How Does Wanting Make You Feel?
Release Date: 01/01/2025
Why Midlife Body Changes Are a Mindf*ck and a Masterpiece
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
What do you do when your reflection surprises you? When you catch a glimpse and think, Wait… when did that change? In this episode, Stacey shares an unfiltered reflection on aging, intimacy, hydration (yes, hydration), and her evolving relationship with the woman in the mirror. Tender. Honest. Very midlife. In this conversation: The difference between fixing and tending to yourself The soft grief and quiet joy of watching your body change Confidence that comes not from how you look, but how you stay This is not a "how to age gracefully" conversation. It’s a how to stay with...
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Sexual Autumn: Embracing Slow Sex and Deep Pleasure
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
This week on Love Is…, we’re exploring Sexual Autumn—a season that doesn’t get nearly enough celebration. Unlike the urgent heat of summer, autumn brings a slower, deeper sensuality. Touch becomes more intentional. Foreplay is a full-body conversation. Arousal builds in layers. It’s richer and more satisfying. Might even feel otherworldly. In this episode: How to honor your body when it takes longer to warm up Why spontaneity isn’t necessarily the gold standard for good sex What to do if you and your partner are in different seasons Why autumn can feel clarifying ...
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Sexual Summer: The Season of Desire That Sizzles
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
This week on Love Is..., we’re diving into Sexual Summer—the season of peak desire. If spring is awakening, summer is full bloom. It’s spontaneous. It’s primal. It’s the kind of hunger that lives in your skin and hums through your whole body. For women over 40, sexual summer might hit hardest in midlife, when pregnancy is no longer a worry, and pleasure becomes a top priority. In this episode, we explore: How sexual summer shows up in midlife (even if it skipped your twenties) What to do when your partner’s not in summer with you The difference between urgent desire and...
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Welcome to Sexual Spring
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
In this week's episode of Love Is..., we’re beginning a new four-part series called Sexual Seasons—because desire isn’t static. It changes with us. Especially in midlife, when everything from hormones to heartbreak can shift how we feel about sex, touch, and our own bodies. Today, we’re exploring Sexual Spring—that delicious season of reawakened desire. It’s the sudden tingles. The unexpected turn-on. The moment you catch your reflection and think, Oh hey... I remember her. 🌸 Whether you're single, partnered, post-breakup, post-baby, or just resurfacing after a long internal...
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Love That Calls You In
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
This is a little bonus minisode I had to share while the feeling was still fresh. It’s about the kind of love that doesn’t fix — it holds. The kind that doesn’t shame — it calls you in. The kind that doesn’t keep you company in the dark — it helps you find the switch. And if you’re ready to stop betraying yourself in the name of being nice, needed, or helpful… is that kind of calling in. That kind of love. Applications close tomorrow. . Links + Resrouces: - coaching for the woman who’s done abandoning herself.
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The Truth About Self-Abandonment
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
This week on Love Is…, we’re talking about self-abandonment. Not the hashtag version. The everyday, seemingly simple but often repeated moments where we override what’s true. In this episode, I’m dropping gems about : ✨ What self-abandonment looks like in real life ✨ The childhood roots of shrinking to be loved ✨ A relationship story I’ve never shared publicly ✨ And why healing starts with noticing If you’ve ever smiled when you wanted to cry, said yes when your body said no, or stayed quiet to keep the peace… this one’s for you. Mentioned in this episode: -...
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Why Is It so Hard to Receive?
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
In this week's episode of Love Is..., I’m unpacking something tender and true: the resistance we feel when someone offers us care, love, or support—and how it messes with our nervous systems. We’re exploring: Why “I’ll do it myself” can feel safer than softness. The hidden cost of always being the strong one. And why learning to receive is actually the most radical relationship shift you can make. I also share a story about a client who couldn’t orgasm with her partner because she couldn’t let go long enough to be fully present. This episode is a loving nudge to invite...
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When Your Inner Child Has the Wheel
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
Hey love, Ever catch yourself in the same argument? Or feel that familiar urge to shut down, chase, or fix—even when you know better? Your inner child might be behind the wheel. Again. In this week’s episode of Love Is, I’m breaking down how childhood survival strategies sneak into our adult relationships, why they’re so sticky, and how to start choosing differently—without blaming your past. Once you know who’s driving, you can gently take the keys back. Want to go deeper? I created a free workbook to help you connect with your adaptive child—the part of you that learned...
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10 Tips For Talking About Sex
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
No one teaches us how to talk about sex. That means we learn the hard way —by fumbling or mumbling —which is no bueno. That ends today. This week on the podcast, I’ve got 10 tips for making these conversations a little bit less uncomfortable. From timing it right (not while you’re getting busy) to the build-up (think Eiffel Tower—start at the base, not the tip). You’ll be talking pleasure, desire, and boundaries with confidence in no time! You can thank me later. Mentioned in Episode 25: - A structured guide for exploring desires and boundaries Got suggestions...
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3 Strategies for Navigating Their Silence
Love Is... Midlife relationships, intimacy, friendship, and personal growth—for women ready to love themselves and deepen connection with the people they love.
As a kid, silence in my house was heavy. Not the peaceful kind – the kind that sits on your chest and makes you hold your breath. That's probably why I followed my former husband from room to room trying to make him talk it out. Not my proudest moment, but hey, we're all learning here. In this week’s episode, I explain what happens when someone goes silent—they’re probably not rejecting you, by the way. I also share three strategies that will change how you handle the “silent treatment.” Plus, I’m dropping dimes about who should initiate reconnection after a shutdown. Psst… you...
info_outlineI've been thinking about our desires—not fleeting wishes but longings that remind us there's more to life than comfortable compromises.
In Episode 15, we illuminate how many of us are caught in the familiar tension between gratitude for what is and hunger for what could be.
There's wisdom in wanting; maybe it's time to stop apologizing for wanting more.
P.S. If this episode resonates, you might want to check out Sovereignty—doors open next month. Get on the waitlist.
Mentioned in Episode 15:
Sovereignty. Four phases... one transformative journey.
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