156. Practical Ways To Feel Connected This Holiday
Release Date: 12/09/2025
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info_outlineCraving a holiday that feels meaningful, not manic? In this episode, we look at how old patterns, perfection pressure, and comparison steal the season, and how reflection, boundaries, and simple systems bring back connection. Learn to delegate, trim gifts, protect sleep, and choose what matters most. Press play to design a calmer, more connected holiday.
Key Takeaways To Listen For
- Why old holiday patterns persist and how a 50% simplification cuts stress and boosts connection
- What two-question debrief to run after gatherings to repeat wins and fix friction next time
- How to set time-boxed visits and exit rules to stay calm with tricky family dynamics
- When to swap gifts for experiences or donations to match values and ease pressure
- Start designing for connection first by subtracting tasks that block presence and joy
Resources Mentioned In This Episode
- 149. Holiday Stress And SAD: Sleep Better With Simple Habits
- 150. How Marketers Hack Your Brain: Simple Rules to Buy Less
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