Episode 132: Cherishing Others, The Basis of All Good Qualities
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
Release Date: 03/14/2022
Episode 229 - Boundaries in Buddhism
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
In Buddhism, we’re encouraged to cherish others more and deepen our compassion. Some may wonder if there is a contradiction between these heart-opening practices and having healthy boundaries. But here is the truth: even the Buddha set boundaries. In the texts, the Buddha frequently chose who to engage with, when to enter noble silence, and how to protect himself so he could serve the world effectively. In fact, true compassion requires boundaries. Sometimes the kindest thing to do for another is to set a strong boundary. In this episode, JoAnn Fox explores the concept of boundaries through...
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Episode 228 - Be Love
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
If you’ve ever longed for love—and let’s be honest, who hasn’t?—you’ll recognize the familiar dance our minds do. We build the "ideal" in our heads. We make lists of the qualities we need in a partner. We dissect our past heartbreaks like forensic investigators, trying to figure out exactly what went wrong. We search and search, looking outward for that one person who will finally fill the cup. But what if we’re looking at the map upside down? Buddhist wisdom suggests that the path to fulfillment isn't about finding the perfect love, but about becoming it. We...
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Episode 227 - Always Rely on a Happy Mind Alone
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
Always rely on a happy mind alone. This Buddhist slogan for training the mind isn't about "positive thinking" or just being happy. A "happy mind" refers to a mind that is peaceful and free from delusions, like like anger, jealousy, pride or attachment. When a delusion like anger is operating in the mind, we no longer see clearly. A delusion is like a warped mirror: everything we see in this mirror is distorted. For example, when we’re hurt we might get angry at someone we love. Anger then makes us see that person as the cause of our pain, a threat, so that we speak and act in...
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Episode 226 - Tame the Monkey Mind
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
Register for the free classes, Continuing the Walk for Peace: An Inner Peace Toolkit: https://buddhismforeveryone.com/walk-for-peace-toolkit In this episode, we talk about your monkey. The monkey on your back. You know the one. The brilliant, overachieving, slightly unhinged creature swinging through your mind at 2:00 a.m. reorganizing your life, replaying arguments, drafting emails you will never send. In an old Buddhist story, a man is given a magical monkey by his spiritual teacher. The magical monkey can do anything. Grant any wish. At first, it’s amazing. The monkey...
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Episose 225 - Is your mind the Matrix?
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
In The Matrix, the red pill reveals the truth behind appearances and opens the path to freedom. In Buddhism, a realization of the true nature of reality is the ultimate path to freedom. In this episode, we explore how waking up to reality gives us the ability to reshape who you are because nothing is fixed learn to bend the “rules” of your reality unplug from emotional reactivity Buddha explained the ultimate truth of reality as “emptiness.” Emptiness does not mean nothingness. This teaching doesn’t mean that nothing exists. We have to ask ourselves, what is reality empty of?...
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Episode 224: Finding Happiness in Others' Joy
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
Imagine feeling a burst of joy every time someone else wins. A friend gets a promotion, your sister finds love, a stranger shares good news, and you feel happiness with them. That spark of delight is the heart of sympathetic joy, or mudita, a Buddhist practice that flips the script on comparison and jeaousy. It turns the happiness of others into a source of our own happiness. It’s not magic, but it feels like it. When sympathetic joy is practiced with the bodhicitta intention to become a Buddha for the benefit of all beings, it becomes "Immeasurable Joy." Immeasurable Joy is a trained...
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Episode 223 - Feed love or Feed Pain
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
We constantly make small choices that shape the reality of our relationships, whether with our partner, children, friends, or colleagues. They determine whether we deepen connection or cause resentment and distance to quietly grow. Every moment holds a fork in the road: Will I feed love, or will I feed pain? In this episode, we look the difference between love and attachment. Love is the wish that another person be happy. Attachment is the wish that they make us happy. Attachment is the habit of selfishness in relationships that causes pain. The strength of a relationship is directly...
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Episode 222: Preventing Anger
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
Longtime Buddhist Teacher, JoAnn Fox, explores five powerful Buddhist antidotes to anger and aversion: patience acceptance recognizing karma remembering impermanence seeing other people or challenges as spiritual teachers compassion Learn how to meet challenges with wisdom instead of reaction. Buddha reminds us that peace isn’t about avoiding pain; it’s about understanding it. By practicing a simple yet profound method, W.A.I.T What Am I Thinking, we begin to free ourselves from the fires of aversion and cultivate genuine calm instead. In this way, we can...
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Episode 221 - W.A.I.T. What Am I Thinking?
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
Delusions are distorted ways of looking at things that make our mind unpeaceful and uncontrolled. Anger exaggerates someone’s faults. Attachment exaggerates someone’s good qualities. Both lead us away from reality and keep us trapped in craving or aversion. Buddha taught that what fuels delusions is inappropriate attention. When we dwell on thoughts that feed our delusions, we are engaging in "inappropriate attention." The way all delusions arise: Object + inappropriate attention = Delusion With anger, inappropriate attention might look like replaying an insult, focusing only on...
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Episode 220 - Self-Compassion
Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox
In this episode, JoAnn Fox shares the practice of W.A.I.T.—What Am I Thinking? to help us cultivate self-compassion and retrain the often-critical voice in our minds. Through mindfulness, we can begin to notice the thoughts that shape how we treat ourselves, and choose a kinder, more beneficial way to respond. The Buddha said: All experience is preceded by mind, Led by mind, Made by mind. Our world is created by our thoughts. Every word, every action, every mood begins as a whisper in the mind. And sometimes, those whispers aren’t so kind. When we notice the...
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Cherishing others has so many benefits. It is the basis of all good qualities, and, if practiced until it is our only intention, will lead to enlightenment. Cherishing others solves all problems between ourselves and others. Conversely, selfishness leads to pain and conflict; it is the foundation of all suffering. In this episode, JoAnn Fox explains how to practice cherishing others in daily life. She also guides a short meditation on cherishing those closest to us.
Modern science reveals that cherishing others even has health benefits. A study in The Journals of Gerontology found that “in an ethnically diverse group of older adults, those who gave social support to others experienced much lower rates of mortality compared with those who didn’t offer assistance.”
Cherishing others can also reduce levels of the stress hormone cortisol. A study in the journal Integrative Psychological and Behavioral Science found that people who “practiced a kindness mindset had 23% lower cortisol levels than the average person.” Chronically high cortisol has been linked to health conditions like cardiovascular disease, weight gain, osteoporosis, insulin resistance, and diabetes. So cherishing others is good for your health!
Always wide awake
Are the disciples of Gotama
Whose minds constantly, day and night,
Delight in spiritual practice.
-Buddha, The Dhammapada
If you are interested in learning how you can work with JoAnn Fox as a Life/Spiritual Coach, visit https://buddhismforeveryone.com/coaching
References and Links
Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011, pp. 76
Sweet, Joni (Feb. 2021). How Random Acts of Kindness Can Boost Your Health During the Pandemic. Very Well Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/how-random-acts-of-kindness-can-boost-your-health-5105301