The Queer Family Podcast

The show all about family; but with gay! Queer mom, Jaimie Kelton, humorously goes in-depth with weekly LGBTQIA+ guests about their families; how they made them, and how they show up in a world that wasn't necessarily designed for them. The mission is to normalize, elevate and celebrate, while confirming that we're just like other parents, trying not to yell at our kids when they still haven't put their shoes on and we're 25 minutes late for school. The end result is a compelling podcast that amusingly explores the age-old question: what's it like to live as an LGBTQ family in a world built for the straights?

Introducing "Lost Spaces" 01/01/2024

Introducing "Lost Spaces" S14 EP15 BONUS | Join Jaimie in this Holiday Bonus Episode as she guests on 'Lost Spaces' with K Anderson! Jaimie shares her experience growing up in San Francisco surrounded by queer culture but struggling to recognize her own queerness. She discusses the male-dominated gay world she witnessed in the 80s and 90s and the lack of representation of gay women. Jaimie reflects on her journey of self-discovery, including experimenting with women and eventually embracing her identity as a lesbian. She also discusses the challenges of coming out to her parents and the stereotypes surrounding "U-Haul lesbians." Throughout her story, Jaimie emphasizes the importance of embracing one's differences and shedding the need for perfectionism. Dive into this special episode with a personal touch from Jaimie. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Growing up in a queer-friendly environment does not guarantee immediate self-recognition of one's own queerness. Representation and exposure to diverse queer experiences are crucial in understanding and accepting one's own sexuality. Coming out can be a complex and ongoing process, with individuals gradually embracing and fully owning their identities. The queer community can provide support and a sense of belonging during the process of self-discovery. Losing perfection means letting go of the need to control others' perception of you. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "I think everybody has a little bit of gay in them and they just haven't found it yet." - Jaimie Kelton "I knew there was community. I knew I would not be alone if I decided to come out.” - Jaimie Kelton “I feel like I touched my toe real slowly into this gay water." - Jaimie Kelton 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: Listen to 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/29279548

Introducing "Who's Your Daddy" 12/25/2023

Introducing "Who's Your Daddy" S14 EP14 BONUS | We interrupt our regular content to bring you Holiday Bonus Episodes of podcasts that Jaimie loves and has guested on! Listen to the intro to hear an update and funny story from Jaimie before diving into an episode of “Who’s Your Daddy” with Michael and Matt. Jaimie and the fellas go deep into her personal story of struggling through unexplained infertility and over 3 years (!!) of trying to have a baby through IVF and IUI. She also shares some very exciting news that came to be a pretty big surprise! 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "We always thought I would be the one to carry, but my wife surprised me by expressing her desire to carry. We had to go back to the drawing board and adjust our plans accordingly." Jaimie "I always felt slightly off about our fertility doctor. I never felt like he was right for me. Finally, after all of that, I said, 'You know what? Switch the formula. I'm getting a new doctor.'" Jaimie "We took out another loan against my wife's retirement. Thank God we were privileged enough for my wife to have a retirement to even take out of. We went for the IVF, and it didn't work." Jaimie 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Trust your gut and find a doctor who is the right fit for your fertility journey. Taking supplements and making lifestyle changes can improve egg health and increase the chances of pregnancy. The financial cost of fertility treatments can be significant, and it's important to plan and budget accordingly. Open and honest communication with children about their donor origins is crucial, but it's important to consider age-appropriate explanations and potential confusion. 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: Listen to Follow Email them at [email protected] 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/29212938

Pivot: A Short Film Challenging Gender Norms 12/21/2023

Pivot: A Short Film Challenging Gender Norms S14 BONUS | In this bonus holiday episode, Jaimie sits down with Robin and Anna, the creators of the short film "Pivot." They discuss the inspiration behind the film and its powerful message. The film tells the story of a young girl who rebels against societal expectations and fights against wearing a dress. The film explores themes of self-acceptance, identity, and the importance of allowing children to be true to themselves. "Pivot" has been well-received in film festivals and is currently being considered for an Oscar nomination. The creators encourage everyone to watch and share the film to promote inclusivity and understanding. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 Robin Campbell is a Canadian screenwriter and filmmaker. She is the creator of the short film "Pivot," which explores the journey of a young girl who doesn't fit the traditional gender norms imposed by her mother. The film is based on Robin's own experiences with bisexuality and the fear of not fitting into societal expectations. Anna Gusson is a working director in the animation industry based in Vancouver. She directed "Pivot" and was responsible for translating Robin's story into visual images. Anna's role was to bring the words to life and create a visual representation of the emotional journey depicted in the film. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 The film "Pivot" addresses the emotional journey of a young girl who doesn't fit traditional gender norms and the fear of not being accepted for who she truly is. The film highlights the importance of self-acceptance and standing up for one's true identity, even in the face of societal expectations. "Pivot" is a universal story that resonates with people from different cultures and backgrounds, as it explores the common experience of feeling misunderstood or pressured to conform. The film aims to bridge conversations between children and parents, encouraging open dialogue and understanding. The team behind "Pivot" wanted to create a film that empowers children to be the heroes of their own stories and encourages parents to see and value their children for who they truly are. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "The film is about a young girl who doesn't fit the image that her mom has for her... It's my journey of my bisexuality." - Robin Campbell "We made the film to bridge conversations and to make sure everyone gets a little bit out of it." - Anna Gusson 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: Watch Pivot: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rJu0xRbNOXo 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/29174568

Gender, Sexuality, and God's Will 12/18/2023

Gender, Sexuality, and God's Will S14 EP12 | , a Nigerian-born pediatrician and advocate, shares her personal journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a queer person. Growing up in a homophobic and religious society, she struggled with internalized homophobia and rejected her own child when they showed signs of being feminine. However, after her child revealed themselves as transgender, Dr. Lulu had a change of heart and became an advocate for LGBTQIA+ youth. She emphasizes the importance of unlearning societal norms and accepting and affirming our children for who they truly are. Dr. Lulu also discusses her new practice and the importance of supporting siblings in the transition process. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 Dr. Lulu is a pediatrician, advocate, and speaker. She is Nigerian-born and has a passion for supporting LGBTQIA+ youth and their families. Dr. Lulu has recently opened a gender-affirming family coaching practice where she helps parents and families navigate the process of gender affirmation. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Self-awareness is crucial in understanding our reactions and beliefs about gender. Exploring the underlying emotions and beliefs behind our reactions can lead to personal growth and understanding. Gender affirmation goes beyond hormones and surgery and includes respecting a person's chosen name, pronouns, and clothing. Supporting and affirming LGBTQIA+ children requires unlearning societal norms and taking responsibility for our own biases. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "The truth will set you free. Spend enough time getting curious and asking yourself why you felt this way." - Dr. Lulu "Embarrassment is an emotion that can reveal deeper beliefs and patterns in our lives." - Dr. Lulu "Gender affirmation starts at a young age and includes respecting a person's chosen name and pronouns." - Dr. Lulu "Parents must let go of the belief that they did something wrong and accept their child's gender identity." - Dr. Lulu 🏳️‍🌈Resources: Lifeline 1-888-488-7386 : Watch Videos of Support : 1800-273-TALK (8255) The GLGT National Help Center: 1-888-THE_GLNH (888-843-4564) Youth Talkline: 1-800-245-PRIDE (800-246-7743) 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/29108568

Navigating Transitions and Coming Out Together 12/11/2023

Navigating Transitions and Coming Out Together S14 EP11 | Moe Ari and Tiffany, hosts of the podcast, share their journey as a queer couple. They met in college, became friends, and eventually fell in love. Moe Ari later came out as transgender, and they decided to start a family through reciprocal IVF. They faced challenges with their families' acceptance and had difficult conversations about their donor choice. Despite the obstacles, their families have come around and are now obsessed with their daughter, Nova. The couple emphasizes the importance of being your own “love goals” and creating your own authentic journey of partnership. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 and are the hosts of the podcast. They met in college and have been together for a decade. Moe Ari is transgender and went through a gender transition during their relationship. They used reciprocal IVF to have their daughter, Nova. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Nova's birth helped solidify Moe Ari's gender transition and their identity as a father. The couple chose a donor based on shared values and personality traits, rather than physical appearance. Moe Ari's family was accepting of his coming out & transition, while Tiffany faced more challenges with her family's acceptance. Becoming parents has brought healing and growth to both Moe Ari and Tiffany. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "Hearing her call me Daddy for the first time was like, I am a dude. I am a dad." - Moe Ari "We wanted to feel connected to the donor in a way that transcended the physical." - Moe Ari "Having Nova was the first time I had the confidence to really allow myself to be seen." - Tiffany 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/29000858

A Donor Conceived Gay Mom Finds Her "Bio Dad" 12/04/2023

A Donor Conceived Gay Mom Finds Her "Bio Dad" S14 EP10 | Freya Lyon, a queer mom and donor-conceived child, shares her journey of finding her "bio dad" and connecting with her donor-conceived siblings. She discusses her experience growing up with queer moms, her own journey of becoming a parent, and the importance of open communication and honesty in donor-conceived families. Freya emphasizes the significance of answering the questions of donor-conceived children and providing them with the option to connect with their donors or half-siblings. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters.🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Freya had a positive experience growing up as a donor-conceived child and always felt comfortable discussing her origins. She recently found her biological father and has formed a close relationship with him and her donor-conceived siblings. Freya's children have multiple half-siblings from the same donor, and they have the option to connect with them in the future. Open communication and honesty are crucial in donor-conceived families to ensure that children have a clear understanding of their origins and can make informed decisions about connecting with their donors or half-siblings. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "I've always wondered if I would have inherited something [from my biological father]." - Freya Lyon "Our family is completed, we're not having anymore. I want to be able to do this for someone." - Freya Lyon "That level of contact was really all I wanted as a kid. I just wanted the odd question answered. I didn't need that relationship growing up. It's just a bonus now." - Freya Lyon 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 is a queer mom and donor-conceived child. She has two children with her wife using a sperm donor and has recently connected with her biological father. Freya shares her journey of finding her biological father and forming relationships with her donor-conceived siblings. 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28898033

The Fortunate Dads Adopt 11/27/2023

The Fortunate Dads Adopt S14 EP9 | Eddie and Aurelio discuss their journey of adopting in the UK and becoming parents to twin toddlers during the pandemic. They emphasize the need for a support network and resources during the adoption process, and how the COVID-19 pandemic added both challenges and opportunities for bonding with their children. They now provide representation and support for other same-sex couples and adoptive parents through their popular social media platforms. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 Eddie and Aurelio, also known as , are adoptive parents who share their journey of adopting twin boys on their social media platforms. They provide representation and support for other same-sex couples and adoptive parents. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Adoption involves extensive paperwork, interviews, and assessments, making it a complex and emotional process. The adoption system has a high number of children in need of loving families. Having a support network and resources in place is crucial during the adoption process. The COVID-19 pandemic presented additional challenges, but also provided an opportunity for bonding and quality time with the children. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "We wanted to be a family and adoption felt like the right path for us." - Eddie and Aurelio "There is no feeling like it. You just feel whole." - Eddie "Representation matters. It's important for our children to see other same-sex couples and know that it's normal." - Aurelio 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For an based on this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28786718

A Beautifully Complicated Transition, with Emme Reynolds 11/20/2023

A Beautifully Complicated Transition, with Emme Reynolds S14 EP8 | Emme Reynolds, a transgender parent to two children in a newly blended family, shares their journey of self-discovery and transition. She discusses the importance of listening to each other's stories and understanding the challenges and complexities of transitioning. Emme emphasizes that transition is not a one-time event but an ongoing process, and highlights the difficulties faced by the LGBTQIA+ community in the current political climate. She also touches on the support she has received from her family and the importance of visibility and representation. Overall, Emme encourages open and honest conversations about gender identity and the experiences of trans individuals. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 is a transgender parent to two children in a blended family. They are also the host of the podcast "A Second Puberty." 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Transitioning is a complex and ongoing process, and it is important to understand that it is not always easy or straightforward. It is crucial to listen to and understand each other's stories within the LGBTQ+ community. The support and acceptance of family and friends can make a significant difference in the well-being and happiness of a trans individual. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "Transition can be hard and difficult, but it is also beautiful and valid." Emme "No one is trying to turn your straight kid trans. We're trying to keep trans kids alive." Emme "It is important to have access to gender-affirming healthcare and medications." Emme 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: about centering disability visibility in reproductive healthcare: 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28700448

Finding Strength in Tragedy 11/13/2023

Finding Strength in Tragedy S14 EP7 | Liz Glazer, an award-winning stand-up comedian and queer mom, shares her journey to parenthood and the stillbirth of her first daughter, Leo Pearl. She discusses the struggles and grief associated with pregnancy loss, emphasizing that all forms of loss are equally difficult. Liz also talks about her wife's decision to freeze her eggs and their experience using a sperm bank. Despite the tragedy, Liz and her wife decided to try again and successfully welcomed their daughter, Eloise. Liz highlights the importance of being there for someone experiencing grief and offers insights into the unique nature of grieving for a child who never lived. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 is an award-winning stand-up comedian and queer mom. She is known for her debut stand-up comedy and storytelling album, "A Very Particular Experience," which explores the stillbirth of her first daughter, Leo Pearl. Liz is also a former tenured law professor and has been doing stand-up for 10 years. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Liz and her wife, Karen, decided to have children, and Karen had frozen her eggs before they started trying. Liz and Karen used a sperm bank for the embryo transfer, and the first transfer was successful. Liz emphasizes that there is no hierarchy of grief and that all forms of pregnancy loss are difficult. Liz and Karen joined a bereavement group called Pockets of Light, which provided support during their grieving process. Liz shares the strangeness of grieving for someone who never lived and the abstract nature of the grief. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "I think that being willing to be the person who is there, who's emailing, who's calling, who's reaching out, that's really helpful." - Liz Glazer "Grief is such a personal journey and nightmare in so many ways." - Liz Glazer "There's no grief Olympics, all of it sucks because all of it is." - Liz Glazer 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28586723

Diving Deep into Donor Conception PT. 2 11/06/2023

Diving Deep into Donor Conception PT. 2 | S14 EP6 | and discuss the importance of disclosure and open communication when parenting donor-conceived children. They emphasize the need to drop seeds of information from an early age, allowing children to gradually understand their unique family story. The guests also highlight the significance of language and terminology when discussing donors. The conversation touches on the challenges of managing expectations and the potential impact of meeting donor siblings or the donor themselves. The guests introduce their new book, which provides guidance and support for individuals and couples navigating the donor conception process. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 The guests on this episode are , a therapist, and , a medical director at Illume Fertility. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 In this episode of The Queer Family Podcast, Jamie interviews Lisa and Dr. Mark Leondires about donor conception and parenting donor-conceived children. They discuss the importance of open donor programs and the need for disclosure and communication with children about their donor conception. The guests emphasize the importance of dropping seeds and having ongoing conversations with children about their donor conception from a young age. They also address the concerns and challenges faced by donor-conceived individuals and the need for support and understanding from parents. The guests talk about their new book, "Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception," which provides guidance and support for individuals and couples on their donor conception journey. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "Children are most unhappy under two circumstances, one accidental disclosure and second, late disclosure." - Dr. Mark Leondires "If you tell them when your kids are 10, 11, or 12, they're going to see you sweat. If you've been telling them all along, they're like, 'Oh, shut up, dad.'" - Dr. Mark Leondires "Our kids have to get through this identity formation on their own and try to figure out who they are in relationship to their parents and then to another set of genetics that they don't really know that well." - Lisa Schuman 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28514288

Diving Deep into Donor Conception 10/30/2023

Diving Deep into Donor Conception S14 EP4 | In the first part of this 2-part episode, we're diving deep into that Search for The Superhuman, y'all! Lisa Schuman and Dr. Mark Leondires, co-authors of "Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception," share insights on choosing the right donor and explore the unique perspectives and experiences LGBTQIA+ individuals bring to this exciting and complex family-building journey. Stay tuned for part 2, which will be released next Monday. OR catch it right now on our Patreon channel, where we'll delve into how the heck you navigate parenting and life as a donor-conceived family. 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 Lisa Schuman is a therapist with almost 30 years of experience in reproductive medicine. She is the host of the Donor Conception Conversations Podcast and runs the Center for Family Building, a one-stop shop for resources and support for family-building journeys. Lisa is also the co-author of the book "Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception." Dr. Mark Leondires is the medical director at Illume Fertility and the founder of Gay Parents to Be. He has personal experience with donor conception, having built his own family through egg donation and surrogacy. Dr. Mark is passionate about helping LGBTQIA+ individuals and couples navigate the family-building process and is dedicated to providing quality care and support. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 1. Donor conception involves choosing a donor whose genetics and health history align with your values and priorities. 2. It's important to prioritize health and genetics when selecting a donor, rather than focusing solely on personal preferences or characteristics. 3. Psychological screening and testing can help ensure that donors are honest and mentally healthy. 4. Open and honest communication with children about their donor conception story is crucial for their emotional well-being and understanding of their identity. 5. Queer parents often have a unique perspective on donor conception, as they have already navigated the process of accepting their own identities and building their families. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 - "Remember, you're not getting that person. You're getting their past three to five generations." - Dr. Mark Leondires - "Choosing your donor should be a head decision, but it really starts in your heart." - Lisa Schuman 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28449014

Surrogacy Shenanigans with "The Gaytriarchs" Dads 10/23/2023

Surrogacy Shenanigans with "The Gaytriarchs" Dads | S14 EP4 | Gavin and David, hosts of the podcast "," discuss their experiences with surrogacy and parenting as gay men. They share their journeys of finding egg donors and surrogate carriers, and the decisions they made along the way. The hosts also touch on the unique aspects of gay parenting and the need for constant conversations and decision-making, as well as the importance of authenticity and laughter in navigating the challenges and joys of queer parenting. 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 - Gavin Lodge and David F.M. Vaughn are the co-hosts of the podcast "Gaytriarchs" and are both gay fathers. Gavin has two children and David has two children, all through surrogacy. They have a background in musical theater and share a passion for creating a podcast that brings humor and realness to the gay parenting world. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 The podcast "Gaytriarchs" aims to provide a space for gay dads to laugh, share stories, and find support. Balancing parenthood and personal interests can be challenging, but it's important to prioritize self-care and maintain a sense of individuality. The hosts emphasize the need for authenticity and realness in the gay parenting community, rather than just portraying an idealized version of family life. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to our sponsors🏳️‍🌈 (code QUEERFAM) (code QUEERFAM) 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages 🏳️‍🌈 Call us and leave a voicemail or text: 646-470-1840 Email: [email protected] 🏳️‍🌈, , 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato🏳️‍🌈 Timestamp Summary 0:00:00 Introduction to the Queer Family Podcast and sponsor mention 0:00:30 Discussion on the unique challenges of gay families 0:02:07 Announcement of the Queer Family Podcast winning two Signal Awards 0:04:00 Shoutout to a listener and their upcoming surrogacy journey 0:05:22 Encouragement for listeners to reach out and connect 0:06:19 Introduction to Gavin and David, hosts of Gaytriarchs 0:06:43 David's 32-second elevator pitch about being a gay dad 0:08:21 Gavin's 32-second elevator pitch about being a gay dad 0:09:31 Playful discussion about who won the elevator pitch competition 0:10:09 Mention of upcoming topic on guns for their podcast episode 0:10:08 Introduction: Gavin and David talk about guns. 0:10:48 David's decision to pursue surrogacy and his sister-in-law's offer. 0:13:46 David's sister-in-law agrees to be their surrogate. 0:15:31 Finding a second surrogate through a Facebook group during COVID. 0:16:54 Gavin's conventional route to surrogacy through an agency. 0:17:19 Gavin's experience of flying to Pasadena for sperm donation. 0:18:28 The issue of lost sperm during the egg donor process. 0:19:25 Agency's mishap with the number of viable eggs from the donor. 0:19:28 Discussing the mishap in the surrogacy process. 0:20:13 Debate on using the term "vagina" versus "vulva". 0:21:13 Gavin's experience with surrogacy and the cost involved. 0:22:16 Gavin's desire to have kids and his partner's concerns. 0:24:08 Parenthood as a lesson in selflessness. 0:25:08 Advice on becoming a parent and maintaining self-identity. 0:26:06 Promo for California Cryobank and sperm donor selection. 0:26:58 Decision-making process on who would be the gestational parent. 0:27:39 Possibility of having twins with each partner's biological connection. 0:28:26 Anecdote of military dads with two surrogates and multiple babies. 0:28:25 Discussion about multiple pregnancies and babies 0:29:24 Gavin shares his experience of driving the baby train 0:30:10 Egg donor went MIA during the process 0:32:00 Different approaches to giving children last names 0:33:31 Overthinking decisions about last names 0:35:31 The search for an egg donor and the challenges involved 0:36:47 Biases and parameters in choosing an egg donor 0:37:15 Reflections on the influence of the egg donor 0:37:15 Reflections on the influence of the egg donor 0:37:15 David's view on his kids' behavior and genetics. 0:37:33 Gavin's experience with selecting an egg donor based on appearance. 0:38:18 Gavin asks David about watching videos of potential donors. 0:38:33 David and Gavin discuss selecting donors who resemble them. 0:39:23 David and Gavin talk about choosing average-looking donors. 0:40:23 David mentions not thinking about the donor anymore. 0:40:49 Jamie expresses surprise that closed donations still exist. 0:41:22 Jamie shares her thoughts on seeing the donor in her daughter. 0:42:31 David fears the donor might disappoint him if they meet. 0:43:53 Gavin and David talk about their children's ages. 0:47:22 Introduction to the podcast and how it started 0:47:43 Discussion about the need for a podcast on gay dads 0:48:16 Creating a diaper bag for gay dads 0:49:05 Fear of taking artistic leap and vulnerability 0:50:23 Challenges of remote recording and growing as a team 0:51:09 Humor and light-heartedness in the podcast 0:51:49 Importance of representation and inclusion in podcasts 0:52:05 Musical theater energy and laughter in the show 0:53:27 Appreciation for paving the way for other podcasts 0:53:59 Closing remarks and thanks to the guest /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28382912

Healthy Queer Parenting Amidst Anti-LGBTQ Laws 10/16/2023

Healthy Queer Parenting Amidst Anti-LGBTQ Laws | S14 EP3 | Nat Vikitsreth is a licensed clinical psychotherapist and child development specialist, and host of the Come Back to Care Podcast. She shares her personal journey, growing up in Bangkok, Thailand, and embracing her identity as a trans woman. Nat's work goes beyond therapy; she offers vital support to the queer community by being the "trans auntie of the village, loving up on other parents, especially queer parents." She discusses the importance of self-awareness and being present with our children. Her message reminds parents (especially Jaimie 😜) to give themselves grace as they navigate the complexities of parenting. "Queer Parents. We got this." - Nat Key Takeaways: Balancing the pressure to protect and prepare our children with the need to be present and connected. Self-awareness and recognizing our own patterns and reactions is crucial in being present with our children. Slowing down, pausing, and taking a breath can help us respond to our children's needs in a more present and connected way. Give yourself grace as a parent and acknowledge that you are doing your best. Quotes: "We tend to put our parenting values in the backseat when worries and fears take over." - Nat "The threats are real, but we need to balance being present with our children so that they feel seen, heard, and loved for who they are." - Nat "If we're not soothed, we can't soothe our child." - Nat "All you parents out there who are doing your damn best. Give yourself grace. We all fuck up." - Jamie "That one thing in a day is so important." - Nat If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages Follow and Find Nat Vikitsreth: IG: @comebacktocare Website: Podcast: Newsletter: 7-week social justice parenting & inner child re-parenting program (Nov 1 - Dec 13): Watch Video Episodes right now on Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. Buy our merch For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our Chapters: [0:00:00] Introduction and sponsor announcement [0:00:12] Nat's desire to be a trans auntie and work with queer parents [0:01:47] Jamie's introduction and background on previous parenting coaching session [0:03:19] Nat's email expressing hope to affirm, validate, and uplift listeners [0:04:12] Recommendation for the "Gaytriarchs" podcast [0:05:17] Listener message from Dana in Wisconsin [0:06:48] Jamie's gratitude and call for more listener messages [0:08:08] Introduction of Nat and conversation begins [0:08:42] Nat's elevator pitch and focus on love and boundaries [0:10:42] Nat's work as a decolonized therapist and supporting social justice parenting [0:11:28] Discussion of Nat's childhood and realization of being trans [0:12:05] Nat's struggle with understanding and expressing their gender identity [0:12:52] Nat talks about finding a community at their Catholic all boys school [0:14:15] Nat tells their parents they think they are a woman [0:15:06] Nat's parents already knew and accepted their identity [0:16:12] Nat moves to a different province to finish high school [0:17:05] Nat finds a chosen family in the sex worker community [0:18:26] Nat starts transitioning in their first year of college [0:19:14] Nat gets involved with the sex worker community [0:21:06] Nat talks about the emotional connection with clients as a sex worker [0:23:20] Nat and their chosen family do organizing work for safety [0:24:59] Nat's parents seek therapy to understand and accept their transition [0:25:44] Nat discusses their parents' education on their journey. [0:26:23] Nat mentions seeing multiple psychiatrists as a requirement for transitioning. [0:27:13] Nat talks about initially wanting a traditional family but later changing their mind. [0:28:09] Nat expresses a desire to be the "trans auntie" and support queer families. [0:29:21] Nat discusses the influence of patriarchy on their perception of womanhood. [0:30:46] Jamie introduces the topic of parenting in the current anti-trans climate. [0:32:00] Nat shares their journey of moving to the US and working with families. [0:32:51] Nat discusses the challenges of parenting in a hostile world. [0:34:24] Nat emphasizes the importance of being present with children despite challenges. [0:36:19] Nat suggests balancing teaching and preparing with being present with children. [0:38:32] Difficulty of being present with a child's hurt [0:39:23] Using the SIFT acronym to slow down and pause [0:39:56] Mama bear instinct to protect child [0:40:49] Using the SIFT acronym to notice bodily cues [0:42:40] Sensations may be too overwhelming for some parents [0:43:18] Noticing thoughts before going into teaching mode [0:44:27] Checking in with child's feelings and experiences [0:45:39] Pausing before reacting and breaking the pattern [0:46:44] Giving oneself grace and apologizing for losing temper [0:49:20] Sharing alternative actions and modeling emotional resilience [0:51:27] Research on mothers' ability to meet their babies' needs [0:53:16] Babies as young as three months can cope with stress [0:54:08] Different ways to self-soothe and model for children [0:55:15] Importance of teaching emotional skills to navigate difficult emotions [0:56:26] Recognizing the need to slow down and pay attention [0:58:06] Personalizing self-soothing techniques for children [0:59:29] Core regulation and sitting with children in their emotions [1:00:57] Being transparent about one's own capacity for regulation [1:01:51] Giving parents grace and acknowledging their efforts [1:02:50] Queer parents and allies are doing a great job [1:03:48] Introduction to Nat and their podcast [1:04:25] Thank you and closing remarks [1:05:00] Merchandise and conclusion /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28314920

Will Our BFF Be Our Surrogate? 10/09/2023

Will Our BFF Be Our Surrogate? Mohsin, Matthew, and Dahlia are best friends and hosts of the podcast "Tiny Huge Decisions,” where they explore in depth the possibility of Dahlia becoming a surrogate for Mohsin and Matthew. They sat down with Jaimie to discuss the questions they’ve grappled with in the decision-making process, including the impact on their friendship, the legal and emotional aspects of surrogacy in the UK, and how their cultural and religious backgrounds play into all of it. They also delve into the importance of having strong female role models in their children's lives and the potential long-term relationship between Dahlia and the child. We get deep and personal on the intricacies of surrogacy and also delve into the complexities of friendship, family, and personal identity with these candid and fun BFFs. "Surrogacy with a close friend adds new layers and complexities to the process." - Matthew If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on for as low as $2/month! We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 / ////: @thequeerfamilypodcast Thanks to (code QUEERFAM), (code QUEERFAM) and our supporters. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages Follow and Find Watch Video Episodes right now on Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on , , . Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: \ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. Buy our merch For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our Chapters: | 0:00:00 | Introduction to the podcast and sponsors. | | 0:00:30 | Mohsin discusses the challenges of being gay in a religious and cultural family. | | 0:01:40 | Introduction to the podcast "Tiny Huge Decisions" and its premise. | | 0:02:47 | Behind the scenes info about Mohsin and Dahlia's friendship and Mohsin and Matthew's relationship. | | 0:04:13 | Ally voicemail from Shephathia asking about a term for children of LGBTQ parents. | | 0:05:43 | Answering Shephathia’s question about the term "queer spawn" for children of LGBTQ parents. | | 0:07:09 | Request for listeners to reach out and share their thoughts and stories. | | 0:08:19 | Introduction of the podcast hosts and their backgrounds. | | 0:09:46 | Summary of the podcast "Tiny Huge Decisions" and its exploration of surrogacy. | | 0:10:37 | Discussion about the relevance of Dahlia's work as a medical anthropologist. | | 0:11:05 | Introduction and background of the friendship between Mohsin and Dahlia | | 0:12:27 | Mohsin's coming out story and how Dahlia was the first person he told | | 0:14:06 | Dahlia's reaction to Mohsin's coming out | | 0:16:06 | Mohsin's inner turmoil and struggles with faith, culture, and family | | 0:18:27 | Matthew's coming out experience in a small town in Ireland | | 0:19:03 | Dahlia's observation of Mohsin's transformation after coming out | | 0:19:32 | Mohsin and Matthew's meeting and marriage | | 0:20:08 | Discussions about family building in their relationship | | 0:20:35 | Comparing their backgrounds and the sense of community from big families | | 0:20:35 | Age difference and discussions about having kids | | 0:21:09 | Importance of discussing family building intentions early on | | 0:21:41 | Considerations and challenges of LGBTQ+ family building | | 0:22:39 | Dahlia offers to be a surrogate as a joke | | 0:23:23 | Dahlia's proposal is taken seriously and discussed further | | 0:24:13 | Excitement and research about surrogacy options | | 0:25:34 | Decision to focus on surrogacy before exploring other options | | 0:26:10 | Podcast idea to have dedicated discussions and do research | | 0:27:46 | Structured conversations with experts and disciplined approach | | 0:29:33 | Dahlia's husband supports her decision without involvement in discussions | | 0:30:52 | Surrogacy in the UK and differences from the US | | 0:31:08 | Introduction to surrogacy in the UK | | 0:31:24 | Differences between UK and US surrogacy laws and costs | | 0:32:14 | Legal differences between UK and US surrogacy | | 0:33:19 | Discussion on the process and agreements in UK surrogacy | | 0:34:51 | Challenges of being friends and surrogacy | | 0:36:16 | Importance of sharing real-time experiences and negotiations | | 0:36:56 | Complexities of long-term relationship with the child | | 0:38:11 | Importance of strong female role models in their children's lives | | 0:39:34 | Plan in case the answer is no revealed in episode 7 | | 0:40:32 | Where to find the podcast and social media handles | | 0:41:35 | Thanking sponsor California Cryobank | | 0:41:56 | Matthew: Love is love | | 0:41:58 | Jamie: Enjoyed the episode, listen/watch another | | 0:42:23 | Jamie: Support show on Patreon, bonus content, love and adoration | /episode/index/show/ovariestalk/id/28253183