A Lesson on Self-Care with Dr. Eris Huemer

Stressed? You’re not alone. In fact, women in the US are nearly twice as stressed as men. Not only do we register stress events more strongly, we often react both physically and mentally, all while taking care of family responsibilities and working to grow and profit from our businesses. Dr. Eris Huemer Winans is the founder of FACE it, a company that is changing the face of mental health. In this “Lesson On Self-Care”, we speak about the ways that women entrepreneurs can deal with stress, and one of the biggest challenges that impact women entrepreneurs who are making change.

TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Being NOT OK. OK. And A-OK.
• How to deal with the news and when not watching can make you more stressed.
• What are the top three ways women can take care of their mental health
• People are speaking more openly about their mental health issues
• How to create a state of mind that allows you to look at the world and get through any obstacles
• The strategies that women entrepreneurs can use to move themselves to OK and beyond
• The #1 thing Dr. Eris recommends doing daily to stay in a good state of mind
• How to rewire your brain if you’re experiencing “mom guilt”
• Dr. Eris’s “Life Lens” and the eight areas she looks at her life to maintain harmony
• Dr. Eris’s “Process Communication Model” and the six different personality types that woman leaders fall into
• Why women play smaller
• What to do when other people don’t get your vision
• The number one thing that women disruptors can do to take care of their mental health
• What does self-esteem have to do with it?

#LESSONUP

(6:02) I think that it's very important to filter the time spent watching news, especially if you're anxiety prone, you're super sensitive and you get shaken up with the world events as we all do. Because globally we all feel a sense of anxiety because there is so much unknown in the world right now. We don't know where things are going and because we have all of this conflicting information from politics to the news, we don't always know necessarily what is accurate and not accurate.

(8:35) I think it's so important for us to acknowledge that it is OK to not be OK. It is OK for us just to be OK. It is OK. All of this is OK if I am hurting, if I am anxious, if I am sad, if I am grieving, if I am depressed, if I am any of these things. It's OK. And it's acknowledging the fact that I'm either not OK or just OK that I can then find hope to feeling better, which is an A-OK state of mind.

(10:25) Set boundaries and following through with them instead of not setting boundaries and making them as if they're threats that you don't intend to carry out.

(12:02) We have to rewire our brain. Number one. I'm a mom. I have a six and a half year old and I love to work. I know that I as a parent, I am here to be an example to my child on how I want them to be in the world. So it's how I am living by example. Behaviorally and what my behaviors are, what he sees me doing, what he sees my husband doing, how we communicate, all of these things is how my son is becoming in the world. So I am teaching him how to become by how I am. So that's number one.

(17:10) I think that as women we've overcome, We're the minority. We've come into the world and we have to fight differently. We have to prove ourselves differently. We have to overcome so many obstacles that are different, especially when we're working or putting ourselves out there. Of course we view the world through a different lens than men. I'm just coming from the perspective of a personality type and how we would lead. I think there are so many different women out there that we all lead differently.

(19:25) As a woman, when you are a leader and you are revolutionizing the system and you're putting yourself out there and you're wanting to change the world depending on in what industry or on whatever level. I think the number one thing that I see is women growing into their own strengths, finding their strengths and their self esteem and believing in themselves. And I see that as taking time and experience. So if you have a vision and you want to do something as a leader and changing the world in whichever way you're wanting to, it's like giving yourself time for growth and experience and repetition and all of those things. And once you do that, you build that self esteem because that strength is what shines through.

(22:00) We allow people around us to make us feel bad about our strengths and our desires and our vision and all of these things. So we play smaller and play smaller. We actually put ourselves into insecurity. Like we're trying to fit in this box of maybe what these other women are, how they're living their lives or how we feel like we should be. And we're living too big. So I think that you need to have an intuition, you have to have something within you that wants you to do more. So you need to stay true to that and be honest with yourself. And that takes time and practice.