BONUS episode: Paul and Eli on the Dateable Podcast with Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu
Release Date: 04/07/2025
Love & Basketball (2000)
Love Factually
Why is it important to understand a loved-one’s identity? Which sorts of people are likely to hold grudges? Is having a “jacked-up” attitude worse if you’re a woman? Paul and Eli contemplate Love & Basketball, Gina Prince-Bythewood’s exploration of ambition, attachment, and gender at a time when the world sadly lacked the WNBA. For show notes, click . Hosted, produced, and edited by and . Music by Artwork by
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Deep Dive: Evolutionary Mythbusting
Love Factually
Eli and Paul dial up the controversy as they discuss Paul's upcoming book, . They pick apart two central concepts in evolutionary psychology: gender differences and mate value. Paul and Eli discuss how men and women don’t actually differ in what they want in a partner, where gender differences in the sex drive appear larger vs. smaller, and why mate value matters a lot less than you think. Plus: Can evolutionary psychologists - and their critics - find better ways of talking the practical implications of a biological discovery? your copy today, submit your receipt , and...
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A Star Is Born (2018)
Love Factually
Why is it so important to feel needed? Do men struggle when their partner outshines them? How can personal growth destabilize a relationship? Paul and Eli dive off the deep end into the rich and melodramatic spectacle of the 2018 iteration of “A Star Is Born,” featuring Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga. For show notes, click . Hosted, produced, and edited by and . Music by Artwork by
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My Best Friend's Wedding (1997)
Love Factually
What happens when a narcissist decides she wants something? Why is it complicated when your best friend is also your ex? Why is it so important to keep alternatives at bay? Paul and Eli revisit Julia Roberts’ unforgettable and unrivaled transformation into rom-com anti-hero in “My Best Friend’s Wedding.” For show notes, click . Hosted, produced, and edited by and . Music by Artwork by
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The Holiday (2006)
Love Factually
Can a change of scenery help people find a partner? What is the nature of unrequited love? How do people react to sexual overtures from strangers? Paul and Eli savor impeccable kitchens and exquisite real estate in The Holiday, Nancy Meyers’s 2006 starring vehicle for Kate Winslet, Cameron Diaz, Jude Law, and Jack Black. For show notes, click . Hosted, produced, and edited by and . Music by Artwork by
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Deep Dive: The Compatibility Puzzle
Love Factually
In this special episode, Eli interviews Paul about his upcoming book, . Part 1 of this series is devoted to complexities of romantic compatibility. They discuss how they began studying attraction in the first place, why online dating failed to live up to its potential, and why a relationship is what you make it. Plus: Why is it wise to have a few intimacy-inspiring questions in your back pocket? your copy today, submit your receipt , and receive a “book plate” that turns your book into a signed copy! Book plate gift with preorder: US Residents, 18+. Ends February 10, 2025. See terms at...
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It's a Wonderful Life (1946)
Love Factually
Does giving to others makes us happy? Why is expressing vulnerability so powerful? How can we feel grateful for what we already have? In collaboration with the campaign, Paul and Eli fire up Frank Capra’s immortal and inspiring It’s a Wonderful Life (1946), the generosity-filled holiday classic. With Giving Tuesday right around the corner, we hope you’ll consider donating to #PodsFightPoverty, in which your favorite social science podcasts (“The Happiness Lab,” “You Are Not So Smart,” “Hidden Brain,” and many others) join forces to lift three entire villages in Rwanda out of...
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Four Weddings and a Funeral (1994)
Love Factually
How do friend networks facilitate relationship formation? What happens to those networks when people fall in love? Are wedding guests just looking to hook up? Paul and Eli find answers lurking at both wedding altar and graveyard in the very British rom-com, Four Weddings and Funeral. For show notes, click . Hosted, produced, and edited by and . Music by Artwork by
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Bonus Episode: Beaches (1988) with Nina Badzin and Rebekah Jacobs
Love Factually
Do opposites attract? When is intimacy scary? Can offering forgiveness inadvertently escalate conflict? In this special crossover episode of the podcast, Paul and Eli chat with Nina Badzin and Rebekah Jacobs about Beaches, the Bette Midler musical showcase about lifelong friendships.
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Howl's Moving Castle (2004)
Love Factually
What happens when our self-esteem is tied to our looks? How can significant others make us feel confident? What is the nature of found families? Paul and Eli travel to the gorgeously trippy world of Howl’s Moving Castle (2004), Hayao Miyazaki’s anti-war fable about the power of love and hair dye. For show notes, click . Hosted, produced, and edited by and . Music by Artwork by
info_outlineIn this special crossover episode of the Dateable podcast, Paul and Eli chat with hosts Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu about how people should - and shouldn't - apply lessons from the movies to their dating lives.