EP 82: Energy Leadership Index with Claire Becker
I Do, We Do
We love assessments over here. On past episodes we have discussed the DISC, Enneagram, Love Languages and Myers Briggs. In this episode, we dig into the Energy Leadership Index which enables leaders to hold up mirrors to their perceptions, attitudes, behaviors, and overall leadership capabilities. We hand the show over to special guest, Claire Becker who walks us through our results just as she does her coaching clients.
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EP 81: We Do Minimalism
I Do, We Do
We recently moved into an RV full-time as we continue to embrace a more minimalist lifestyle. In this episode, we share what minimalism is to us and how we are working be more minimal. We discuss how we have prioritized experiences in our lives. We are hoping to experience a lot of new adventures while living and traveling in our RV.
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EP 80: Baby Bashley One Year Later
I Do, We Do
It has been a year since our little guy, Lincoln was born. In this episode, we reflect back on the episode we recorded in the delivery room as we waited to welcome Lincoln to the world. We shared our hopes and dreams for our son a year ago and now we share updates on how things have gone. We also break some BIG NEWS! Happy Birthday, Lincoln! We love you, even though we didn't plan for you!
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EP 79: Inspring Duos - Josh and Elisha
I Do, We Do
Josh & Elisha are truly a couple who does it all. They run multiple side-hustles in addition to working full-time and parenting. There’s nothing this couple can’t do! Listen in as we chat with them about how they support one another in their businesses, the process they use for setting and adjusting goals, and their debt-free journey.
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EP 78: On Different Pages
I Do, We Do
We’ve found ourselves on different pages in two major parts of our lives. With the extra time, we each invested it in different ways. For Billy, it has been his career. For Ashley, it has been parenthood. Investing time in these areas has also left the other behind - hence, we are on different pages. Listen in as we replay the first conversation we had about this and how we are already working through this.
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EP 77: Breaking the Golden Rule
I Do, We Do
We have a bone the pick with the Golden Rule - treat others the way you want to be treated. It is a rule that is engraved in our brains from a young age, but we think it’s wrong. ESPECIALLY in relationships. Listen to this episode as we upgrade to the Platinum Rule - treat others the way they want to be treated.
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EP 76: Introvert vs. Extrovert
I Do, We Do
You may not know this about us, but we are COMPLETE OPPOSITES. Oh wait, we only constantly talk about that on this podcast. Nearly every assessment we've ever taken points out how different we are. Our Myers Briggs results point this out too. In this episode, we zero in on that first letter of the MBTI results - introvert vs extrovert. We share our favorite… and least favorite things about being married to the opposite!
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EP 75: Being Vulnerable Together
I Do, We Do
It has been a tough couple of weeks as we all learned about the deaths of Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and George Floyd. We need to have some tough conversations about race. But that requires vulnerability. We have to shed those layers and embrace imperfection. In this episode, we share a few recent moments of vulnerability in our relationship, how its brought us together and where we still need work. Being vulnerable with your partner can take your relationship to the next level.
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EP 74: Thriving Together
I Do, We Do
We are often asked how we spend SO much time together without driving each other crazy. Right now, a lot of couples are spending more time together than usual, which is leading to conflict. In this episode, we chat about how we thrive together through communication, vulnerability based trust and goal setting. The key to our partnership is that we focus on thriving rather than just surviving. This is how we grow together rather than apart.
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EP 73: Sheltering In Place Together
I Do, We Do
It is a scary time for our world as we grapple with the reality that is COVID-19 and the impact is is having on our way of life. We are sheltering in place here in Austin, Texas and in this episode we share what are new normal looks like. We share what work is like for us now, what we are doing to pass the time and how we are using this pandemic as an opportunity to come even closer together. Spoiler alert - one of us randomly bought a PS4... Guess who?!
info_outlineIn this episode of I Do, We Do, we discuss how competition negatively impacts relationships. Billy is very competitive, Ashley is not. That has led to conflict in the past when playing games against each other. We have come to realize that competition and scorekeeping really kill relationships because instead of I Do, We Do it becomes I Did, You Didn’t. Instead of For Better or Worse it is “I’m better, you’re worse.”
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WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE:
- We discussed that the easiest way we see competition in our relationship is in different games that we play
- We mentioned how Ashley is a big believer in that “you play games to have fun” whereas Billy believes that you play games for the one and only reason, which is to win
- We discussed that “the number one killer in a team/relationship is competition”
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- You need to oppose the idea/situation where it could involve teammate vs. teammate, husband vs. wife, or partner vs. partner, because you want to go into the mindset that the team needs to win, not one person over the other
- eventually someone loses in a competition (which could increase tension within the relationship)
- We discussed how keeping score is a killer as well
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- Ashley discussed how growing up, her and her sister had to evenly split up the house chores/duties. It wasn’t fair if Ashley cooked dinner and then had to wash the dishes the same night. It wasn’t fair if Ashley did two chores and her sister did zero.
- Billy talked about how he learn early on from his Dad about the danger of keeping score in relationships, even though he loves keeping score in all other competitions.
- We discussed how keeping score can also happen with accomplishments, but really in a partnership there are not individual accomplishments. It all is about us.
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- “One person’s win, success, and/or accomplishment is the other’s as well in a relationship.”
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- One employee’s success in a business indicates that the business is successful too
- “You shouldn’t compare yourself to anyone”
- We discussed how compromise is key
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- “If compromise is difficult for you in a relationship regardless, maybe there’s a little too much competition there.”
Music "Sunny" from Bensound.com.