Welcome to the Wiederlife

If you're ready to reclaim your aliveness, your power, and have a renewed relationship to pleasure, you're in the right place! I'm Erica Wiederlight, CEO and founder of We the Light. Each week on this podcast, I'm bringing you episodes to guide you from feeling inadequate, broken, or shamed around your sexuality to feeling hella confident and living your #bestlife!

081: Shrinking, Sparkle, and the Sacred Work of Being Seen 10/10/2025

081: Shrinking, Sparkle, and the Sacred Work of Being Seen Today’s episode is one that’s been stirring in my heart for a while. We’re talking about something I see in almost every client I work with and if you’re listening, I’d guess it lives somewhere in you, too: ✨ The fear of being fully seen ✨ The subtle ways we shrink ✨ The quiet ache of dimming your sparkle to stay safe Maybe you wouldn’t call it that, but maybe you’ve felt it. That moment of hesitation before saying the bold thing… That voice that says, “Tone it down…” That feeling of being… fine, but not fully alive. This episode is for the part of you that’s so ready to stop playing small but still scared to take up space. We’re going deep into: The myth that success = aliveness The ancestral roots of fear and the Witch Wound The modern ways we cap our joy, magic, and radiance And how to begin healing… not by pushing harder, but by creating safety in your body to be fully, wildly you. This isn’t a mindset pep talk. It’s a soul-level remembering. A nervous-system recalibration. A return to your sparkle. 💡 In this episode, we explore: What “high-functioning dissatisfaction” really is (and how it hides behind your to-do list) Why feeling dim doesn’t mean you’re broken, just disconnected from your aliveness How the Witch Wound still lives in our bodies today (even if you’ve never heard the term) The sneaky ways we self-edit and shrink- even in small, everyday moments Why your nervous system resists joy and visibility (and how to gently rewire it) Tangible tools to reconnect with pleasure, radiance, and your most expressed self ✨ Gentle Reminders From This Episode: You’re not too much : you’ve just been taught to be less. You don’t need a bigger life. You need a brighter one. Your sparkle is not a threat. It’s a gift. You don’t need to start over, you just need to start glowing again. 🎧 Listen now if you’ve ever thought: “I should be happy… so why do I feel a little off?” “I want more, but I’m scared to want too much.” “I used to feel so alive… where did that version of me go?” If any of that lands, this episode is for you. 🌿 Resources + Next Steps: Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: If this episode stirred something in you and you’re ready to feel safe being fully seen, I’d love to hold space for you. This is a real, grounded, no-pressure call to explore your desires, your edges, and the path back to your magic. Connect with me on IG: DM me what came up for you during this episode — I love hearing from you. Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: /episode/index/show/welcometothewiederlife/id/38533790

080: Pelvic Health, Deep Pleasure & the Nervous System: A Holistic Sexual Empowerment Conversation with Dr. Saige Evans 08/14/2025

080: Pelvic Health, Deep Pleasure & the Nervous System: A Holistic Sexual Empowerment Conversation with Dr. Saige Evans In this powerful and informative episode, we’re joined by Dr. Saige Evans, Clinical Director and Pelvic Floor Therapist at Bloom Pelvic Therapy. Dr. Saige brings a deeply compassionate, trauma-informed approach to supporting people navigating vulvovaginal and pelvic pain. We unpack the connection between the pelvic floor and sexual health, bust some persistent myths, and explore how our nervous system plays a central role in both pain and pleasure. Whether you’re experiencing pelvic discomfort, want to enhance your sexual wellness, or are simply curious about how the body stores tension and trauma, this conversation offers insight, clarity, and hope. 👩‍⚕️ Meet Our Guest: Dr. Saige Evans is the Clinical Director and Pelvic Floor Therapist at Bloom Pelvic Therapy, supporting clients throughout the Tampa Bay area with clinic locations in South Tampa, St. Petersburg, and Lutz, Florida, as well as through virtual sessions. She holds a Doctorate in Occupational Therapy from Nova Southeastern University and has advanced training in pelvic health. Dr. Saige specializes in guiding clients through the complex experience of vulvovaginal and pelvic pain. She understands how isolating and frustrating it can be to live with an invisible condition and is deeply committed to helping her clients feel seen, supported, and empowered. Her clinical focus includes working with individuals experiencing vaginismus, vulvodynia, interstitial cystitis, pudendal neuralgia, and other chronic pelvic pain conditions. She emphasizes identifying root causes, promoting long-term relief, and restoring quality of life. To ensure the best outcomes, she collaborates closely with each client’s medical care team and works seamlessly with fellow pelvic therapists at Bloom. Dr. Saige brings a unique perspective to pelvic floor therapy through her background in Sensory Integration, having completed the USC Sensory Integration Certification. This training informs her holistic approach, offering insight into how the nervous system processes sensory input—and how this influences pelvic pain and restoring sexual health. 🔍 In This Episode, We Explore: What exactly is the pelvic floor and why it plays such a crucial role in sexual health How pelvic floor dysfunction can affect arousal, pleasure, and intimacy How trauma, stress, and the nervous system are intimately connected to pelvic pain The role of Sensory Integration in pelvic floor therapy and how it shapes Dr. Saige’s holistic approach Why a multidisciplinary and collaborative care model matters for long-term healing 💫 For Anyone Who… Has ever felt confused or unsupported around chronic pelvic pain Wants to better understand the connection between nervous system regulation and sexual health Is curious about how occupational therapy can support healing from within Desires more pleasure, ease, and embodiment in their life! 🖥️ Learn More About Dr. Saige & Bloom Pelvic Therapy: 🌐 📍 Serving South Tampa, St. Pete, Lutz, and offering worldwide virtual sessions Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: Connect with me on IG: Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: /episode/index/show/welcometothewiederlife/id/37815845

079: The Evolution of Pleasure: What Turns You On NOW 07/04/2025

078: Body Love: Healing Through Embodiment & Pleasure 06/11/2025

077: Healing Anxiety with Pleasure: Nervous System Regulation for Erotic Safety & Sensual Aliveness 05/26/2025

076: The Inside Job of Ease & Fabulousness 04/23/2025

075: The Art of Savoring Pleasure in the Present Moment 04/10/2025

075: The Art of Savoring Pleasure in the Present Moment In this episode, we dive into the power of mindfulness and pleasure—how slowing down and fully experiencing the present moment can bring more joy, connection, and richness to your life. So often, we rush through our days, missing the small, beautiful moments that make life feel full and pleasurable. But what if you could train yourself to pause, feel, and truly savor the simple pleasures that already exist around you? What You’ll Learn in This Episode: • How to bring mindfulness and pleasure into your daily routine • Simple techniques to tune into your body and awaken your senses • Why pleasure isn’t just about big moments—it’s found in the little details How to Cultivate More Pleasure & Presence: 1. Pause & Notice – Take a moment to truly see, hear, and feel your surroundings. Maybe it’s the warmth of your coffee mug, the softness of your sweater, or the way sunlight filters through the window. 2. Engage Your Senses – Run your fingers over a texture you love, deeply inhale a scent, or take an extra moment to taste your food. 3. Breathe it In – Close your eyes, take a slow, deep breath, and let the sensation fully settle in your body. 4. Carry It Forward – As you move through your day, look for small moments of joy—the sound of laughter, the rhythm of your footsteps, the feeling of fresh air on your skin. Why This Matters: • It slows you down. When you stop rushing, life feels fuller and more vibrant. • It connects you to your body. Pleasure isn’t just a thought—it’s something you feel. • It builds gratitude. When you learn to appreciate the little things, you naturally invite more joy into your life. Pleasure isn’t a destination—it’s already here, woven into the fabric of your everyday life. The more you slow down and notice it, the more alive and connected you’ll feel. Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: Connect with me on IG: Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: /episode/index/show/welcometothewiederlife/id/36077265

074: Sexual Empowerment & Freedom: Building Confidence Inside The Bedroom 03/23/2025

073: Making Your Goals Delicious: How Pleasure Can Skyrocket Your Success 02/04/2025

072: {Mini Practice} : “It’s Safe to Feel Good in my Body and My Life.” 01/27/2025

072: {Mini Practice} : “It’s Safe to Feel Good in my Body and My Life.” In this episode, we dive into the powerful connection between our body and our sense of safety and pleasure. Through somatic practices, meditation, and visualization, we explore what it means to feel good in our bodies and our lives. Together, we work with the mantra: “It is safe for me to feel good in my life and in my body,” creating space for healing, grounding, and self-trust. What You’ll Experience in This Episode: A grounding somatic practice to connect with your body and release tension. A guided meditation to cultivate safety and ease within yourself. Visualization techniques to reframe how you experience pleasure and joy in your life. Reflection on why it’s important to prioritize feeling good and how it impacts your overall well-being. Mantra for the Episode: “It is safe for me to feel good in my life and in my body.” Use this mantra as a daily reminder to trust your body and allow yourself to embrace pleasure, joy, and peace. Why This Matters: Feeling good in your body is a radical act of self-love and empowerment. Somatic practices help us process emotions stored in the body and build a deeper sense of safety. Visualization and meditation can help shift old narratives and open you up to new possibilities for joy and fulfillment. Takeaways for Your Journey: Start small: Spend a few minutes each day practicing the mantra and noticing how it feels in your body. Listen to your body’s signals—acknowledge what it needs and honor those needs without judgment. Incorporate somatic work and meditation into your routine to strengthen your mind-body connection. Reflection Questions: How does it feel to affirm that it’s safe to feel good in your body? What practices help you connect with your body and embrace its wisdom? How can you create more moments of safety and pleasure in your daily life? Connect With Me: If you enjoyed this episode, I’d love to hear how you’re integrating these practices into your life. Share your thoughts or experiences at info@wethelight.org Let’s create a world where it’s not only safe to feel good but where we prioritize it every single day. Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: Connect with me on IG: Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: /episode/index/show/welcometothewiederlife/id/35030945

071: The Death Doula: Navigating Grief, Endings, and Beginnings 01/11/2025

071: The Death Doula: Navigating Grief, Endings, and Beginnings In this episode, we explore the profound and universal experience of grief, not just in the context of death but in all forms of endings and transitions. I share personal stories, practical tools, and insights on how grief lives in the body, why it looks different for everyone, and how we can create space to honor and process it. Whether you’re navigating the loss of a loved one, the end of a chapter, or simply a shift in your life, this episode will help you prioritize self-care and support during difficult times. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How grief shows up in the body and why movement can help release it. Why grief isn’t limited to death—it’s present in all types of change. My personal journey of grieving my dad, both his passing and the evolution of our relationship. The many faces of grief: peaceful acceptance, deep despair, and everything in between. The importance of making space for grief and creating rituals or practices to honor it. How to identify and prioritize your needs during grief—whether it’s reaching out for support or giving yourself space. Why self-care during grief is essential and how to approach it when you’re triggered or overwhelmed. Tips for practicing healthy grief and creating space for tools that support your healing. How to embrace the surprising ways grief may shift your desires, needs, and energy levels over time. Questions for Reflection: How can you create space in your life to process grief, big or small? What tools or practices help you feel supported during times of loss? Are you allowing yourself to embrace the evolving nature of your needs during grief? Connect With Me: If this episode resonated with you, let’s continue the conversation. Share your thoughts, stories, or questions—reach out at [info@wethelight.org]. Take time to honor your grief, make room for it in your life, and remember—you’re not alone in this journey. Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: Connect with me on IG: Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: /episode/index/show/welcometothewiederlife/id/34818910

070: A Journey Back To You: Reclaiming Pleasure, Peace, and Your Sparkle 01/02/2025

069: Sacred Sex Ed With Leola Watkins 10/07/2024

068: Choosing Radiance 09/05/2024

067: To tell ya the TRUTH {learning how to know integrate and live our most authentic and truthful lives} 07/31/2024

066: Tap Into Your Power By Coming Back Into Your Body w/ Brittini Burton 11/30/2023

065: Letting It Be Good 06/16/2023

064: Embracing Your Neurodivergence w/ Kate Bailey 05/18/2023

063: Fighting For Your Aliveness 05/03/2023

062: How to Return to Your Radiance When Life’s Sh*t is Hitting the Fan 04/19/2023

061: From Perfectionist To Pleasure Expert 04/05/2023

061: From Perfectionist To Pleasure Expert I know what you’re thinking when I say I’m a pleasure expert…. but that’s not what this work is about. Pleasure doesn’t look one shade, one color, one texture, and what I do isn’t at all about toy parties or hanging around naked (trust me, I’ve heard it!) Having a pleasure practice is just about living a life that feels really good, feels rich and full, and regulates your nervous system. And angel, you’re so worthy of that. In this replay of my most popular episode, I’m bringing you a super transparent journey on the subject of pleasure, which is a huge component of my work. We’ll dive into the different ways pleasure can be cultivated in your life, the benefits you’ll see and feel when you do, and some simple tools and practices to get you there. I’m breaking down: Why it’s so important to create a pleasure practice you can come back to throughout the day The struggles men have around openly enjoying pleasure, and why this work isn’t just for women Pro tips and super simple, quick ass tools to bring pleasure into your life so that you can go from feeling crunchy to bringing joy and fun into your life The benefits of cultivating a pleasure practice to take care of your nervous system, even if you’ve experienced trauma or sexual abuse How to experience the magic of slowing down The other fun side effects of getting into pleasure we don’t often think of How having a healthy relationship to pleasure can also help you with money Practicing self-care and self-love, what does that even mean? The massive gift that being connected to your pleasure gives you ONE thing to ask yourself every day so that you can really start stepping into your pleasure And more! Book yourself a FREE 60 minute consultation with me: Connect with me on IG: Grab your copy of my free e-book, “”From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert” at: /episode/index/show/welcometothewiederlife/id/26438163