Kindness Under Fire: How to Take the Perfect Nap
A Moment of Hope
by Marilynn Chadwick Religion has not always been kind to women. But women also seem bent on exhausting themselves. Today’s woman seems restless. I think St. Augustine could easily have been talking to us when he made this famous statement in his Confessions: “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you.” Religion may not have been easy on women. But Jesus has been supremely kind. That’s why I keep pointing out our enemy, the devil, as the real perpetrator of the war on women. Hurting women has been his game plan from the start. Jesus made a...
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Kindness Under Fire: A Leader with Heart
A Moment of Hope
by Marilynn Chadwick I’m one of those people that gets misty-eyed over our men and women in uniform. My dad is a World War II era submarine veteran. Our family tree is dotted with soldiers back to the Revolutionary War, when our ancestor, Captain Simon Hunt, was one of the 80 minutemen who led the charge against the British with the “shot heard round the world.” Soldiers fight for our freedom. They display courage and discipline. But for me, war is all about heart. A woman of valor is ready to fight the fight of faith and to fight for those she loves because she has heart. The...
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Kindness Under Fire: Teaching Kindness
A Moment of Hope
by Marilynn Chadwick Kindness actually makes people happier. Such were the findings of a Stanford University study. Subjects who did five kind actions each week were happier than those who did not. And those who performed five acts every day were the happiest of all. The study found that happiness is greater when the acts of kindness are directed toward those we know as opposed to strangers. I guess you could say kindness, like charity, begins at home. The Proverbs 31 woman of valor instructed others. I like the way the International Children’s Bible puts it: “She teaches others to be...
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Kindness Under Fire: Rest for Your Soul
A Moment of Hope
by Marilynn Chadwick The Proverbs 31:10 “woman of valor” is kind, and she teaches others to be kind. But we must also consider the kindness of God. Because until we get that one right, we’ll never walk in true freedom. Throughout history, we have seen how women (and all people, for that matter) have done terrible things to themselves and to each other when their view of God is off. We have a good role model in the woman of valor in Proverbs 31. Her wholehearted devotion to God was not from terror, but rather from a reverential awe that filled her with confidence. Such strong faith was...
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Kindness Under Fire: The Female Superhero—Not So Liberating
A Moment of Hope
by Marilynn Chadwick I will readily admit I love superhero movies. Today’s superhero movies have given us quite a rush of female superheroines splashed across our screen—a far cry from the helpless damsel in distress of years past. Perhaps these fit, strong females will provide our daughters with better role models and higher self-esteem? Better think again. Just when we suspected these hard-hitting heroines were saving us from our outdated images of women, this new breed of female superhero might be making things worse. A recent study shows that instead of giving women healthier views...
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Kindness Under Fire: Our Own Worst Enemies
A Moment of Hope
by Marilynn Chadwick You’d think women would have learned by now that sometimes we can be our own worst enemies. For example, the torturous custom of foot binding, which plagued China’s women for over a thousand years, was perpetuated by women. Originally a symbol of female wealth and refinement, foot binding eventually became a symbol of beauty. The smaller the foot—with a three-inch foot being the ideal—the better chance the woman had of getting married. In order to fit into the tiny lotus shoes, women had to literally suffer the breaking of bones in their feet, beginning when they...
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Kindness Under Fire: Showing Kindness to Ourselves
A Moment of Hope
by Marilynn Chadwick I still marvel when I think about how God gave women the added privilege of being life-givers and co-creators of the entire human race. Eve was the first woman. Her name literally means “mother of all the living” (Genesis 3:20). I love Eve’s response after giving birth to the first human ever born to a woman: “Look, I have created a new human, with the help of the Eternal” (Genesis 4:1 VOICE). Another translation puts it this way: “I produced a man” (Gen 4:1 TLV). We’re not only able to bear children, but also to nurture them. What’s more, we have the...
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Kindness Under Fire: She Teaches with Kindness
A Moment of Hope
by Marilynn Chadwick A woman of valor who can find?...The teaching of kindness is on her tongue (Proverbs 31:10,26 JPS). Disney got it right. The scariest villains are often women. Think about it. Cinderella’s wicked stepmother overworked the poor girl and locked her in an attic before she was finally rescued by her handsome prince. The evil Maleficent cast her jealous spell on Sleeping Beauty. Snow White battled a wicked queen who was envious of her beauty. And don’t forget Cruella De Vil [cruel devil] who kidnapped an entire litter of Dalmatian puppies, intending to use their fur to make...
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A Missing in Action Word for Christians: Living Out Kindness
A Moment of Hope
by David Chadwick Kindness. It is a word that our modern society seems to undervalue and it is a “missing in action” concept in the Christian world. This week, my exhortation has been to reclaim kindness. We have talked about remembering how important kindness is, we have talked about how to reclaim it, how to increase a life of kindness and show it to others. Today, I want to call all of us to action to live out kindness from this moment forward. Kindness does not come naturally. It has to be remembered, reclaimed, increased, demonstrated to all, and lived out every day. Unfortunately, in...
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A Missing in Action Word for Christians: Kindness Toward All
A Moment of Hope
by David Chadwick Do you know what I think gives the best illustration of kindness in the entire Bible? The story of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10. It is one of my favorite accounts in all of Scripture. Let’s look at it together. If you know biblical history, you know that the Samaritans were derided by the Jews in Jesus’s day. They were absolutely hated. Despised even. They were considered the half-breeds of society. When the Jews were in captivity in Babylon, many Jews married Gentiles who had been imported into the land. These unions produced the Samaritans, called such because of where...
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Personal offense. The inability to forgive someone who has hurt you. This hangup can keep people in shackles for a lifetime!
The first step in breaking free from personal offense is to recognize that it is going to happen in life. We live in a broken world with broken people. Inevitably, we will step on each other’s toes. Only when we truly come to grips with the reality that we owe a billion dollar debt because of our sins can we freely forgive the debt of someone who has hurt us.
To escape the prison of bitterness is the ultimate prison break. Bitterness not only defiles you, but those around you. It contaminates relationships and robs you of purity. See Hebrews 12:16, which says, “It’s ultimately for YOUR benefit to forgive!
So how does this look? What steps need to be taken to forgive?
You may need to practice forgiveness over and over again toward the person or persons who have hurt or betrayed you. Usually, forgiveness is not a one time practice. Can you understand more why Jesus taught Peter to forgive 70 times 7? It is because it often takes a repetitive, daily outpouring of God’s grace on you toward the person who has hurt you.
Take a moment. Picture your offender or the offensive situation. I know this can be really painful, but pause for a moment and try. Now, picture Jesus. The nails through his hands. The crown of thorns on his head. The mockery toward him. The pain he endured. Now take the grace that he showed you and imagine pouring it out on your offender. Over time, bitterness will become weaker and eventually abate!
Finally, remind yourself that Jesus forgave his offenders from the cross (Luke 23:34). While he was dying for our sins, preparing to take his last breath, he chose to forgive those who had placed him on the cross.
Yes, it’s very hard to forgive those who have hurt us, but it is possible through the power of the Holy Spirit. You can’t do it in your own strength, which is what makes it all the more powerful. We must allow Jesus to forgive through us! The One who forgave his offenders now resides in those of us who believe. Let his supernatural, forgiving power flow through you! Walk in freedom, no longer chained by bitterness. Live as Jesus has called you to live!
And finally be set free. After all, forgiveness is primarily for your benefit!