doing great, you’re learning, and you’re so proud of you •MENTOR who believes in you and the impact you are and will have in the world. •FORGIVER of everything you’ve ever said or done •MONK who is filled with wonder at your being-ness •YOUNGER SIBLING who thinks you are genius and believes everything you say and do is also genius •DELIVERER from your past regrets •PEACEMAKER with who you are and who you aren’t •DAD who protects you and keeps you secure •GRANDPA who speaks deep wisdom to you with zero judgement •LIGHT GIVER who helps you see both your light and gently shines light into your places the light has not yet reached •MERCIFUL BENEFACTOR who bestows mercy on yourself when you say something weird or want to lean toward beating yourself up •THE RICH RELATIVE who gave you so much money •LOVE GURU who pours out love on you every second of the day, who believes you are lovable no matter what is going on with you. •GRANDMA who loves you when it feels like the world is against you and bakes you cookies, hugs you every time you need it, and kisses you on the forehead. •WIZARD who knows the magical and cryptic things to say or do that help you tap into your own strength, magic, and genius We see these awesome people depicted in movies or books and believe we should have had that kind of person in our life. Sometimes we look around and think everyone else got all these people in their lives and we didn’t. Stop looking around. Instead… Be all these things to yourself. Choose one of the above. Be that to you today. 💛 Believe all of these people are within you, ready to help you and guide you. You deserve it. 💕🥰 Want to share the one you chose? Please do! Tell me in the comments. 😁 Click this to talk about working together. Previously published . /episode/index/show/davinafear/id/23162777

Daily 1% x 223: You're All That 04/27/2022

Daily 1% x 222: Sabotaging You 04/20/2022

Daily 1% x 222: Sabotaging You Have you ever said, “I feel like I’m sabotaging myself?” You’re right. Kind of. It’s not your fault, though. Here’s why… Brains have two parts: Primitive Pre-frontal cortex They basically like OPPOSITE things. If you sometimes feel like you’re fighting with yourself or constantly torn between two things… Guess what? Nothing has gone wrong AND You are not a mutant. One part of our brain loves routine. It gets all giddy about doing the same thing over and over and over again. This part of your brain loves familiarity, comfort, pleasure, and it does everything it can to avoid pain. We love this part of our brain! It’s what keeps our heart beating regularly and all of our blood flowing like it’s supposed to. It the part that does everything it can to keep our body at the exact same temperature all the time. It does all of this without you even being aware. It all happens under the radar. So when we get a fever, it freaks out until it gets us back into the same old, boring, keeping us in, you know… Loving, breathing, homeostasis mode. If you’ve ever said, “I just did that without even thinking.” You were most likely operating from this part of your brain. This is the place you drive a car from if you’ve been driving for years. It’s basically the auto pilot of your life. Not as helpful when you’re trying to stop eating crap. 😫😕 Or start loving your dreams of being a writer or starting a business You know…the stuff that scares you a little or is NOT routine. It’s kind of the whole “old dog that doesn’t want to learn new tricks” mode of your brain. Second part of your brain: Pre-frontal cortex It LOVES novelty, new things, growth, new opportunities, spontaneity, change. It’s the part of your brain that lights up when you feel a new feeling, do something new. It’s not as reliable as your primitive brain but it can be trained. This is the puppy version of your brain. Excitable but trainable. Both parts are capable of change but one part is more willing than the other part. If you’re trying to: •Change your eating habits •Create a new routine •Do something you’ve never done before •Meet new people •Go to an event by yourself •Stop being bugged at your close family •Start working out •Create a business •stop doing some habit you want to quit •…you get the idea… Your primitive brain is going to lay on the floor, basking in the sun and give off the vibe: Don’t fix what’s not broken. Move along. Nothing to see here. Or get a bunch of attitude and walk away from you and lay down in another sunny spot where it doesn’t have to listen to you. On the other hand your pre-frontal cortex is going to be jumping around barking and saying: Yes! Yes! Such a good idea! Let’s go! This is the most epic plan ever. I’m all in! You’re the best! I love you! You’re so awesome! You’re a genius. So…. If you feel like your brain is always sabotaging you…it probably is. These two parts of your brain, when left to themselves, end up making you feel like you’re in a never ending hamster wheel of trying to start new things only to fail again and again. It’s not your fault. This is what we do in coaching: Train that puppy brain of yours so the old dog part of your brain doesn’t feel so annoyed when you attempt to make those awesome changes. 👍 We watch the old dog part, see all the patterns and things it does on auto pilot. The daily ways it acts and the vibe it gives off. We notice it’s attitude. That awareness is the starting point. It makes a MUCH bigger difference than you would think to be able to see all of its patterns out in the wild. Suddenly, they don’t seem wild or untamed at all. You see exactly what that old dog is doing and it kind of makes you laugh how tame it is. And at how it likes to hide behind making you think it’s so wild and untame-able. The truth is… It just wants to be seen. Old dogs (primitive brains) CAN learn new tricks! I promise. Ready to teach your brain some new tricks? Click . Previously published . /episode/index/show/davinafear/id/22842995

Episode 89: Warrior Women Series: Éowyn 04/13/2022

Daily 1% x 221: If You're Disappointed 03/31/2022

Daily 1% x 221: If You're Disappointed Maybe you’re disappointed… In you. In the way you’re showing up. In who you are being. Knowing what you’ve been thinking, feeling, doing or NOT thinking, feeling, doing... It makes you want to: Be hard on yourself… Beat yourself up… Say a few mean things to yourself. You and me… We are human. Our brains do this. They think they are helping. The truth is… What really helps, is this… Notice you’ve been judging yourself. Thinking unhelpful or unkind or unloving thoughts about you or maybe about someone else. SIDE NOTE: You’re not alone. I have totally done this! Many times!! I realize I’m judging someone else or myself. I feel terrible. I think things like: why you gotta be like that? In no time, I’m piling shame on myself. And then I want to stop so I tell myself: I’m going to think something nice about them… Or about me. If you try to jump to all the positives right away, too, I invite you to pause right there. STOP. Before you start trying to think of something nice and positive and upbeat to say or do… Instead… Tell yourself: Of course, you’re thinking unkind things about yourself. You’re not showing up the way you want to show up. I love you anyway. I know it can be scary to compare yourself. I know you don’t want to do it. I love you and I’m here for you. You don’t have to beat yourself up about it. I know you. I love you. All the parts of you. The parts that get jealous And the parts that are confident. You don’t have to be unkind to yourself to be loveable. I love you in your struggles and in your triumphs. I’m here for you. I’ll always have your back. I understand where you’re at right now And I love you. You’ve got this. Next time you start to beat yourself up, before you jump to trying to be a better person right away… Experiment with loving yourself Even when you feel a mess. Notice what happens. To find out more about coaching with Davina, click . Previously published . /episode/index/show/davinafear/id/22631849

Episode 88: Four Reasons Your Affirmations Aren't Working 03/23/2022

Episode 87: Rest 03/16/2022

Episode 86: Repentance 03/09/2022

Episode 85: The Purpose of Feelings 03/02/2022

Episode 85: The Purpose of Feelings Maybe you’re disappointed… In you. In the way you’re showing up. In who you are being. Knowing what you’ve been thinking, feeling, doing or NOT thinking, feeling, doing... It makes you want to: Be hard on yourself… Beat yourself up… Say a few mean things to yourself. You and me… We are human. Our brains do this. They think they are helping. The truth is… What really helps, is this… Notice you’ve been judging yourself. Thinking unhelpful or unkind or unloving thoughts about you or maybe about someone else. SIDE NOTE: You’re not alone. I have totally done this! Many times!! I realize I’m judging someone else or myself. I feel terrible. I think things like: why you gotta be like that? In no time, I’m piling shame on myself. And then I want to stop so I tell myself: I’m going to think something nice about them… Or about me. If you try to jump to all the positives right away, too, I invite you to pause right there. STOP. Before you start trying to think of something nice and positive and upbeat to say or do… Instead… Tell yourself: Of course, you’re thinking unkind things about yourself. You’re not showing up the way you want to show up. I love you anyway. I know it can be scary to compare yourself. I know you don’t want to do it. I love you and I’m here for you. You don’t have to beat yourself up about it. I know you. I love you. All the parts of you. The parts that get jealous And the parts that are confident. You don’t have to be unkind to yourself to be loveable. I love you in your struggles and in your triumphs. I’m here for you. I’ll always have your back. I understand where you’re at right now And I love you. You’ve got this. Next time you start to beat yourself up, before you jump to trying to be a better person right away… Experiment with loving yourself Even when you feel a mess. Notice what happens. Previously published . /episode/index/show/davinafear/id/22305914

Daily 1%a x 220: Space Buns 02/19/2022

Daily 1% x 219: Owning YOU 02/10/2022

Daily 1% x 219: Owning YOU Bubble braids. Until two weeks ago I had never worn them. I was a little afraid of them. Several years ago, someone I respect suggested I was wearing braids to keep people from taking me seriously…to soften my intense personality. I don’t think she was wrong. I stopped wearing two braids. Not because she told me to but because I wanted to experiment… See if there was some truth to her theory. I started paying attention to allowing my intensity without apology. I didn’t return to the two braids. Mainly, because I didn’t think I needed them anymore. Her suggestion DID help me to own who I was. I no longer try to soften my strength, intensity, passion. Several months ago, someone suggested I try bubble braids. I didn’t know what they were. I looked them up and immediately thought: I can’t wear those. It will be me trying to hide my intensity. So what made me decide to try them? I decided I’ve come a long way. Wearing bubble braids would feel different because I’m different than I was all those years ago. Now, I feel stunning and fierce. Now, I don’t feel like I’m sending a mixed message of “please like me even though I can be really intense and passionate.” Now, I love me when I look in the mirror. I see the woman I am now, and I think: You are intense fiery awesomeness. I love you! Evolution is amazing. I’m not saying we do or don’t do things according to what other people may or may not think of us. In fact, I’m saying the opposite. Coming to know and love yourself opens up to you all the rules you may have been believing and not realizing. I hadn’t realized that I was trying to make my intense self more palatable for other people with my cute braids. That awareness allowed me to begin to embrace my intensity without trying to soften it with cuteness through braids. Now, I can fully own these bubble braids in all my fierceness without believing I need them to help people to like me. Understanding and loving yourself on entirely new levels and in completely new ways is mind blowing too s super powerful. Getting to show up in your life more on fire and beautiful and passionate and real than you ever have in your life is incredibly sexy. I LOVE IT! I wouldn’t be here without the coaching I’ve received over the years. Nearly everywhere I go, people respond to me without being able to stop themselves. Last night at dinner I walked into a restaurant and a woman there gasped the moment she saw me. She said: Oh my goodness! Look at you!! I love your hair!! She kept saying effusive things all the way to our seats. Another woman came to our table and did the same thing. I used to be embarrassed about standing out but… Longed for it at the same time. Now, I’m showing up for myself. Not expecting anyone to adore me but me. I’m the process, it’s changed the way I am with people and the way they are with me, in the best ways. This can happen for you, too. Coaching helps you to love and adore yourself… YOUR strengths, YOUR goodness, YOUR flaws, YOUR darkness AND your light, YOUR humanness, The parts you think are ugly and the parts you hope have beauty in them. You see your judgements toward yourself and you understand them and then eventually…you let them go. You see yourself differently, with more love and honor and respect and compassion than you ever have before. All those years ago I would think: I’m good! I like myself. I’m not mean to myself. I’m a strong woman. I wasn’t wrong. I also didn’t realize what it could look like to take all of that belief (and all of the underlying insecurity I was afraid people might see) and become the woman I am now. If you’re wanting more for yourself… You’re ready for coaching. I know exactly how to help you. The big surprise with figuring out how to love yourself more is… You become even more open to increased love and less judgement toward others. It’s a win for everyone. Ready for more of your own awesomeness in your life? Let’s do this! Sign up for your free consultation here: /episode/index/show/davinafear/id/22085621

Daily 1% x 218: Open Letter To Myself 02/02/2022

Daily 1% x 217: If You Still Haven't... 01/26/2022

Daily 1% x 216: Wishing Blessings 01/19/2022

Daily 1% x 215: Your Movie Montage 01/12/2022

Daily 1% x 214: Make You Your Favorite 01/05/2022

Daily 1% x 214: Make You Your Favorite Make YOU your favorite! Sometimes this idea makes people fear they will become a narcissist or completely selfish. **Immediately, your brain conjures a list of people you believe are narcissists** A narcissistic doesn’t love themself. They have not made themself their favorite. Narcissism is a form of insecurity. Fear of being selfish comes when we aren’t honoring ourselves and often, we are worrying about how other people may or may not see us. We don’t listen to ourselves. If you’ve had these fears… Know you are not alone. I’ve had both of them. Neither of these fears have helped me love myself more. In fact, they’ve had the opposite effect. Making yourself your favorite means you’re loving all the parts of yourself, without judgement. You see your struggles and you love yourself even when you say and do things you wish you hadn’t. You don’t beat yourself up. You can yell at your kids and still love you. You can not book the client and still love you. You see your humanness and you honor and respect it. You know it’s part of who you are. You’re supposed to be human. Not a perfection machine. At the same time, you know you’re perfect just as you are. You don’t need fixing. You can get annoyed at your spouse or not, and still love you. You want sex or not, and still love you. You can feel motivated or like laying around on the couch and still love you. You can feel anxious or not, and still love you. You can think good thoughts about other people…or not, and still love you. You don’t need to be perfectly behaved with perfect thoughts and feelings to love you. You need allowing, accepting, and kindness. You know those things inspire you more than unkind words. You celebrate your awesomeness and pause to see your goodness. When you can do this for yourself, it’s a lot easier to genuinely do it for others. No matter what happens today… Let’s make ourselves our favorite. /episode/index/show/davinafear/id/21681650