12. Remembering Series pt 5 - Emotional Processing with RAIN + Reinforcing Your Self Worth
Release Date: 06/02/2024
29. Why moving from the energy of devotion is so healing
Courtney Cries A Lot
This episode goes deeper into stage 3 aka the energy of devotion. (Listen to episode 28 first if you haven't yet!) I talk about: -why stage 3 is really the best of stage 1 and 2, without the depleting parts -why stage 3 leaves so much space for RECEIVING. When you do your part but also open to receive support from life -how stage 1 is very "do - have - be" while stage 3 is "be - do - have". Frequency precedes form. Feeling drives what we DO and then eventually what we have. So by continually feeling proud of yourself, you're gonna keep doing good -examples of stage 3 energy in my...
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28. The kind of motivation I've been missing
Courtney Cries A Lot
I've had a complicated relationship with motivation, productivity and consistency. I'm so used to yoyo-ing between two ways of going about life or working towards goals: 1 - Hustle, grind, action action action. Make to do list upon to do list and check things off until I deplete myself and burn out 2 - Let go, surrender and allow. Remember it's not all on my shoulders. That I'm a spiritual being having a human experience. Allow more acceptance for exactly where I am. Relax more and just float down the river of life The second option feels like relief from the first until it doesn't....
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27. Getting laid off and flying by the seat of my pants
Courtney Cries A Lot
This episode is about getting laid off, getting a puppy, having no idea what's next in my life and fully surrendering and choosing to trust. Being an "interesting daughter" as my dad says :)
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26. A wave of acceptance for all the different parts of you
Courtney Cries A Lot
Walking you through a simple visualization to cultivate a wave of acceptance for all the different parts of you. I find this practice to be very grounding and soothing. May it find whoever needs it <3
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25. On surrender + what makes your soul feel like it's dancing
Courtney Cries A Lot
This episode is about surrender. Prioritizing your inner frequency over your outer attachments. How that naturally aligns you with what you value most. And how that alignment puts you on a wavelength where trust, satisfaction and nourishment are abundant.
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24. When your inner teenager wants to rebel and escape
Courtney Cries A Lot
On escapism, numbing, self-compassion and validating your inner teenager <3
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23. I'm so much more than a scared little chihuahua
Courtney Cries A Lot
I once briefly dated a guy who told me I was like one of those scared little chihuahuas that's always trembling. A dagger to my heart especially bc I was like.. shit... I definitely kinda relate to that sometimes.... A large part of my experience as a human being so far in this lifetime is wondering if I’m good, trying to be good, scared that I’m bad, trying to avoid being bad, and hence a lot of rigidity, control, fear and neuroticism. This episode is weird. It's vulnerable, honest, and kind of funny? It's definitely a glimpse inside the inner landscape of someone (me) who grew up...
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22. A powerful question to anchor you
Courtney Cries A Lot
This episode details a powerful reframe that I got from Elizabeth Gilbert's Substack last Sunday. I've been using it all week as an anchor and I'm grateful to have it in my toolbox for whatever the heck is next in the wild unfolding of this country/world.
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21. I created space + more aligned things came to fill it
Courtney Cries A Lot
What if it's all easier than we think? What if we're supposed to be doing less and trying softer rather than trying harder? In this episode I talk more about the absence of doing all the things I used to do out of fear/anxiety. And how now that I'm not doing them so much, there's space. And the space is uncomfortable. It brings up a lot of unknown. Bc at least when you're doing things that aren't aligned, you know what comes next. It's at least familiar even if it sucks. But when you stop, and you majorly slow down and create space that wasn't there before... at some point, something is gonna...
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20. Be patient with the shelter dog parts of you
Courtney Cries A Lot
This episode is for when you need a reminder to be extra gentle and forgiving towards yourself So often we think we need to be hard on ourselves, critical of ourselves in the name of being honest and and in the name of CHANGE. Like.. if I want my future to be different and better, I need to get on myself about wherever I'm currently falling short or not being as good as I think I could be When really, the way to eeeease into a more loving, safe, abundant, joyful energy is to slow down, soften and allow yourself to ease into it right now. Not later when you think you'll be safe enough or good...
info_outlineIn this episode I explain the steps of RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) for emotional processing and how sometimes you can think you're allowing a feeling, but you're really only fake allowing it in hopes that it will go away ASAP. I used to do this all the time. I'd be like "oh yeah, it's totally ok that I'm feeling this" when meanwhile everything in my energy was saying a big fat "no" to it and I'd resist dropping down into my body to actually feel it.
I also go into why lovingly leading yourself through your emotional experiences reinforces the belief that you are unconditionally loved and live in a generous, loving universe. Before I knew how to give myself love and compassion in the face of feeling triggered, I just couldn't trust that I was safe. I wanted to believe I live in a generous universe, but I couldn't really connect to that. Because I didn't even feel loved by my own damn self. I felt judged and shamed every time I experienced difficult feelings. So I continually perceived that I was being personally attacked and punished by the universe as well.
Now that I consistently show up for myself with compassion no matter what's coming up internally, I find myself more and more able to get behind the belief that I'm inherently worthy and deserving, AND unconditionally loved by something bigger than me.
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