39. Swolly (aka: Swinging With "the Feels")
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Release Date: 05/04/2022
64. Femme Domme Part 2
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In this episode, Ams and Kat report back on their sexy homework with Femme Domme power play. A Femme Domme is a woman who takes the dominant role in a BDSM power play experience. A Dominatrix is "in charge" in the bedroom, but are we all just dressing the part and not actually taking control? But first, mix up this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Apple Pie Float, while Kat shares her Hot Tale: The Kats take a trip to Desire Riviera Maya in Mexico where they meet up with Mr. Kat's Doppleganger. Twi Mr. Kat's at once?!?! That's too sexy by half! Next, Ams and Kat report back on...
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63. Femme Domme (aka: I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it)
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In this episode, Ams and Kat take control in the bedroom by exploring domination, including an interview with professional Dominatrix, Queen Lo. A Dominatrix, or Femme Domme, a woman who takes the dominant role in a BDSM power play experience. A Dominatrix is "in charge" in the bedroom, but are we all just dressing the part and not actually taking control? But first, mix up this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Rosemary Grapefruit Fizz, while Ams shares her Hot Tale: during the Barbarella-themed house party, Ams slips away with six of her favorite guys for a seven-minute, Alien...
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62. Pornography Part 2
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How did the Wives do with their sexy pornography homework? Tune in to find out. But first, check out this episode’s Canna-cocktail, the Cherry Blossom Smash: a yummy combination or cherries and blood orange juice with just a dash of cannabis tincture. Sip on this delicious cocktail listening to this episode's Hot Tale: the Wives host a Barbarella-themed house party and they get up to no good, with flogging, blindfolded kissing, eight-handed massages, and more! Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework: who's ready for a week-long, porn-o-thon? The Wives were...
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61. Pornography (aka: I know it when I see it)
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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Pornography, focusing on ethical porn and feminist porn. Pornography is sexual content designed to arouse, and let's face it, pornography is everywhere. If you've written off pornography as not your thing, check out this episode for a fresh, feminist take on porn. But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why not try this Canna-cocktail, the the Lemon Blackberry Mule. Mix one up while listening to this episode’s hot tale: Ams gets the best birthday present from Mr. Ams, a year of...
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60. Tantric Sex Part 2
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How did the Wives do with their Tantric Sex homework? Tune in to find out. But first, check out this episode’s Canna-cocktail, the Orange Berry Tea with a new . Sip on this delicious cocktail while Kat shares her Hot Tale: a professional massage gets a BDSM vibe with cupping and scraping. Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework, inspired by Barbara Carrellas' book, Urban Tantra. Kat shares her tantra ritual with Mr. Kat, while Ams explored solo tantra, including a no-hands, . Finally, the Wives give their tips on exploring tantric practices. ...
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59. Tantric Sex (aka: She's Magik, Sex Magik)
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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Tantric Sex. Tantra is a complex and multifaceted spiritual and philosophical tradition that originated in ancient India. Tantric sex is the practice of using Tantric principles, such as mindfulness, breathwork and energy connection, to sexual experiences. But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Hot Buttered Cider. Mix one up while listening to this episode’s hot tale: Ams, Mr. Ams and their friends have a grown-up sleepover, complete with Seven Minutes in...
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58. Boudoir Part 2
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57. That's Hot
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Do you need to be "hot" to be successful in the lifestyle? In this episode, the Wives explore aesthetics and attraction in ENM relationships, including an interview with Coach April from Naughty Gym. This bonus episode was inspired by a number of listener questions that the Wives have received, where listeners have shared their concerns and insecurities about looks in the lifestyle. So, do you need to be hot? The answer is not simple. On the one hand, lifestyle dating is a lot like vanilla dating, and looks are a big part of attraction. So, yes, looks play into success...
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56. Boudoir Photography (aka: Click, click, boom!)
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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Boudoir Photography. Boudoir photography is a style of intimate photography that captures individuals in a tasteful and empowering way, often in lingerie or semi-clothed, celebrating their unique beauty and sensuality. Boudoir photography can be a powerful tool for promoting self-love, body positivity, and empowerment. It challenges beauty standards and encourages women to embrace their uniqueness. But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Pumpkin Spice (or, if you...
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55. Unicorn Threesomes Part 2
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How easy is it to line up a threesome as a unicorn? How about going to a sex club as a solo woman? How did Ams and Kat do on their sexy homework for Unicorn Threesomes? Tune in to find out. A Unicorn is a single woman in the lifestyle. She may enjoy meeting and playing with other couples (i.e. - a Unicorn Threesome) or she may engage in all sorts of social and sexual activities with other people in the lifestyle. Don't fence her in! Even though Kat and Ams are not single women, they are both curious to explore the dynamic of a Unicorn Threesome and wanted to...
info_outlineIf you and your partner enjoy recreational sex and emotional intimacy, you might be Swolly!
Swolly is a form of consensual non-monogamy where a couple is open to both polysexual and polyamorous relationships. Are you Swolly? Tune in to find out.
But first, mix up a Tennessee Peach, this episode's sweet and sophisticated cocktail while Ams fan girls over Bridgerton and shares her hot tale of a total mindfuck with a smart and sexy new partner. Next, the Wives explore the difference between swinging and polyamory, including this middle ground of Swolly.
Swolly is a person who identifies as both a swinger and a member of the polyamorous community in that they have multiple relationships simultaneously and also enjoy recreational sex. The term is a portmanteau of the words swinger and polyamorous. Ken Haslam of the Kinsey Institute originally coined the term Swolly.
Here are some key components to Swolly:
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The foundation is a marriage/committed couple. That relationship takes precedence over all other polysexual and polyamorous relationships
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The couple is open to polysexual relationship and may seek out casual sexual encounters or sex with "friends" that don't involve deep connections.
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The couple is also open to polyamorous relationships that involve both physical and emotional intimacy.
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The level of intimacy can vary between relationships (some relationships are purely polysexual, polysexual with friendship, or polyamorous).
Polysexual relationships are less complicated and involve less commitment. You have a responsibility to make sure your partner is well taken care of during a sexual encounter (consent, pleasure, aftercare, the basic “camp-fire rule”), but you don’t have responsibility toward that person outside of the sexual encounter. You might be friendly, you might be friends, that aspect might ebb and flow, but you don’t have a responsibility to build on anything outside of the bedroom.
In Polyamorous relationships, you agree to share emotional intimacy, which means that you are committing to be an emotional support for this partner. These relationships can be more meaningful and rewarding, but also a lot of work.
To get a sexpert’s opinion, the Wives interview Dr. Elisabeth "Eli", Sheff, expert witness, researcher, educator & relationship coach with expertise in polyamorous culture.
Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: The Wives and the Misters are going to explore more emotionally intimate relationships with some of their swinger friends, including solo dates and lots of talk about "feelings".
Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24402980-designer-relationships