Listening Kids into Existence: Parenting, Classrooms, and a Grandpuppy Named Misa

In this powerful episode of Reading With Your Kids, Jed welcomes Doug Noll, lawyer-turned-peacemaker and author of Deescalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less. Doug explains how neuroscience shows we are driven far more by emotion than by rational thought—and how our culture’s habit of shaming or ignoring emotions actually damages kids’ brains and relationships. He shares how simple emotional validation (“You’re really angry…you really wanted that candy bar…you feel unloved”) can quickly calm a child’s nervous system, reduce tantrums, and build lifelong emotional strength. Doug describes practical tools for parents and teachers, including “listening children into existence,” using emotion labels instead of punishment in heated moments, and creating listening circles in classrooms to cut down on disruptions and discipline referrals. He also talks about teaching these same skills to incarcerated people and the remarkable results they’ve seen in reducing violence and recidivism.

Later in the episode, Jed is joined by Mireya Saldua, who shares her joyful bilingual picture book “Fun Day with Misa.” Inspired by her energetic grandpuppy, Misa, Mireya created a story that celebrates the special bond between grandparents and children, especially in Hispanic families. The book appears in both English and Spanish on each page, with fun seek-and-find elements like Misa’s blue bone and her name written in Japanese characters. Mireya talks about expanding Come Along with Misa into a series, centering kindness, inclusion, and diverse characters—plus activity sheets, birthday cards, and music to keep families reading, playing, and learning together.