011: The Power of Noticing + Shining a Light on Strengths: How Positive Attention Builds Cooperation
Circle In: The Family Leadership Center Podcast
Release Date: 04/28/2025
Circle In: The Family Leadership Center Podcast
Between the morning scramble and the bedtime battles, it’s easy for our homes to feel like a series of fires we’re constantly trying to put out. This week, Paige and Marjie break down five essential guidelines designed to shift your home from a place of friction to a place of partnership. Respect for self and others: We share how to balance essential self-care with empathy and establish boundaries to prevent burnout. Trust & confidentiality: Why "public" correction is the enemy of connection. Learn how to foster a safe environment where kids feel secure enough to solve...
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Parenting isn't a destination; it’s a voyage. In this episode, Marjie and Paige explore how to build a 'sturdy ship' for your family’s journey, swapping reactive parenting for a shared compass of dignity and mutual respect. Most of us set sail using either a "replica" of our own upbringing or a "reaction" against it. To build a truly flexible parenting vessel, we must move beyond our own anxieties and learn to respond to the actual needs of the situation. The 4 Pillars of a Sturdy Ship Reframe the Need: Shift from "How do I feel?" to "What does the situation need?" to help your family...
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Do you feel overwhelmed trying to sort through tons of parenting advice—from “gentle parenting” to warnings about "helicopter parenting"? You're not alone! This episode reveals our powerful, comprehensive framework that cuts through the noise and provides you with real-world solutions that solve problems while building the relationship with your child.. In this episode, they share the powerful principles that form the bedrock of everything we do at Family Leadership Center through our Circle In podcast, blog, classes and coaching. It's not just one magical trick. It’s a...
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Does Family Conflict Have You Feeling Drained? 🔋 We’ve all been there: a simple disagreement turns into a "shame spiral," leaving everyone feeling exhausted instead of heard. But what if those tricky moments were actually the secret to a more resilient home? In this week’s podcast, we learn how to flip the script on conflict. Instead of seeing family problems as roadblocks, we’re showing you how to treat them as "muscle-building" exercises for your heart and home. 💪 The Essentials: Building Your Problem-Solving Muscle Problem-solving in your home stems from courage and fostering a...
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Are you the sole family scheduler? Drowning in "Mom/Dad, what are we doing?" questions? You're not alone! Being the only one managing the schedule can lead to stress, chaos, and missed opportunities for connection. This week, we reveal the simple hack that transforms your family dynamic: the Family Calendar. 🗓️ When you talk about the schedule together and give everyone a voice, you don't just cut down on questions—you increase connection, teach responsibility, and boost cooperation. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why being the "Schedule Hero" actually hurts family teamwork. How to...
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With the holidays fast approaching, oftentimes family time shifts into high gear—and that means a perfect chance to connect! This week, we're giving you a simple, powerful tool called the Encouragement Question. It's built on a core idea: when kids (or even adults!) act out, it's often because they feel discouraged. While it’s a standard piece of your Family Meeting, it’s actually a superpower you can use anywhere. Encouragement Questions are simply practice for listening without commenting. Just focus on hearing their thoughts, not shaping them. 🧘♀️ Quick Tips for a Great...
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Short on time, feeling stretched thin? Wish you had a magic wand for more cooperation and connection at home? ✨ This week, we're diving into the two powerful anchors of a great family meeting: giving appreciations and planning family fun! These aren't just agenda items—they're simple, quick skills you can use anytime, anywhere, to transform your family dynamic. Learn how focusing on the good and carving out time to plan for fun together can be your secret weapon against the chaos. Don't just run the house—lead it with love and intentionality. You've got this! ❤️ In this episode,...
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Are you a busy, loving parent ready to transform your family dynamic? You've heard in episode how they are a powerful tool for connection, problem-solving, and building skills. Now, in this must-listen episode, we dive into the "what"—the essential, simple ingredients you need to get started. We break down the core components, offering practical, encouraging advice that makes starting this practice feel achievable, not overwhelming. Learn why consistency is more important than perfection, what a family meeting is not (spoiler: it's not a time to criticize!), and the simple practice that...
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Do you ever feel like you're too busy to deal with family problems? Or that when you do try to talk, everyone gets too upset? Welcome to the first episode of our new series, where we introduce the Circle In Family Meeting ToolKit. It's a simple, weekly 20-minute meeting that helps you solve problems, create connections, and plan fun activities with the people you love. We’ll share how this timeless method, backed by decades of practice, can help you and your family. Family meetings aren't about lecturing or criticism—they're about slowing down to build skills like respect and appreciation,...
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Do you ever feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of drama with your kids or even your partner? You're not alone! This week, Marjie and Paige sit down with , LCMFT, to talk about the Drama Triangle. Barbara breaks down three roles we often find ourselves playing— Perpetrator, Rescuer, and Victim—and helps us see why this pattern keeps repeating. Here's the good news: we don't have to stay stuck in the drama! When we look at the whole picture and stop blaming each other, it leaves space to build healthier relationships with yourself and with others. 💖 Tune in to discover how...
info_outlineIn today’s episode, we dive into the transformative power of focusing on the positive actions our kids take, rather than always highlighting what they get wrong. Parenting can often feel like an endless cycle of correction, but what happens when we start noticing and celebrating the good? From the small gestures of kindness to big moments of growth, we explore how highlighting what's right can improve your relationship with your children, boost their self-esteem, and foster a more supportive family environment.
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Hosts
Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center
Paige Trevor, Balancing Act
Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, Marike Pienaar, and Wendy Tracy
Resources
📋Learn more and get on the waitlist for our upcoming Family Meeting Challenge
🔍Check out Episode 009 for a refresher on Problem Identification
⁉️Want help to ID the problem and determine who owns it? Send an email to: questions@familyleadershipcenter.org
🍅🥕Blog: Paige’s Story about her Picky Eater
🐶More from Jenny Wallace about the Puppy Dog Principle
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