queer maintenance

Jess Culpepper & AJ Stacy tell stories about queer life and come clean about the dirt. We share our secrets so you can keep yours. @queer_maintenance

penis sandwich 12/28/2023

penis sandwich Hi! You are probably thinking, "What?! An episode of Queer Maintenance?" Yes, it's true. You'll discover that my girlfriend, Deana, and I (Jess) have jumped onto the podcast wagon to create an episode together. We're going to continue to do so as long as we have things to talk about. We'll highlight our individual roads to recovery, blending our family, possibly some advice that you may or may not want to take, and loads of other ramblings that we hope you enjoy at least some part of. IG: queermaintenance Jess: _iamjustjess /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/29250293

the quiet game 01/16/2023

the quiet game Story time Social media and time off Book of the month Individuality in a relationship Appreciate y'all listening and if you have any questions or want to respond to some of what I discuss, please DM @queer_maintenance and mention my name or send me a personal DM @jess_culpepper. Have a great week! Jess /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/25616859

Status Update 01/02/2023

Status Update New things happening for 2023! If you're still here, you're a very patient person and we love you tons. Have a question or topic you'd like one or both of us to answer in a future episode? DM us @queer_maintenance or separately @jess_culpepper and @askajanything on Instagram. Love, Jess & AJ /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/25485630

PSA 10/04/2022

PSA AJ and I are taking a short pause on the podcast to regroup and come back with new ideas and a potential direction. Think of it like a break between seasons from your favorite show. If you have any ideas for what you'd like to see from us moving forward, please DM us on IG @queer_maintenance. We love you! Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/24587238

most embarrassing sex... 09/26/2022

most embarrassing sex... it's in the title. We take user responses (keeping it anonymous) and talk about our most embarrassing sexual moments. We even add in our own because that's what this is about. Thank you for listening and spending time with us. Also thank you for giving us a couple of weeks off without question. We love sharing with you all and sometimes our life outside of the cast gets a little crazy and we need a break to focus. If you liked this, why not leave us 5 stars?! If you hated it, let us know on IG @queer_maintenance. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/24490299

quidditch not cribbage 09/05/2022

quidditch not cribbage Earliest childhood memory; how does trauma shape our memories? AJ's big 44! Happy birthday!! how loud is too loud? Coffee shop etiquette. Thanks so much for spending time with us this week. Happy Labor Day! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/24280053

boys can have girls' night too 08/29/2022

boys can have girls' night too Social media tell-all: one of my exs was apparently in love with her professor that first kiss though who decided: masculine v feminine presenting you are the absolute greatest for taking time out of your day to hear us talk about life. if anything strikes your fancy and you want to respond, hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) for QM swag search us on Etsy; to book coaching sessions with Jess, go to /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/24195894

explosive dildos 08/22/2022

explosive dildos TSA suitcase finds who's feeding the chickens? consider your first relationship; with what you know now, what would you go back and tell yourself? cherry-poppin' karaoke You are amazing for taking time out to listen to us. This podcast is a way for us to connect with our community and/or build community by talking about all the weird nuances of life as we step into different stages. If you want us to answer questions, find us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) ps. if you'd like to grab our swag look up Queer Maintenance on Etsy and if you'd like to get coached by me, Jess, book an appointment on . Thanks! /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/24130479

double-sided... 08/15/2022

double-sided... sleeping bag, you dirty birds. Setting boundaries with our parents. Embarrassing (birthday) moments. We appreciate you for taking the time to listen to us and hope that you enjoyed at least 70%, I'll take a solid C. If you would rate us an A, maybe consider dropping 5 stars or even a comment to let us know. It helps get us to more ear holes across this great big world. Catch us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) ps. if you'd like to inquire about getting coached by me (Jess), my focus is on relationships, getting through break-ups, and finding out who you really are and how to bring that forward. Book a Discovery session here: /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/24057852

always ask your partner first! 08/08/2022

always ask your partner first! Listener question: first girlfriend from 13 years prior reaches out... what to do? when you're just not feeling up to it, sometimes just showing up is what matters most the most adorable AIM screenname, mina. Thanks for giving us a listen. If you feel so inclined, please drop us 5 stars as it helps get us to more people who might also be interested. If we aren't at 5 stars yet, send us a DM and let us know how we can improve @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. We love our mechanics! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) ps. follow Jess' coaching social @thepolishedpigeon on IG! Thanks :) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23992938

Text me when you get home 08/01/2022

Text me when you get home If you could be someone else for a day, what would that look like? Think gender, sex, etc... Do you ask someone you just met/went on a date with to text you when they get home? Costco: the best kept lesbian day date secret We very much appreciate the time you take to listen to us. It warms out little queer hearts. If you'd like to speak directly with us, we are available on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok, but mostly IG. Also! I (Jess, that's me) just launched my new business IG account and my new website, which I've been working on over the last couple of months while I've been away from social. This is all about coaching with a splash of queer maintenance and some other fun things. If you'd like to check it out, give me a follow or just creep-stalk me, that's ok too @thepolishedpigeon and We love you. Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23921871

only if you say it first 07/25/2022

only if you say it first Jess' hiatus: explained Growing, evolving, and creating a sustainable platform How it works: the things we do behind the scenes to get this podcast moving and shaking We're working on a new strategy in order to enhance viewer engagement. We love what we do here on Queer Maintenance and are doing the best we can to stay fresh and make changes in order to appeal to our listeners. It's not always going to be great but if we can get "good" most of the time, I'm stoked. We value your time and understand that you're here for us and with us, so thank you for allowing us the space to grow. If you'd like to reach out to us and get a real response from one or both of us, slide into our DMs @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. We also accept old school email communication at . Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23855622

shine bright like a diamond 07/18/2022

shine bright like a diamond San Diego Pride Listener questions: am I codependent or do I just miss my partner? AJ finally gives away what the gift was for fun friend's birthday; happy birthday, fun friend! Thanks so much for listening! We do all of this from our sheer desire to connect with people and feel a sense of community. If you enjoyed this one, why not rate it 5 stars? We would greatly appreciate it. If you'd like to connect via social hit us up @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok or email us at . Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23775386

to ceremony or not 07/11/2022

to ceremony or not yup, it's marriage talk LBC Pride weekend our opinions on what marriage means We would love to get some responses to these topics, especially the marriage one. If you have a comment or question, please hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG or TikTok or you can go old school and email us at . Appreciate all your time and love. This was a shorter episode in order to accommodate AJ's Pride weekend schedule... we'll be back next week with a much longer one! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23709071

living in integrity and other things 07/04/2022

living in integrity and other things what to get your SO/FF (significant other/fun friend) after dating for a short time what is AJ like after happy hour are you truly living in integrity Thanks for taking time out to listen to us gab. Just a couple of wild chickens having the time in our 40's. If you feel inspired, send us a message on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. We're also available via email for those who want to go old school: . Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23626133

finger bang stretch 06/28/2022

finger bang stretch yacht rock being at peace with your life choices/making amends for the rest of it sometimes you just have to make out with your mic a little Thanks for spending time with us this humid Monday (in San Diego). We appreciate your time and if you have anything you'd like to tell us, hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. If you want to bring it back old school and send us an email, Jess will gladly respond! () Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23560370

just let it all out 06/20/2022

just let it all out the joys of being a woman when everyone thinks you're a man queer parenting and donors and half-siblings, oh my! when to move in with your partner Appreciate you spending some QT with us this week; again we had so much to talk about and we hope that you were able to follow along at home. If you enjoyed this one, click on 5-stars and maybe drop a comment if you have 30 seconds. If you hated it, try another! Send in questions and we'll read and answer them on the cast at some point. Email us at or shoot us a DM on IG/TikTok @queer_maintenance. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23485535

panty dropper 06/13/2022

panty dropper the many forms of jealousy; this was a tough one to talk about for me dating while parenting in the LGBTQ community (divorce etc...) divine timing, something greater than ourselves Thanks for spending your time with us on this Monday morning (or whenever you're listening). We appreciate all of you and hope that you get something out of these fireside chats. If you feel so inclined, leave us 5-stars or a simple comment letting us know what you liked. If you want to find us on social, search @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23411684

after further thought 06/06/2022

after further thought COVID hit me Pride month and what it all means Sometimes we have to edit out what we say and dub over; I prefer the rough edits Appreciate you coming back to us after we took a week off to recover. As always, we are super thankful to everyone who spends time with us and who engages with us on social. If you'd like to chat with us outside of this episode, hit us up on IG and TikTok @queer_maintenance. If you enjoyed this episode, consider leaving a 5-star rating or even dropping a short comment. All of it helps get us to more ear holes. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23338892

the freedom of love 05/23/2022

the freedom of love If you're into length, this one's for you. AJ's not so traumatic trip to the gyno. We both have impeccable oral hygiene. What even is love? Hi Gay- This is AJ. Usually Jess writes these little show snippets, but it's my turn this week!! Hope you liked this episode. Need gay advice (or if you're straight we'll try our best)?? Send your queries about anything dating, sex, relationships, the meaning of life, whatever, to us (info below) and we'll spend about 4.27 seconds formulating a response. But we're talking QUALITY advice here. If you'd be so kind to spend .4 seconds giving us 5 stars that would be amaizing. Find us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23191583

it's not mine, it's yours 05/16/2022

it's not mine, it's yours showing up for your person even if it's not your bag, baby how your love language is only half the equation the prodigal son (praa-duh-gl) You're amazing for spending some time listening to this episode. If you feel so inclined, help us get to more ear-holes by giving us 5 stars and maybe leaving a sweet sweet comment. Find us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23124002

interrupting calf 05/09/2022

interrupting calf sneaky sneaky codependency your partner should be a place for you to land softly tell your SO if you really don't like doing something they enjoy... don't get stuck doing it for years until one day you finally pop! If you hate baseball, tell them :) Thanks so much for listening to this episode. If you liked it, consider giving us 5 stars and dropping a quick comment. If you didn't get anything out of it, try another if you're feeling fancy. Hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/23049245

tuppence a bag 05/02/2022

tuppence a bag labeling your relationships feed the squirrels, tuppence a bag get that love language, yo You are rad for spending your Monday with us (or whatever day you're listening to us) and we appreciate you. Please click 5 stars and throw down a comment if you feel so inclined. It helps get us to more ear holes who might enjoy an episode or two. Love and gratitude, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/22978097

fish police. 04/25/2022

fish police. unsportsmanlike conduct the fall from grace fear of appearing needy We're just two people having some life chats -- mostly about things that people are less inclined to say outloud. If you liked this episode, please consider giving us a rating or event commenting because it (super-feeds our egos) helps us get seen by those who might need to hear from us. We appreciate every single listen, share, and response. If you'd like to chat with us on social, hit us up @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/22899458

queer maintenance 04/18/2022

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brain fog 04/18/2022

brain fog I tried as hard as I could to make some sense in this episode but my sick brain was having trouble, so apologies. This is real life so I hope you still enjoy. I'm already feeling better as I upload this so next week should be right as rain. Thanks to my super rad co-host, AJ, for helping to bear the load on this one. If you didn't like this episode because I was sick, find another one and try again :) Find us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/22827245

how do you define sex? 04/11/2022

how do you define sex? what is sex between two women? STIs and have we had any AJ ran into a sound bath with fun friend It's still the greatest to know that you are spending your time listening to our chats. These come out every Monday and we can't thank you enough for clicking on us. If you enjoyed this, or other episodes, consider giving us a rating or a comment. Our goal is to reach those who should hear us chat about every day life as a queer person in this world. Hit us up on social if you're feeling fancy @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love and gratitude for this rad life, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/22751399

things that go bump... 04/04/2022

things that go bump... alien life forms? best friends and girlfriends I swear I'm not on my phone Appreciate you taking time to listen to this episode. This week we decided to just chat (which is what we do most weeks) but this one was plan-free. Sometimes we just need to shoot the shit and you get to listen to it, if you so choose. Hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/22672040

in defense of love 03/28/2022

in defense of love what are your fears in a relationship and how do you face them? anxiety got me like... what does that word even mean? Appreciate you taking the time to listen to this episode. If you have time and enjoyed it please consider rating us or leaving a comment. It's definitely not required but I think it helps get us out to more people who might also enjoy it. Always grateful for our "mechanics" (that's you!) and if you want to reach out to us on social, you can! @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/22595009

when is it time for the D? 03/21/2022

when is it time for the D? - see title - how long do you wait to fart in front of your partner? - what is our take on being friends with our exes Thanks for joining AJ and I on another random episode where we discuss things we have absolutely no business discussing in public. It's our take on life and how we experience it and we hope you enjoy. If you did, please consider rating us and possibly even leaving a comment! If you'd like to connect with us on social, slide into our DMs @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. With all the gratitude we can muster, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) /episode/index/show/queermaintenance/id/22514270

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