Why healing isn’t linear, especially for neurodivergent people
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Why healing isn’t linear, especially for neurodivergent people. Healing is often imagined as a straight line. Symptoms reduce. Function improves. Life moves forward. But nervous systems don’t work that way. They learn in loops. Progress often looks like improvement followed by regression. Especially when new layers of awareness emerge. For neurodivergent people, this can be confusing and demoralising. You understand yourself better. You accommodate more. And yet, new difficulties appear. This isn’t failure. It’s...
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Why predictability is calming, not boring
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Why predictability is calming, not boring. Predictability often gets a bad reputation. It’s associated with monotony. Stagnation. Lack of spontaneity. But for the nervous system, predictability is information. It answers the question, “What happens next?” When that question is answered reliably, the system relaxes. This is especially important for neurodivergent nervous systems, which often process uncertainty more intensely. Unpredictable schedules. Sudden changes. Ambiguous expectations. These don’t just annoy. They...
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Why masking works until it doesn’t
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Why masking works until it doesn’t. Masking is often misunderstood as deception. In reality, it’s translation. It’s the effort of reshaping internal experience into something the outside world can tolerate. For neurodivergent people, masking often begins early. Tone is adjusted. Reactions are filtered. Needs are minimised. This allows access to work, relationships, and safety. And for a long time, it works. The problem is that masking is metabolically expensive. It requires constant monitoring. Constant adjustment. Constant...
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Why rest doesn’t work when your nervous system doesn’t trust it
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Why rest doesn’t work when your nervous system doesn’t trust it. Many people say they’re resting, but they’re not restoring. They stop working. They lie down. They disengage. And yet, they don’t feel better. This is especially common for people with long histories of vigilance. Rest only restores when the nervous system believes it’s safe to rest. If the system is still scanning for threat, rest becomes another task. The body lies still. The mind keeps watch. This is why some people feel more anxious when they finally stop....
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Why regulation matters more than resilience
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Why regulation matters more than resilience. Resilience is one of the most overused words in modern psychology. It’s usually framed as the ability to push through. To adapt. To keep going. And for a while, that works. But resilience without regulation quietly drains people. It asks the nervous system to tolerate more and more without ever resetting. Regulation is different. Regulation is not about toughness. It’s about recovery. It’s the system’s ability to move out of activation and return to baseline. Without regulation,...
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Why being “high functioning” often delays getting help
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Why being “high functioning” often delays getting help High functioning is a dangerous compliment. It suggests competence without acknowledging cost. People who are described this way often delay seeking help because they don’t look unwell enough. They’re still working. Still parenting. Still producing. So they assume they should be coping. What gets missed is how much effort that coping requires. High functioning distress is often invisible. It shows up as exhaustion rather than collapse. Irritability rather than despair....
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The quiet grief of becoming functional again
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The quiet grief of becoming functional again Recovery is often portrayed as triumphant. Strength returning. Confidence rising. Life resuming. But there is another side that doesn’t get talked about much. Grief. When people start functioning again after collapse, illness, or burnout, they often notice what was lost. Time. Identity. Illusions about who they were or what they could sustain. Functioning again can bring clarity. And clarity can hurt. It shows you the cost of what you were doing before. It shows you the...
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Why safety feels boring to some nervous systems
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Why safety feels boring to some nervous systems This is a strange and uncomfortable truth. For some people, safety doesn’t feel good. It feels flat. Empty. Even unsettling. They relax for a moment and then feel restless, irritable, or low. This is often misinterpreted as self-sabotage. But what’s actually happening is habituation. If a nervous system has learned to operate in high stimulation, high alert, or emotional intensity, calm can feel unfamiliar. Without the constant buzz of activation, the system doesn’t know what to do....
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Why thinking about your feelings doesn’t always help
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Why thinking about your feelings doesn’t always help Modern psychology has taught people to reflect. To name emotions. To analyse patterns. To understand where reactions come from. This has been useful. But it has also created a quiet misunderstanding. That if you think about your feelings carefully enough, they will resolve. For many people, the opposite happens. They become more tangled. They think about their anxiety. Then think about why they’re anxious about being anxious. Then worry about why insight isn’t working. ...
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Why feeling “too much” is often a nervous system problem, not a personality flaw
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Why feeling “too much” is often a nervous system problem, not a personality flaw Many people describe themselves as feeling too much. Too sensitive. Too reactive. Too easily overwhelmed. They say it apologetically, as though they’re confessing to a defect. But intensity of feeling is not the same thing as excess. Very often, what people are describing isn’t emotional instability at all. It’s a nervous system that hasn’t learned how to downshift. When the system stays in a state of heightened readiness, every input arrives amplified....
info_outlineThe rough edges of self-understanding
Self-understanding is often portrayed as comforting.
But in reality, it can be unsettling.
Clarity removes excuses.
It exposes limits.
Sometimes people feel worse before they feel better.
Not because understanding is harmful.
But because it changes the ground you’re standing on.
The goal isn’t comfort.
It’s coherence.
And coherence often arrives with edges intact.
If clarity has brought discomfort, it doesn’t mean something has gone wrong.
It means you’re seeing more clearly.
It’s okay to feel unsettled while you find your footing.
Understanding doesn’t smooth everything.
It helps you live with what’s real.