341: Real Talk on Self Leadership and Shaking Off the Bullshit with Aiko Bethea
Release Date: 04/19/2026
366: Get Clear on Q4 Prioritization with Dr. Jolander Headley
Allyship in Action
By the time the fourth quarter rolls around, most of us in leadership are running on coffee, sheer willpower, and a quiet prayer that our calendars don't spontaneously combust. We rush to cross off every single goal set in January, regardless of whether our teams actually have the bandwidth left to carry it. In my latest chat with the incredible Dr. Jolander Headley, we unpacked why this year-end frenzy is a recipe for disaster and how we can lead with a lot more intention and a lot less chaotic exhaustion. We laughed about our own high-octane DISC profiles, because it turns out two driven,...
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365: Challenging the Career Fantasy of Having It All with Corinne Low
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Every now and then, a book comes along that completely stops me in my tracks. My conversation with Dr. Corinne Low—Wharton professor, economist, and author of Having It All—was one of those instances where data validated everything so many of us feel daily. I loved blending storytelling with hard research as we unpacked why so many high-achieving working parents feel so exhausted. As a working mom myself, hearing the data prove that working mothers today spend more time with their children than stay-at-home mothers did a generation ago was a massive aha moment. We realized the progress...
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364: Purpose at Work with Scott Curran
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363: How to Lead with Optimism and Resilience in the Workplace with Michelle Gielan
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Positive psychology researcher and author Michelle Gielan joins us to dive into two qualities I think about a lot: optimism and resilience. Early in my career, I used to think being optimistic meant slapping a smile on my face, grabbing a venti iced coffee, and pretending everything was fine, even when a project was burning down around me. (Spoiler alert: it doesn't work!) Real optimism isn’t about ignoring the mess. As Michelle reminded me, it’s about taking a realistic assessment of the present while holding onto the belief that our actions matter. We laughed about closet optimists,...
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362: Why Your Next Big Career Move Starts with Ten Minutes a Day with Jess Ekstrom
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Finding balance in leadership and in life often feels like trying to do a high-wire act while juggling toddlers and a full-time career. That is why I was thrilled to catch up with Jess Ekstrom, founder of Mic Drop Workshop and author of Making It Without Losing It. Jess is a powerful storyteller who has built two million dollar businesses. She brings this incredible blend of real-world hustle and laugh-out-loud relatable humor. We got into what happens when we stop chasing everyone else’s definition of success and start listening to what actually fuels us. Between tales of toddlers...
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361: Escaping the Reward Trap with Özgür Bolat
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Have you ever tried dangling a carrot to get a desired behavior out of someone—whether it's offering points to your kids for clearing the dishwasher or dangling a bonus in front of your sales team—only to feel like you've created a transactional nightmare? You’re definitely not alone! In this episode of Allyship in Action, I sat down with education scientist and author Dr. Özgür Bolat to unpack why our obsession with extrinsic rewards so often backfires. Drawing from his insightful book, The Reward Trap, Özgür helps us realize that while carrots might get temporary...
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360: Unlocking Neurodivergent Potential in the Workplace with Alex Partridge
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This week, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with the incredible Alex Partridge—founder of UNILAD and Lad Bible, host of the ADHD Chatter podcast, and author of Why Does Everybody Hate Me?. We dove deep into a topic that so many managers want to get right, but often feel totally lost navigating: supporting neurodiversity in the workplace, specifically when it comes to ADHD. The first time I managed someone with ADHD, I felt lost. I wanted to be an ally and build an inclusive space, but I didn’t know what real, everyday support looked like. As Alex and I chatted, it hit me again...
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359: Designing Inclusion from the Inside Out with Nani Vishwanath
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Welcome back to Allyship in Action! If you’ve been working in the diversity and inclusion space over the past few years, you know the corporate pendulum hasn’t just swung—it’s done full-on gymnastics. We’ve gone from the hyper-reactive commitments of 2020 to the nervous retreats of recent years, leaving many leaders wondering where to anchor themselves. I had the absolute joy of catching up with the brilliant Nani Vishwanath—a strategic leader at The Current Collective—who reminded me that when the external noise gets deafening, the answer isn't to duck and cover; it's to look...
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358: The Surprising Key to Longevity with Ezekiel Emanuel
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357: Why We Avoid the Very Thing That Makes Us Happy at Work with Nick Epley
Allyship in Action
As an author and allyship advocate, I constantly find myself researching the power of human connection, yet I still fall into the same social traps as everyone else! We all intellectually know that relationships are vital to our health and happiness, yet we consistently talk ourselves out of simple, daily opportunities to connect. In this episode, I had the absolute pleasure of chatting with Nicholas Epley, behavioral science professor and author of A Little More Social. Nick's research translates complex social cognition into real, actionable insights that completely reframed how I...
info_outlineI am just vibrating with excitement after my chat with Aiko Bethea ! If you’ve followed her work as I have, you know she’s basically the gold standard for building cultures that actually mean something . We got into the nitty-gritty of her new book, Anchored, Aligned, and Accountable, and let me tell you, it is the blueprint we need right now . I even got a little unplanned coaching session myself—turns out, even after years in the DEI space, I’m still a recovery fixer trying to work my way out of every hard feeling . Aiko gently called me out on that toxic productivity narrative we’ve all been fed since we were kids . It’s time to stop responding to everyone else's agenda and start leading from the inside out .
Key Themes from the Conversation
- The Power of Personal Values as an Anchor Aiko emphasizes that identifying two or three core values acts as a physical tether, preventing leaders from being swept away by external pressures or "ick" feelings they can't quite name .
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Finding out what was most important to them, which I name in the book as identifying their values, being anchored into their values... helped them to close that gap, and to make key changes in how they were showing up.
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Identifying and Challenging Bullshit Narratives The framework encourages leaders to interrogate "bullshit"—the unexamined, default beliefs inherited from family or workplace cultures that often prioritize productivity or defensiveness over authenticity .
I want people to think, says who? And how would I want it to be, or need it to be, to be anchored?
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Intrinsic Motivation vs. External Approval True inclusive leadership isn't about being a "good guy" or seeking external glorification; it is about self-awareness and aligning one's actions with one's aspirational self .
It’s going to be about, wow, how does this leave me sitting, or feeling, and... if I... my aspirational self was this, what would I do differently?
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The Necessity of Meaningful, Public Accountability When a leader makes a mistake, a private "I’ll do better" isn't enough to shift a culture; it requires a specific, humble apology that acknowledges the impact on the team .
When he did a very specific apology that was public about what he did... whoa, shifts everything, because now people see, oh man, he's showing up differently... he realized this behavior isn't okay.
Actionable Takeaway
Start your own self-interrogation by identifying one "should" in your professional life. Ask yourself, says who? If that belief doesn't align with your core values, give yourself the grace to drop the behavior and replace it with an action that feels anchored .
Follow Aiko and get her book at https://www.rarecoaching.net/team/aiko-bethea/