97. People Pleasing with Michelle Gauthier

In this episode of the Bright Method Podcast, I’m joined by professional life coach Michelle Gauthier to explore a topic that deeply affects how we spend our time—people pleasing.

If you’ve ever said yes when you wanted to say no, or agreed to something before even thinking it through, this episode is for you. We break down:

• What people pleasing really is (hint: it’s not just being nice)

• How to recognize it, even when it’s subtle

• The emotional and physical cues that signal it’s happening

• Why so many high-achieving women fall into this trap

• Practical strategies to pause before saying yes and evaluate requests with intention

• Michelle’s “Love & Fit” test to help you assess whether a request is aligned with the life you want

• Specific phrases to use when you want to say no with kindness and confidence

• Tips for handling pushback when you do say no

• How to gamify the process and even calendar your “nos” so you can see how much time you’re reclaiming

Michelle and I share examples from our personal and professional lives, including the awkward conversations we’ve had to navigate and the mental load that comes with trying to control how others perceive us. If you’ve ever resented someone for asking you to do something—because you felt like you “had” to say yes—this episode will help you step back, get curious, and reclaim your time.

Michelle Gauthier is the host of the Overwhelmed Working Woman podcast and helps high-achieving women create calmer, more intentional lives through private coaching and group programs. She brings warmth, humor, and a down-to-earth approach to this powerful and all-too-relatable conversation.

Whether you’re looking to set stronger boundaries at work, say no to another PTA role, or just want to stop defaulting to yes, you’ll walk away from this episode with tools you can actually use—starting today.

Learn more about Michelle at www.michellegauthier.com, and listen to her podcast, Overwhelmed Working Woman, wherever you get your podcasts.

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