What I've Learned Along the Way: Looking Back at 7 years
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Seven years ago, I walked into a church basement in Colorado to become part of the very first This Naked Mind coaching certification. I had no idea how much that weekend would change my life. In this episode, I'm looking back at everything that happened after that—from coaching hundreds of clients, building my own business, and working alongside incredible mentors to discovering that some of my biggest lessons came from changing my mind. I share the coaching philosophy that has stayed with me, the approach I've completely shifted over the years, and why experience has taught me that one...
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Evolving After Alcohol with Michelle Plante
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What happens after you've been alcohol-free for years? For many of us, that's when the real adventure begins. In this heartfelt conversation, Terri welcomes back Michelle Plant—over seven years alcohol-free—to talk about the unexpected evolution that happens after alcohol is no longer taking center stage. Together they explore identity, creativity, play, grief, laughter, and the freedom to become more than one version of yourself. Michelle shares how sobriety opened the door to stand-up comedy, storytelling, and creating a live show called This Might Hurt a Little, where people read...
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The Truth About Self-Sabotage
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What if self-sabotage isn't really sabotage at all? In this episode of The Sober Edge, Teri Patterson explores how many of the behaviors we criticize—procrastination, perfectionism, avoidance, people-pleasing, and even shutting down—may actually be nervous system strategies designed to keep us safe. Drawing on neuroscience, nervous system regulation, and her own experience after more than ten years alcohol-free, Teri explains why growth can feel threatening, why we return to familiar patterns, and how compassion creates lasting change far more effectively than criticism ever could. Rather...
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No Willpower? No Problem!
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What if the problem isn't that you need more willpower? In this solo episode, Teri explores one of the biggest myths in alcohol-free living: the idea that lasting change comes from simply trying harder. Drawing on neuroscience, habit formation, nervous system regulation, and practical real-life strategies, she explains why willpower is a limited resource—and why successful alcohol-free living depends on needing less of it. You'll learn how alcohol impacts the brain's reward system, why stress and fatigue make cravings feel stronger, and how simple changes to your routines, environment, and...
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Blurred Lines & Beautiful Reclamations with Lauren Fay
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This week on The Sober Edge, I’m joined by my friend Lauren Fay for a conversation that feels honest, thoughtful, and deeply human. Lauren shares the story behind her memoir Blurred Lines—why she chose to move beyond a traditional coaching book and instead tell the truth through story. We talk about identity shifts, visibility, family dynamics, self-trust, nervous system healing, and what really happens after we stop drinking. What I loved most about this conversation is that it isn’t about perfection or polished transformation. It’s about the blurry middle. The becoming. The messy,...
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Intuition, Nervous System, and the Art of Listening Again
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If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your intuition after stepping away from alcohol, you’re not alone. In this solo episode, Teri explores what intuition actually is (hint: it’s biological, not mystical), how alcohol dulls our internal signals, and why things can feel confusing or “loud” in early alcohol-free living. You’ll learn how your nervous system, brain, and body work together to create intuitive awareness—and how to gently rebuild trust in yourself through simple, everyday practices. This is a conversation about coming back to yourself… one signal at a time.
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Purpose, Presence, and Solubrae with Patricia Heaton
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In this rich and wide-ranging conversation, Teri sits down with award-winning actress Patricia Heaton to explore what really happens when alcohol is no longer part of your life—and what can take its place. From subtle signs of “gray area drinking” to the moment that shifted everything, Patricia shares her personal journey to becoming alcohol-free. But what makes this conversation especially compelling is what came next. Out of her own desire to preserve the ritual and enjoyment of wine—without the downsides—Patricia co-created Solubrae, a thoughtfully crafted alcohol-free wine...
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Landing On Your North Star with Peggi and Brigitta
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What if your purpose isn’t something you have to chase—but something you return to? In this conversation, Teri sits down with Peggy Cooney and Brigitta Dau to explore the idea of your “North Star”—your internal compass rooted in your core values. They unpack what happens after alcohol is out of the way, why alignment feels energizing (even when it’s hard), and how to recognize when you’re drifting off course. This episode is a powerful reminder that you don’t need a perfect plan—you just need to come back to what’s true. Show Notes HERE
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From Pattern to Possibility with Deborah Yager
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In this episode, I sit down with Deborah Yager to explore what’s really underneath the behaviors we’re trying to change—whether it’s alcohol, food, or patterns we just can’t seem to break. We talk about the idea of “alchemy”—not as something mystical, but as the very real process of transforming our hardest experiences into something meaningful. Deborah shares her personal story of addiction, identity, and transformation, and we explore how tools like neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), curiosity, and nervous system awareness can help us shift not just what we do—but who we...
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A Different Way of Letting Go
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In this solo episode of The Sober Edge, Teri shares a powerful story from Mark Nepo about a simple monkey trap: a coconut filled with rice that monkeys refuse to release, even when letting go would set them free. It’s a striking metaphor for many of the beliefs we hold about alcohol. For many of us, alcohol begins as something that feels helpful—relief, belonging, confidence, a way to take the edge off life. But over time, what once felt like a gift can quietly become the thing that keeps us stuck. Often the hardest part isn’t stopping the behavior; it’s releasing the beliefs wrapped...
info_outlineWhile I love a good ‘self help’ book, I was completely fascinated by the title of my guests’ book: “Not Another Self Help Book”. How could I resist having her on the podcast to share her unique perspective on how to show up in the world when life is hard?
Lindsey Kane Leaverton is an author, songwriter, former minister and a financial wealth management expert. She also identifies as a proud member of the LGBTQIA+ community, a woman with ADHD, OCD and PTSD; as she shares, she has ‘all the adjectives’!
Lindsey wrote this book, "Not Another Self-Help Book" to highlight some of the most challenging things we experience as humans, and how we might find a gift in each of these challenges, such as pain, trauma, addiction and waiting. We also talk about how she lost everything when she came out as gay, her long journey with chronic pain, our equal dislike of the phrase “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle”. We cover a lot in today’s episode and have a lot of laughs along the way.
Here are some of my favorite parts:
- Her belief that “my Higher Power is not out to get me”
- How she gets out of her own head
- Her favorite chapter in the book
- Her long journey back from chronic pain
- How she credits a random encounter on an airplane with saving her life
- and more...
I hope you love this episode as much as I did!
Get all the details of how to connect with Lindsey and more in the SHOW NOTES
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*Lindsey does not identify as sober or alcohol-free but does share her deep respect and personal experience with Al-Anon. If you follow Lindsey on social media, you may see her with a drink in hand, but on today’s episode we do not talk about her drinking nor do we glorify the drinking of alcohol in any way.