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Why Adding Controls & Constraints to Your Life is Essential

Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

Release Date: 10/23/2017

7 Common, Monster Mistakes when trying to build new habits show art 7 Common, Monster Mistakes when trying to build new habits

Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"If I gave you $1,000 to track 3 habits for one day could you do it? Everyone knows that they could!" Martin recaps seven notable and common mistakes people make when trying to develop new habits. #1) They forget IT'S A PROCESS! Unfortunately, many believe habit tracking is an ALL or nothing proposition! "It doesn't matter if you've failed 163 times, you are experimenting—keep trying!" #2) They simply put a dot next to the habit and move on! When it comes to habit tracking, do NOT do what 99% of habit trackers recommend...simply put a dot and move on. Don't do that! Search: "P.A.R.R....

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"Habits and goals, by design, complement each other."   Oh, the irony. When The Habit Factor® was published in 2010, the idea of using habits to achieve goals as a process for goal achievement was unheard of. The Habit Factor's subtitle demonstrates its originality at the time: An Innovative Method to Align Habits with Goals to Achieve Success. Due to its predominantly negative connotation, all of the prior goal achievement best practices excluded habit entirely. Processes like S.M.A.R.T. goals did not mention habits. Even scientific research papers that studied the relationship...

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"Everything is difficult before it is easy." ~Thomas Fuller Resistance comes in many forms. The wind is a terrific example. It turns out that without any wind trees cannot grow strong and will topple over. The same is observed in our life. If we are without resistance—if there is no pressure—how can we grow stronger? Pursing goals and ideals provides ample resistance to grow, learn and become stronger. Lifting weights, as an example, proves resistance makes us stronger. The wind offers other clues. MG happens to notice that even boats lying at anchor, FACE THE WIND. This is analogous...

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"Being off-balance is a sign to adjust, to move in the opposite direction—to regain equilibrium." Far too many Goo-Roos insist that balance is BOGUS—that BALANCE doesn't exist. What they appear to be missing is the dynamism of life. Life is hardly a static event. In fact, the very sensation that one is off-balance is proof that balance exists! The key is the awareness.The sensation of being off-balance presents an opportunity to make an adjustment. The truth is, everyone is off-balance from time to time, arguably MOST of the time. It's the adjustments that help keep one in balance and...

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"Today is the eight day of the month. Tomorrow is the 13th." ~Zen Koan Skills vs. habits. Habits vs. skills. What's the difference? Bound by language, experts in behavioral science tend to struggle as they attempt to delineate the two. (See Zen koan above).   MG suggests these scientists are missing the most important aspect of their relationship: How similar habits and skills are! There are many favorable reasons to regard habits and skills as nearly identical.   First, it helps to remove the predominately negative connotation that habits carry. Skills are rarely, if ever,...

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"Awareness is like the sun. When it shines on things they are transformed." ~Thich Naht Hanh In a universe comprised of energy, it's impossible to extract negativity. So, what is it's value? It turns out, negativity has tremendous value. Within medicine for instance, a negative Covid-19 test is very positive. Science experiments with negative results bring the scientist closer to a correct solution. Negativity can be problematic in relationships. Most humans tend to gravitate toward positive, kind and loving relationships. Even though people who are negative may be smarter or funnier, they are...

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"Genius is the infinite capacity for taking pains." ~Thomas Carlyle Pain is something everyone can relate to. Pain hurts. Yet, what happens when we pursue a goal and along the way, encounter pain? Should we just quit? Another definition of pain is "careful effort; great care or trouble." Pain is often a requirement for growth and learning. And, pain is a key, leading indicator that one is on the path toward something meaningful and worthwhile. Hence, Carlyle's great quote above. Your goal may be getting more fit, or writing the next great novel. Rest assured, tremendous pain stands between...

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"The successful person is just the average person, focused." Why are deadlines important? Deadlines create pressure. Pressure creates focus and concentration, which are essential components of productivity and creativity. The accordion method, much like the whimsical musical instrument, works by creating pressure and then releasing it. The accordion is a terrific model for how anyone can intentionally use pressure to be more focused and productive. The challenge for many people is that they don't appreciate the value of pressure, largely because it creates discomfort. Thus, few people impose...

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"So many Goo-Roos preach the idea that you should just focus on your strengths. The reason it's called 'Personal Development' is it involves both—improving your weaknesses and capitalizing on strengths." "Shouldn't people just focus on what they are good at?" Someone asked MG this question when he recommended tracking fitness habits even if fitness isn't someone's strength.  It's crucial to point out that The Habit Factor® methodology is both a specific process to develop habits by following P.A.R.R., and a general framework that allows the user to identify their goal along with the...

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Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

"Effort is the special ingredient that helps one to develop discipline. P.A.R.R. is the process that reduces the effort." Effort, as a concept, is so significant that it's part of the Buddhist Noble Eightfold Path. While there are very few things we can control directly, our effort is one of them. In a post-game press conference, pursuing his 4th NBA title, Steph Curry reminded the press, "The one thing I can control is my effort." What makes the topic interesting is that it's the desire to be lazy—to put in less effort— that often sparks innovation and creativity. Exhibit A, B, and C: The...

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"The freedom of tomorrow lies in the discipline of today."

The "BIG" idea for this mind-bullet Monday revolves around the importance of implementing controls and constraints into our lives.

"Controls and constraints!?" You may be saying, "That sounds horrible, uncomfortable and pretty lame!"

Well, it turns out that controls and constraints tend to be precisely the types of parameters that can help you forge new behaviors (habits) to assist you in achieving your goals more quickly.

Even The Habit Factor's P.A.R.R. methodology demonstrates this with its frequency per week, minimum success criteria, and tracking period (4 weeks).

Perhaps more importantly (and paradoxically): It turns out that freedom is born from controls and constraints. Consider the person who never develops and institutes any controls and constraints in their life (diet, exercise and or/finances, etc.). This is a person who will likely struggle for a long time.

Conversely, the person who institutes controls and constraints (disciplines) related to the same subjects (diet, exercise and finances) will enjoy greater freedoms down the road.

Hence, the path to greater freedom in your future is to institute greater disciplines today.

"No man is free if he cannot command himself" ~ Pythagoras

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More Resources

(FREE! The Habit Factor's Tracking Template)

The Habit Factor® (website: BLOG, tips, tools and other resources)

The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

The Habit Factor's Facebook (Private) Accountability Group