008: The Hidden Trap of Self-Reliance (And How It Affects Your Family)
Release Date: 03/26/2025
034: Why Emotional Presence Matters More Than You Think
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In this episode, Brett reflects on his spiritual journey, the meaning of the Kingdom of God, emotional growth as a husband, and his plans for the Men Before Marriage program and book. Brett shares how his understanding of the Kingdom of God has evolved, drawing inspiration from John Bevere’s recent post on the Messenger X app is that the Kingdom is the "rule of God." He shares his interpretation that it involves both the eternal destiny of believers and the Holy Spirit’s transformative work in and through us. Using the parable of the talents, Brett highlights how our actions on Earth...
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033: Are You Just Surviving—or Carrying the Kingdom for Your Family?
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In this episode, Brett shares a personal and spiritual update centered around seeking God wholeheartedly, living with kingdom authority, and the behind-the-scenes launch of his new program, Men Before Marriage. Brett opens by discussing his recent absence, explaining it was due to deep spiritual focus and development of a God-led vision. Drawing from Scripture and teachings by John Bevere, he emphasizes what it means to “go all in” with God—obedience, surrender, and walking in love and authority. He highlights the revelation that believers carry the Kingdom of God within them—not just...
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032: How God Took My Mess Up In Marriage and Gave Me a Mission
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In this episode, Brett shares a personal update on his journey of surrendering every area of his life—marriage, finances, leadership—to God as of January 2025. He reflects on past mistakes, especially in his marriage, and his renewed commitment to honoring God through obedience, submission, and intentional living. A major focus of the episode is the development of his new initiative, Men Before Marriage, a biblically-based program designed to prepare single, dating, and divorced men for godly leadership and legacy. Brett emphasizes the importance of building the program in unity with his...
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031: The Moment God Broke My Heart in Church—and What It Means for Your Son
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In this episode, Brett shares a deeply personal journey that began during a God’s movement in his heart during a church service. Witnessing a congregation full of worshiping young women but few young men, he was overcome with emotion and conviction—recognizing the void of godly male leadership during the formative, pre-marriage years. This moment led to the birth of a powerful new vision: "Men Before Marriage", a ministry aimed at preparing young men to root their identity in Christ, lead themselves well, and pursue spiritual maturity before pursuing a wife. Despite doubts stemming from...
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030: Complaining, Gossip, and the Power of Your Tongue: A Wake-Up Call for Parents
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In this episode, Brett shares a deeply personal journey of returning to God after years of spiritual distance. Speaking directly to fellow parents and believers, Brett highlights how God's Word continues to reshape his understanding of authority, obedience, and the power of words. One of the most eye-opening revelations he shares is from 1 Corinthians, where Paul writes that believers will one day judge angels. This truth underscores the high spiritual authority and identity we have in Christ—a truth often overlooked. Brett also dives into the sins of the Israelites as warned in 1...
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029: The Power Behind the Power – A Wake-Up Call for Christian Growth
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In this episode, Brett dives deep into a recent revelation sparked by listening to Pastor Ken Wilde and his references to Dr. Yonggi Cho’s influential book The Fourth Dimension. Brett shares how Cho’s teaching helped him reframe the personal development movement through a biblical lens, challenging the roots and spiritual sources behind affirmations, success, and healing. Cho pastored the largest church in the world and believed there are two spiritual “fourth dimensions”—one of God and one manipulated by Satan. Brett reflects on how many successes seen in the self-help world are...
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028: The Temple Tantrum: What Jesus’ Outburst Teaches Us About Emotional Control
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In this episode, Brett explores the deeper meaning of anger, physical stewardship, and daily devotion, especially in the context of parenting and kingdom living. He begins with a reflection on Jesus’ moment of righteous anger in the temple (John 2:13–16), highlighting the often-overlooked detail that Jesus braided a whip before taking action. Brett humorously imagines the scene and uses it to teach an important lesson: even in anger, Jesus was intentional and deliberate, modeling what it means to be “slow to anger.” Brett transitions into encouragement for consistent Bible reading,...
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027: From Striving to Abiding: What I Wish I Knew 25 Years Ago
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In this episode, Brett shares a deeply personal revelation about spiritual stagnation and what it means to truly grow in faith. Reflecting on his own journey of relying more on personal development than God’s Word, Brett unveils a Spirit-led 5-step process for moving from spiritual barrenness to kingdom fruitfulness. Rooted in Matthew 6:33 and inspired by the Parable of the Sower (Mark 4), he explains how many Christians today—himself included—have been caught in the thorns: distracted by the worries of life, chasing worldly success, and starving their spirit. Brett outlines a new model...
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026: Why Christian Parents Need to Stop Praying for Stuff—and Start Asking for This Instead
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In this episode, Brett encourages Christian parents to go “all in” on their faith by seeking the Kingdom of God with intentionality and depth. He reflects on his personal journey of learning to discern God’s voice versus his own thoughts and emphasizes the foundational role of Scripture in that process. Rather than relying solely on emotional impressions or external voices, Brett urges listeners to immerse themselves in God’s Word to allow true revelation to take root. A powerful moment of insight comes as Brett revisits Luke 11:9-13, a passage often associated with general prayer....
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025: Why I Chose the Bible Over the ‘Experts’ to Parent My Son
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In this episode, Brett opens up about his spiritual journey and recent commitment to go “all in” with God. After years of dabbling in personal development and holding back in his faith, Brett recounts a pivotal moment in November when he began immersing himself in sermons and fully surrendered his life—including his marriage, finances, and parenting—to God's guidance. He shares a vulnerable parenting struggle with his five-year-old son, who has been acting out and not listening. Brett reflects on his previous parenting style influenced by personal development teachings—offering...
info_outlineIn this episode, Brett shares how when he started listening to the Oceans Church Podcast, and through prayer, scripture, and surrender, his eyes were opened. He realized that true growth isn’t about striving—it’s about seeking first the kingdom of God (Matthew 6:33). This revelation led him to restructure everything he had been teaching, refining his framework into a biblical model that aligns with God's plan.\
Today's episode concludes with the final stage of his framework which began with Nature Nurturer, using God's creation to refresh our body, mind, and spirit. Balance Builder teaches us to surrender stress and emotions to God, knowing true balance comes when our health, wealth, relationships, and spirituality are in alignment with Him. Legacy Leaver shifts our focus from just an earthly life plan to an eternal one—living for God’s kingdom, not just personal success. And finally, Grounded Growth is about being firmly rooted in God, growing in His Word, and relying fully on Him rather than ourselves.
Key Takeaways from This Episode:
- Self-Help vs. God-Help – Self-improvement without God leads to self-reliance and frustration. True transformation happens when we fully trust in Him.
- The Power of Scripture – Asking for a love of God’s Word can open your eyes and heart in ways you never imagined.
- Seeking All That Jesus Died to Give Us – Salvation isn’t just about eternity; Jesus also offers us peace, wisdom, and the power of the Holy Spirit here and now.
- From Worry to Worship – Surrendering control to God removes fear, doubt, and stress, replacing them with faith, clarity, and purpose.
God has given Brett a second chance to share this message, and he prays it blesses you as it has transformed him. Let’s seek Him first—because when we do, everything else falls into place.
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My faith revival started with the Oceans Church podcast. I have never been to a church that has such powerful teaching in my life and has made a huge impact on me. If you aren't attending a local church I highly recommend you start listening to Pastor Mark Francey.
Messeenger X App - A great resource by Messenger International started by John and Lisa Bevere. You can watch videos and listen audio books for FREE to grow in your faith.