My experience as a parent of an autistic child with Folashade Dan-Oketola
Release Date: 04/02/2025
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info_outline“If we don’t take breaks, we burn out. Accept help where you can.”
In this episode of Your Voice Matters, Asma Jacob speaks with Folashade Dan-Oketola, a parent, caregiver, and advocate for the neurodivergent and SEND (Special Educational Needs and Disabilities) community. Folashade shares her journey of parenting an autistic child, highlighting the importance of understanding neurodiversity and embracing flexibility in daily life.
Through her lived experience and advocacy, Folashade discusses the challenges and triumphs of raising a neurodivergent child. She offers practical insights on self-care, finding community support, and focusing on strengths rather than limitations. The conversation also explores her path to further education in Finland and how it has shaped her advocacy work.
Key Takeaways:
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Flexibility matters: Adapting to your child’s needs can make daily life smoother.
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Self-care is essential: Caregivers need to recharge to support their children effectively.
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Community support is life-changing: Finding your tribe helps reduce isolation.
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Acceptance is powerful: Embracing neurodiversity fosters confidence and well-being.
Trigger warning: This episode discusses caregiver burnout and the challenges of navigating stigma.
About Folashade:
Folashade Dan-Oketola is a licensed Early Childhood Caregiver and an advocate for Equity, Diversity, and Inclusion. Currently studying Social Services - Child Protection Services, she is passionate about educating the African community on neurodiversity through knowledge and lived experience.
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