3390 Embrace the Power of Small Steps
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
In order to feel like we are getting ahead, sometimes it's the little things in life that calm the chaos of overwhelm and deplete the anxious spirit. Embrace the power of small steps. Because if the busyness of your every day leads the way, the chasing of your goals will become beyond overwhelming. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . We often aim for grand achievements, forgetting the beauty and potential impact of small steps taken in the present moment. As author Lao Tzu once said, "The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step."...
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3389 Your Life Is Not A List
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
In a world that demands productivity, efficiency, and achievement, it's easy to get caught up in the never-ending cycle of to-do lists, goals, and plans. But what happens when life happens? Your life is not a list! Let's look at our reality. We prioritize our dreams based on the items neatly listed on a page, convinced that ticking off each task will lead us to fulfillment and success. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . Yet what happens when life throws us a curveball, disrupting our carefully curated lists and challenging our rigid...
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3388 Love Is A Choice
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For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. ~ John 3:16 Love is a choice! Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . And God made that choice first. He chose YOU!! But the question remains: did you choose Him? The K.I.S.S. ~ Love is a choice! How do you see love? How do you accept God? How do you choose love? "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" #SweetSpirit #CreateYourNow #SoulfulSunday 🎥 Karen Kingsbury Productions Presents 🔔...
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3387 You Are Always On My Mind
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Even though your days are busy, you don't have to forget why you said, "I do." You are always on my mind. What are you thinking about most of the time regarding your marriage and your spouse? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . Are you one who complains more than proposing solutions? Are you one who controls the situation rather than being open to hearing the other side? Sometimes, we can get ourselves stuck in a mess where we are the priority. The K.I.S.S. ~ Think before you act! A good marriage requires daily thoughts. A great...
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3386 Why Do Relaxed Days Bring Recreational Chaos?
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As summer approaches and the school year winds down, scheduled routines seem to go out the window. Why do relaxed days bring recreational chaos? If you're a parent, you know the challenge of transitioning from structured routines to the more relaxed days of summer fun. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . It's easy to feel overwhelmed by the busyness of the season and lose yourself in the chaos. However, with a few simple strategies, you can maintain a sense of balance and structure during the summer months while still enjoying the spontaneity...
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3385 What You See Is NOT What You Get
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
In life, it's easy to believe that what we see is the final destination, the unchangeable reality we must accept. But what if you shifted your perspective and realized that what you see is NOT what you get? Because what you see is merely a starting point, a canvas waiting to be painted with your desires, dreams, and determination. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . You have the power to transform what you see into something extraordinary, something that reflects the very essence of who you are and who you are becoming. Renowned author...
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3384 Master the Basics
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In the fast-paced world we live in, it's easy to neglect our most precious asset—our health. If you're aiming to achieve your peak level of health and wellness, you need to master the basics. No matter what health expert you consult, all believe in the basics. What differs is the way you get to implement those basics. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . That's where you need to learn how to master the basics. The K.I.S.S. ~ Master the basics! We've consulted with health experts to uncover the fundamental building blocks of living a healthy...
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3383 Stop Doubting and Believe
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Imagine a life where self-doubt has no place, where you have the courage to envision a different reality and embrace the person you are becoming. Stop doubting and believe! Every small step you take toward your goals paves the way for monumental achievements. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness." ~ Kristianne Wargo In a world filled with doubts and uncertainties, one truth remains steadfast—your beliefs shape your reality. The power to make the necessary changes, reach your goals, and...
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3382 Don't Stumble On Things Behind You
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In life, our past experiences can often shape our present and future endeavors. However, lingering too long on past mistakes or holding onto past traumas can hinder our progress. Don't stumble on things behind you. Because when you do, you prevent yourself from moving forward. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . It's important to acknowledge the past, learn from it, and then actively work towards a brighter future. However, don't be too quick to dismiss your past. Your past has lessons that need to be understood and situations that need to be...
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3381 All Joy and Peace in Believing
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope." ~ Romans 15:13 In a world often filled with uncertainty and challenges, finding hope can sometimes feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. But amidst the chaos and struggles, there is a beacon of light that offers unwavering hope – a hope that transcends circumstances and fills the heart with peace and joy. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . Romans 15:13 beautifully captures this essence of hope,...
info_outlineIn a marriage, feeling like a doormat can slowly chip away at your sense of self-worth, leaving you feeling undervalued and dismissed. How can a marriage survive if you don't stop being a doormat?
When one spouse feels like they are constantly being walked over, it changes the dynamic of the marriage.
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Marriage is no longer a partnership; it becomes a one-person show. Dreams and goals are no longer considered.
And maybe you're not sure if you are in a marriage where you are the doormat, or treating your partner as such.
The "walking all over" effect can manifest itself in various subtle or overt ways that erode one's sense of self-worth and the value you add as an individual.
Marriage, yes, is a partnership where 2 become 1; however, the individual is not lose themselves because of another person.
Some examples of being a doormat in marriage is:
1. Lack of Communication: Your spouse consistently dismisses or belittles your opinions, feelings, and needs. Your voice is silenced and you feel unheard in important discussions or decision-making processes.
2. Unequal Power Dynamics: One partner consistently exerts control over the other, making unilateral decisions without considering the other's input or feelings. This imbalance of power can lead to a sense of helplessness and lack of autonomy.
3. Emotional Neglect: Your emotional well-being is neglected, and your spouse fails to show empathy or support during challenging times. You may feel isolated and unsupported in dealing with your emotions or struggles.
4. Constant Criticism or Blame: You are frequently criticized, blamed, or made to feel responsible for issues in the relationship, even when they are not entirely your fault. This pattern of negativity can erode your self-esteem and confidence over time.
5. Lack of Appreciation: Your efforts, contributions, and sacrifices go unnoticed or unappreciated by your spouse. Your value in the relationship is overshadowed, leaving you feeling unacknowledged and unvalued.
Signs that you might be feeling walked all over in your marriage include:
1. Feeling like your needs and opinions are consistently ignored or devalued.
2. Always giving in to your partner's demands or desires at the expense of your own.
3. Constantly feeling drained, unfulfilled, or unappreciated in the relationship.
4. Having a sense of powerlessness or helplessness in influencing decisions or dynamics within the marriage.
5. Experiencing a lack of emotional support, empathy, or understanding from your spouse.
Recognizing these signs is the first step towards reclaiming who you are and who you are becoming, your self-worth within the marriage.
If you want to have a healthier, more harmonious relationship dynamic, you need to address these patterns and reclaim your voice.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Reclaim your voice!
As you consider this for yourself, be careful to make sure you look at it from both perspectives. Being in a marriage means you do need to take into consideration both you and your spouse. Because if you are quick to point fingers and not look at the totality of the marriage and what you bring to the relationship, then your actions, or lack there of, can be just as bad as what is being done to you.
Here are three essential steps to reclaim your voice and stop being a doormat in your relationship.
1. Set Boundaries: Marriage counselor Leslie Vernick emphasizes the importance of setting healthy boundaries in a relationship. Communicate assertively with your spouse about your needs and limits.
Dr. Gary Chapman, author of "The Five Love Languages," suggests that understanding and expressing your needs can help create a more balanced dynamic in the marriage.
2. Practice Self-Care: Make self-care a priority in your life. Jimmy Evans, founder of MarriageToday and XO Conference, stresses that taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually can strengthen your sense of self-worth. Remember, it's essential to fill your own cup before you can pour into your relationship.
3. Seek Counseling: If you feel consistently unheard and undervalued in your marriage, seek the support of a professional counselor. A trained therapist can help you and your spouse improve communication, address underlying issues, and work towards a healthier relationship dynamic.
As Kristianne Wargo wisely said, "You can stop being a doormat, but it first starts with who you are and who you are becoming."
Remember, reclaiming your self-worth is a journey that begins with prioritizing your own well-being and setting boundaries that honor your value in the relationship.
By taking these proactive steps, you can begin to shift the dynamic in your marriage and foster a more respectful and equitable partnership. It's time to stop being a doormat and start valuing yourself within your relationship.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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