A Lesson On Unsticking the Stuck with Kim Kuhteubl

A stuck person is a powerful person. Flow is natural, so if you're holding yourself in place, imagine how much energy it's taking you to do that. How powerful you must be. Perhaps the most important thing you need to know about being stuck is how powerful your ability to create is. If your current thoughts and actions are getting in your own way of doing that, it’s time unstick your stuck. Learn how in this “Lesson On Unsticking the Stuck" with Kim Kuhteubl.

TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE:

• The most important thing you need to know about being stuck
• What thoughts and actions are you repeating over again and what are the beliefs that are keeping you there
• A stuck person is a powerful person
• Stuck is a state of mind
• Why we subconsciously get in our own way
• The relationship between beliefs and actions
• The “LIFE MUST TEST ME” belief system
• We blame ourselves to stay stuck
• Too many women are practiced in hiding and not being found or discovered for who they truly are
• Visions for your life demand aligned action
• How being stuck affects your career
• Kim’s process to becoming “unstuck”
• It’s ok to ask for help
• Burn the bridges that keep you “safe”, that keep you from being seen for the woman you are
• How women can lead differently by burning the bridge of the unknown and leaping to the other side

#LESSONUP:

(:40) Perhaps the most important thing you need to know about being stuck is how powerful your ability to create is. But what exactly is it that you're creating and why? What thoughts and actions are you repeating over and over again and what are the beliefs that are keeping you there? Because stuck is a state of mind.

(1:25) My journey to stuck started because I was a how addict. How I thought things should go, how I'd seen other people who I thought were successful doing it, how I thought I was supposed to feel, how life was supposed to look, how I was going to get life right based on my calculated and controlling formula of X and Y and Zed divided by everybody else's experiences that I didn't want to repeat deep into the loop of my life must test me belief system.

(3:50) What I was used to was my familiar spiral of blame. For you, it might feel like you're drowning or overwhelmed or distracted or whatever stuck drug of choice is. I didn't have to move and I didn't have to get tested. I was stubborn. Some part of me AKA the ego part was telling me that stack would give me the time I needed to figure out my way out of stuck all by myself. I was smart. I knew how to get things done, but what I didn't know at the time is that you can't solve a problem from the level of consciousness you use to create it. In other words, if you're at the level of stuck, any solution that you dream up without some kind of pattern interrupts without some kind of help is going to come in from the consciousness of stuck and affirm your stuckness.

(4:25) Too many women are practiced in hiding and not being found or seen…discovered for who they truly are and if you stay in this space of this might happen, you don't have to look at the fact that it isn't. You don't have to acknowledge that your dream might not come true even if this way of being, this way you have to stay put doesn't feel good anymore. They ignore their hearts signal that the dream is not actually one they want anymore or maybe the version of they wanted has changed.

(7:30) Some women get stuck by telling themselves, and this is especially when it comes to relationships. If I don't move or change, if I wait long enough holding the energy of this very specific way of being, this person will love me. In this case, stuck is a form of withholding a skill that many women, especially when you feel voiceless are practiced and it can feel like power to withhold your approval or opinion or favor, especially when it feels like you don't get it. So why would you give it or when you're afraid, afraid of what you might lose by truly being.

(8:10) Another reason that people stay stuck is because they like the way they’ve been doing things, a lot. They ignore the signals around them that the world has changed, the culture has changed, the expectations for the way we do business has changed, what buyers value and the conversations they have and they places they’re going to have those conversations are changing. They pissed off that what used to work, what has always worked, doesn’t work any more. They’re angry or afraid that time has the nerve to pass.

(10:05) When we were thinking about the products that we would create as a brand, we wanted to create products that we ourselves wanted to use that we couldn't find elsewhere. That was a kind of product that brought purpose and meaning and deeper connection between parent and child and created a really easy to use, approachable routine.

(10:30) If you’re telling yourself you don’t know what to do, that’s only partially truly. Because I do believe that you have all the answers when you ask the right questions. You might not know which questions to ask, or you might be afraid of the answers because those will require change and once you let go and let life, you will probably feel out of control, like you don’t have power.

(15:05) Revealing the truth of what you see and using your voice to express it, may be a lie to someone else. If you’re an idea woman, working on transforming what was, don’t expect people to understand what you know to be true about your work, about what you’re discovering, about what you’re being guided to assemble from the realm of ideas. You are the creator. Just keep going.

(16:20) I believe my creativity comes through me and once I turn that channel on, it’s easy to surrender to the ideas that come to me in the moment. As a writer, I’ve fallen off of the outline more than once. As a producer and director, I’ve seen emotions, or opportunities to take the story in a different direction,  reveal themselves in the spaces between what is planned and I follow them, always with good results.